ITV wil never choose for change in its cringiness, does it?

I know I know I may or obvisouly get bashed for this but i couldnt hold myself expressing the views on one scene here..apologies in advance!

The vachan scene with the leg ritual, it was Only and only Akshara who was taking Abhi and Family together, she in her everyline was family ki khushi faily ka pyar, "acchi bahu"! Abhimanyu never considered taking akshu's family, her parivar or being a good damad to them in his side of vachans. Its always the girl who have to consider the new parivar!

When they are showing all types "forwardness" by those dialogues pre wedding, I did not actually exoect such a sequence!

This is the same Abhi who called Akshu’s bade papa his own bade papa the very day they confessed. It’s the same Abhi who forgave Aarohi and let her come to wedding despite her having nearly murdered his mom. It’s the same Abhi who is loved so deeply by each and every single one of the Goenkas. There has never been a single doubt that he has made Akshu’s family his own. And that too, which so much joy and pureness, that his own family taunts him and gets insecure of his support for the Goenkas. Just because he didn’t mention them in his vachans doesn’t mean that he doesn’t consider them his own.

This is the same man who told Akshu to put sindoor on him so that they could truly be equals. He was ready to walk behind her in all of the pheras happily. Abhi has a lot of faults, but his love for Akshu and her family cannot be questioned according to me.

That entire vachan scene was to show their difference in perspectives and foreshadow how they will each learn from each other and grow. It’s not that Abhi doesn’t value family. But for him, it’s always been about Akshu. Akshu has been above his own family too, leaving aside Manjari. And for Akshu, it has always been about Abhi first, but also taking both families with them. In each vow, while Abhi focused only on Akshu, Akshu first vowed her love to him, and then mentioned the families too. Abhi will protect her and help her understand that its okay for her to put herself and their relationship first even when she feels pressure to fix everyone else. He knows she is incomplete without her family, so he will protect and cherish them too. Just as much as she will cherish the Birlas. And, Akshu will love him with her whole heart, and also teach him the importance of family by healing the Birla family and his broken relationships. His family is an extension of him, just like she is an extension of her family. I thought it was quite beautiful because it captured the essence of Abhira as individuals, but also a couple.

As for what is to come after shaadi, of course it will be the classic trope of the bahu struggling and fixing all of her sasuraal's problems, because that is what TRP aunties want to see. I have low hopes of that ever changing in the near future. But, Abhi, as he has been shown up until now, is a breath of fresh air compared to the majority of the other MLs on TV right now. Not saying he doesn't have his faults, but he has elevated the standard.

And itv is not the standard for our rituals .

Kanyadan is always done by a married couple.

Vachans are from. Boy to the girl and girl to the boy. Families never feature in it..if they mention family, it's the family which boy and the girl will start, with their children..anyone can Google it to know better.

I am not surprised akshu dragged the familes in the vachan. That's her core being.

Plus, It's not like only if the girl or the boy give vachan to each other they will fulfill all their responsibilities towards each other. It's basic sense. In the history of yrkkh, all the sils have been more than a son to their in laws . Why would abhimanyu be different , promise or no promise ?

Pl allow me to address this issue a little deeply. @tm this is not about ur post but in general.

Why do we question our rituals this much ? They have a deeper meaning , we may not be aware of it....Yes people don't follow them in entirety but that doesn't mean the rituals are bad. Recently there was this video where the girl filled the boys maang and asked his parents to do "launda daan" . She said launda is crass so I will call it kunwar Daan. She was trolled badly ..for not doing all this but for her twisted ideas of gender equality . They asked her if her husband will carry the baby for 9 months. It's a very recent incident just before Ranbir alia marriage .

A girl leaves her house and she gets a new set of family and parents . If someone doesn't wanna do it, don't do it. Set a trend . What exactly do we want ? A boy should leave his parents and settle with the girls family? Like how is it diff from what it is except gender reversal? Let's look beyond our personal bitter experiences and analyze this rationally. We can be the change but do it progressively. If the boy and girl exchange places where is the change ? In today's world everyone has more freedom than before ..use it responsibly .

Let's teach our boys to respect girls . Let's empower them to take their own decisions . Let's not burden them with our responsibilities .

I know a lot of girls have this complaint that after marriage she is not expected to prioritize her in laws, they say rishta with maayka is not the same blah blah blue blue . Everybody's story is different. However in yrkkh, all the girls have prioritized their maayka equally and her husband have always supported them . Kartik didn't help in his sister's marriage but went to singhania house to help them as naitik was alone . Yrkkh has always been progressive be it akshara or naira , akshara again ..infact this akshara has regressed a bit but abhimanyu I am sure , will be a good sil

Originally posted by: _charu_

Pl allow me to address this issue a little deeply. @tm this is not about ur post but in general.

Why do we question our rituals this much ? They have a deeper meaning , we may not be aware of it....Yes people don't follow them in entirety but that doesn't mean the rituals are bad. Recently there was this video where the girl filled the boys maang and asked his parents to do "launda daan" . She said launda is crass so I will call it kunwar Daan. She was trolled badly ..for not doing all this but for her twisted ideas of gender equality . They asked her if her husband will carry the baby for 9 months. It's a very recent incident just before Ranbir alia marriage .

A girl leaves her house and she gets a new set of family and parents . If someone doesn't wanna do it, don't do it. Set a trend . What exactly do we want ? A boy should leave his parents and settle with the girls family? Like how is it diff from what it is except gender reversal? Let's look beyond our personal bitter experiences and analyze this rationally. We can be the change but do it progressively. If the boy and girl exchange places where is the change ? In today's world everyone has more freedom than before ..use it responsibly .

Let's teach our boys to respect girls . Let's empower them to take their own decisions . Let's not burden them with our responsibilities .

I know a lot of girls have this complaint that after marriage she is not expected to prioritize her in laws, they say rishta with maayka is not the same blah blah blue blue . Everybody's story is different. However in yrkkh, all the girls have prioritized their maayka equally and her husband have always supported them . Kartik didn't help in his sister's marriage but went to singhania house to help them as naitik was alone . Yrkkh has always been progressive be it akshara or naira , akshara again ..infact this akshara has regressed a bit but abhimanyu I am sure , will be a good sil

Very well said! 👏

Abhimaniyu Birla's actions speak volume than his words...

He does not have to be vocal to do things for her family...

He was, is and will be always there when her family needs him...

He already made her family his pre marriage..it's now Akshara's turn to make his family hers..

By fulfilling promises to her, he is automatically fulfilling her all promises ❤️😳