Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 26 May 2022 - Page 10

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Yup these things are common

Yes agar mayke wale financial strong hai to daughter in law ko mayke ka support hai to sasural. Wale aise karne ki himmat nahi ksr paate

Main bhi kudu iss conversation mein...

Originally posted by: QueeN456

Main bhi kudu iss conversation mein...

Of course ....why are you even asking...give your opinion dear...🤗

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

acts of service can be found everywhere. i dont see any issue with anupamaa doing these things for her man. they are in the stage right now where precedents will be set. maybe she’s good at laundry and he’s good at mowing the lawn - as long as no one is forced to do something or made to feel like if they dont do it they are failing as a spouse, i dont see what the issue is.

Ali❤️

Thats what i was trying to say that if anupama likes keeping the shirt ready for him then let her do that and instead Anuj can do something else for her like cooking or anything he likes..come on divide the work according to your preference na

Don't make everything look like a crime against women 😒

I feel aaj kul isliye jyaada dekhne ko nahi milta ( aisa nahi ki un husband ka mindset change ho gaya hai) but आजकल aisa हो gaya ki aaj kul wife divorce ke liye तुरंत apply karti hai अगर husband aisa khuch karte

Mindset badlna nahi but aaj kal ki wife ne tolerate karna band kar diya

Aaj shaadi hoti psta chala ki after 1year they got divorce pehle jaise nahi raha ki ek. Baar shaadi ho gayi to husband jaisa bhi hai nibhana hoga

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

it means whatever the couple wants it too. if anupmaa is doing this to express her care towards him, cool. she expresses her love for ppl by mothering them. if anuj is expecting her to do this every morning as duty, not cool.

But just one question: does she do it because she likes or because she is conditioned to believe and think that this is the way to win hearts or show love? I would think latter…or not? Happy to hear comments on this.

Originally posted by: ektag06

I agree with this partly. If she likes to do it, then it’s cool. Out of choice. But if he forces her or “expects” her to do it, not so cool.

But just one question: does she do it because she likes or because she is conditioned to believe and think that this is the way to win hearts or show love? I would think latter…or not? Happy to hear comments on this.

She is conditioned. In her own words she saw people around her doing those things to express love and care for husband and children. That's why she desperately runs back to that same toxic house every time they are in a mess.

Leela is a narcissist. For her, her own happiness is greater than anyone even her son's. That's why she still expects Anupama to come running as her son's home is getting ruined. Where was this thought when her son was about to give divorce? At that time she was okay with him as it is her son and now my Scarlet Witch is doing so she feeling a mirchi under her skin..

Originally posted by: Koms9

Even my chinese friend mentioned to me once how his dad doesn't even take water on his own. He calls his mom or his son to give him water to drink. I was surprised to hear even chinese have such culture.

These are such weird things and most of the places these are not out of affection, its like wives are bound to do coz wo ghar me laayo hi isi maksad se gyi h.

Haan I like the thought wearing your wives and husbands choices sometimes not always just as a gesture and good memories, making them feel special but always seems to be a slave or baby sit to both the man and woman..

Saurabhi it is always not about the money mayeka consist and then she will be happy in sasural. Relationship works from heart only otherwise they are just duty and at time passing by become burden thats it.

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

it means whatever the couple wants it too. if anupmaa is doing this to express her care towards him, cool. she expresses her love for ppl by mothering them. if anuj is expecting her to do this every morning as duty, not cool.

And if Anupama doing out of affection and is becoming conditioned to Anuj is also not cool.

Originally posted by: ektag06

I agree with this partly. If she likes to do it, then it’s cool. Out of choice. But if he forces her or “expects” her to do it, not so cool.

But just one question: does she do it because she likes or because she is conditioned to believe and think that this is the way to win hearts or show love? I would think latter…or not? Happy to hear comments on this.

specific to anupamaa, how she behaves as a “functioning member of society” is imo 100% based on her upbringing and the tools her parents equipped her with to survive in their community. i think all of us operate in this way until something stops working and we question whether what our parents taught us is still relevant in 2022. ive always said that her self worth is tied to what she can offer in a domestic setting. for some people it’s money, others it’s sex and others it’s something more balanced. so to answer your question, i think everything she does is based on her being conditioned from a very young age that xyz will bring you happiness/value whatever. but you raise a good question, what does she like that is individual to her and her alone? 🤔