Why does Akshu not deserve Abhi's love? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Haal-e-Dil

Akshu is kind of person who has to be coerced to do something.

Arohi forced her to reject abhi, hide her mbbs test thing and have a life threatening accident

Abhi forced her to confess her love.

I see that forum folks talk a lot about how she saved her abhi from burning building and all that. What's the point of saving the body when you hurt the soul constantly. Even now she don't get the gravity of hurting manjari or how arohi is a psychopath. When abhi in future put an ultimatum forum folks will blame him too. It's high time she cuts the cord. She isn't arohis mom and let elders handle that. She's also young.

@ Bold: Exactly!! Spot on!

Thanks for saying it as it is.

Akshara has also become a psychopath along with her "jaan" aroo - she doesn't bat an eyelid for Manjari's condition which was caused by her dear sister. Doesn't care one bit because, after all, aroo's career is more important than someone's life. There's no justification for this kind of insane behaviour unless she's actually insane. No amount of abuse sob story can excuse her actions and behaviour.

She doesn't care how much hurt she's causing Abhimanyu and even his family, by being unwilling to even have her so called sister not attend the wedding. Worse, she doesn't even understand the cause of his anger, which is completely justified. The accident site confrontation made her look pathetic for repeatedly justifying "her aroo who was beemar" (LOL) when Abhimanyu was angry and wanted to legally punish Arohi (which he should actually for what they've done).

Manish clearly told her that Abhi could've lost his mother entirely, whereas she's not even able to part with sister for 2-3 days of the wedding. It's distasteful to have someone so apathetic and flippant about another person's feelings, even after everyone around pointing out the obvious.

Even acquaintances and most strangers to Abhimanyu will understand the extent of seriousness of the situation here - he doesn't want the person who almost killed his mom to attend his wedding. Having been blamed all her life by Arohi and having stayed mute accepting all the taunts, Akshara should know the gravity of the situation when someone's mom is involved in an accident.

The abuse should have instantly made her realize the extent of aroo's crime, at least in this situation.

Ulta, instead of understanding the situation right away, she is so insensitive and trashes him and his feelings, despite him not sending her and her sister to jail. She just claims to love Abhimanyu, with empty words that mean nothing, but cannot even be truthful to herself when her sister was involved in a crime.

She isn't ready for marriage yet, and certainly doesn't deserve anyone loving her so much and compromising everything for her, at least for now. Marriage should be adjustments and compromises from both sides - not one person simply using the other continuously. She now has a habit of taking Abhimanyu for granted every single time, whatever happens, which is so disgraceful.

Also, just flip the situation and assume Abhimanyu and his brother have hit her bade papa or aroo, and almost killed them. She'll 100% break up with him and certainly cancel the wedding. Abhimanyu should have done just that. Him going after her, after all the nonsense she's been saying and doing, is enabling her crazy behaviour where she's getting more and more insane every day lol.

Before going to the park, she even went to assure aroo that she loves her and her importance hasn't reduced. And this was after saying that she'll go to Abhimanyu. Of what use is going to Abhimanyu if she can't be truthful with him and still wants to stick to criminal aroo, despite Abhimanyu freeing her from the abuse? Even god helps only those who help themselves. She is just not worth the time and effort with the way she's been behaving. 🤢

Thank you pooja for this beautiful post and bringing out the facts which everyone forget easily and points our mistakes in everything 'akshra do.

Two people love each other, they may potray love in different ways do not mean ones love is higher or other love is less. They both have had different childhood grew up in different enviornment , differnt mindset. Both were subjet to abuses, manipulations however the difference was one took it to become strong mentally the other one took it to become selfless.

There is something called self worth which is majorly lacking in askhara due to constant taunts even though it was for fun but things which are done with kids in fun can also have major impact unintentionally. First introduction of teenage akshra was shown as common girl and baby doll arohi as princess, the conditioning started from that day only. The numeours compromises be it handing over of projet or take arohi lead or step mother making her do undue promises which was also in alone and not in front of family. Then comes the death scene you are dying at that moment also instead of making your daughter to understand worth of her sister you are making your step daughter promise you to take care of brat who already hates her. A teenage child who has not even to come to terms with the fact that the lady she had considered her mother is not her real mother, no family member to guide or to tell , sister who hates her but she still need to take care of her due to the promise forced to made and the she has been abused contactly mocked bcoz she is not a doctor or professional. She leaver her house and family let it go what else is she expected to feel unwanted to the core. It still takes a heart and guts to still stand with this family who literally has done nothing for you but shamelessly expect you to make all kind of sacrifises be it Kairav, Manish , AG or MIMI (as per promo).

Then comes a guy in her life who falls in love with her instantly and so does she but then confursion comes over, out of two people one is his sister who claims that guys loves her and other side is the guy who has not openly expressed her feelings she is tend to accept that her sister is right. Later when she wants to express her feelings she is emotionally blackmailed by brat again saying I will die and bla bla, what else a guilt ridden, emotionally weak , manipulated and blackmailed girl is expected to do. Arohi also mocked her by saying how can a doctor fall in love with a girl like her and family was standing like mute spectators. she had no one to guide her on right or wrong and she kept taking decision basis on the guilt and promises made.

Inspite of all this she never left a change to stood by abhi when he was in any kind of problem be it small or be is large. Abhi also sacrifised his love for manjari like akshra did for arohi coz when it comes drto the life and death of someone you love you dont think anything beyond them which is pretty natural.

Akshu did same with abhi when it was about anything related to him rather on wedding day out of arohi vs abhi she chose abhi not arohi, in mandir also after so much of accusation and scolding , insults and what not she still chose abhi and stood her ground with him. Once she accepted she clearly told manish that she is not sorry to accepting her love but for telling late. at home also arohi tried to manipulate her by saying can she leave her love for family but she did not budge.

This accident track was streched too far off and the day before you had fight with your person and he has refused to believe you and called you liar then you will automatically go for your second priority to save your sister as that is what she has been taught to do by her step mother or for that name sake family for that matter. She did not give up on any of manipulations conditions, threats, her health when she had to tell it to abhimanyou when she knew he was with her. The moment she realized abhi is not with her she goes on this as you said autopiolet mode , there is remembered how hard arohi worked for career and bla bla and her sense of seeing right and wrong just goes aways.

Abhi is akshara's strength who make her understand her worth and then comes a moment where abhi is not around her , she thinks she lost him and she forgets everything again about her own self. I still agree with the fact that she was wrong in expecting abhi to forgive arohi after her criminal acts that was a way too much of expectation bu then again as manish says she cannot keep right and wrong seprate from her relation and this will be her major learning from this track where she will realize how she needs to prioratize relations with right and wrong.

PS I still beleive arohi needs to be punished and abhi should not have forgiven her and akshra should have supported him in that instead of asking for forgiveness for arohi as it shows morally wrong on part of abhira to let go of criminal scott free whatever could be the reasons.

Abhi and akshra love each other alot even more than themselves just their ways are different, if abhi has insecurites akshra as problem in relaization of self worth and this is where they come together to each other and make them sovle their issues and complete each other. For akshra to take a leap of faith against arohi is big big thing and this one step will carve her ways for more bigger steps ahead. She took time in deciding this and later she may not even take seconds to give her decision, she is growing but it is a small process.

HC and PR in one of their interview stated this also ke sudharna hi to journey hai galtiya karenge bhi or seekenge bhi and thats what S3 of YRKKH is all about.

Sorry pooja I saw this post late and hence replying late.

Pooja thx for the tag.

The makers have purposely muted a character who is already quiet and deep - they showed Abhi discussing his insecurities with his brothers but there are no scenes of Ak doing the same. Why?
They could hv shown Ak privately apologize to Manjari. But they haven’t done so. Why?

They could have given her some introspective dialogues that are strong - like the one she said during Ruby track “ pyaar mein barbaadh hone ko thaiyyar hu” type - she has none. Why?

The monologues she is given make her sound insensitive and nonchalant about the drug issue and accident.
I know the cheating in the game is a sore subject but it hurt Akshara’s character and questions her ability to comprehend Abhi’s concerns.
Her inability to choose when Abhi clearly has been most generous with his forgiveness has hurt her character.

I blame the writers for this. Then have been steadily doing this on purpose.

So fans who love Ak, but hate what’s been done to her character get frustrated and upset and question her courage, her commitment everything via posts and tweets. Because they cannot relate to this version of Ak. But the writers are doing this on purpose.

I suggest Ak kidnap Abhi in her phatphati and gag him so he cannot talk. And proceed to tell him all the points you have raised one by one and show him who has shown most courage and picked him all the time. Finally she should tell him in spite of choosing him he called her a liar and ask him how fair that was. If she shows tashan he becomes meow.

If they reveal the actual culprits of the accident, and all Ar-Ak hit hard was a fire hydrant then we will all look foolish arguing about all this.

But the message about driving under influence and the responsibilities of driver/passenger after an accident has occurred will be a social message for everyone.

Let’s just grind our teeth and make it through the next couple of weeks and hopefully the writers will wrap this mess up.

Sorry if I sounded like Anu aunty. Also - I only accept bouquets no brickbats - I’m tired of this track so please go easy on me!

Originally posted by: tptwi

I would love such a scene!!!

Originally posted by: tptwi

I, too, hope that the makers don't brush this under the rug!

Originally posted by: pbv3434

I have feeling it will not be shown as they have already left for Jaipur wahan to kahan se letter pochenga..😐

Originally posted by: NikhatNur

I thnk akshu dservs better dan abhi......it is so sad akshu is caught b/w d devil & d deep blue sea......actually 2 devils........

I wait 4 d day ITV shos.....a cuple who luvs & respect each oder......without....shwng contrllng, possessive & angr as luv.......& 4 shwng it as wat it really is....abuse....

Tho....I am hppy dey sho, aaru-akshu rltnshp as toxic....insted of....glazng it over as luv like abh-akshu rltnshp.....

Originally posted by: Haal-e-Dil

Akshu is kind of person who has to be coerced to do something.

Arohi forced her to reject abhi, hide her mbbs test thing and have a life threatening accident

Abhi forced her to confess her love.

I see that forum folks talk a lot about how she saved her abhi from burning building and all that. What's the point of saving the body when you hurt the soul constantly. Even now she don't get the gravity of hurting manjari or how arohi is a psychopath. When abhi in future put an ultimatum forum folks will blame him too. It's high time she cuts the cord. She isn't arohis mom and let elders handle that. She's also young.

Yes, Abhi pushed her to confess. And yet again, you have chosen 1 example where she was pushed and ignored all the other ones where she acted willingly, showing the extent of her love and strength for supporting him despite the manipulations of Aarohi and the traumas of her past. It’s not easy for her to go against her family at all, and yet, she left Aarohi stranded on the mandap and faced her family, declaring her love for Abhi. I don’t think people realize how big of a deal that was for her. And since that day, she hasn’t looked back. Just like she never looked back once she fell in love with him.

Originally posted by: HahaHeheHuhu9

@ Bold: Exactly!! Spot on!

Thanks for saying it as it is.

Akshara has also become a psychopath along with her "jaan" aroo - she doesn't bat an eyelid for Manjari's condition which was caused by her dear sister. Doesn't care one bit because, after all, aroo's career is more important than someone's life. There's no justification for this kind of insane behaviour unless she's actually insane. No amount of abuse sob story can excuse her actions and behaviour.

She doesn't care how much hurt she's causing Abhimanyu and even his family, by being unwilling to even have her so called sister not attend the wedding. Worse, she doesn't even understand the cause of his anger, which is completely justified. The accident site confrontation made her look pathetic for repeatedly justifying "her aroo who was beemar" (LOL) when Abhimanyu was angry and wanted to legally punish Arohi (which he should actually for what they've done).

Manish clearly told her that Abhi could've lost his mother entirely, whereas she's not even able to part with sister for 2-3 days of the wedding. It's distasteful to have someone so apathetic and flippant about another person's feelings, even after everyone around pointing out the obvious.

Even acquaintances and most strangers to Abhimanyu will understand the extent of seriousness of the situation here - he doesn't want the person who almost killed his mom to attend his wedding. Having been blamed all her life by Arohi and having stayed mute accepting all the taunts, Akshara should know the gravity of the situation when someone's mom is involved in an accident.

The abuse should have instantly made her realize the extent of aroo's crime, at least in this situation.

Ulta, instead of understanding the situation right away, she is so insensitive and trashes him and his feelings, despite him not sending her and her sister to jail. She just claims to love Abhimanyu, with empty words that mean nothing, but cannot even be truthful to herself when her sister was involved in a crime.

She isn't ready for marriage yet, and certainly doesn't deserve anyone loving her so much and compromising everything for her, at least for now. Marriage should be adjustments and compromises from both sides - not one person simply using the other continuously. She now has a habit of taking Abhimanyu for granted every single time, whatever happens, which is so disgraceful.

Also, just flip the situation and assume Abhimanyu and his brother have hit her bade papa or aroo, and almost killed them. She'll 100% break up with him and certainly cancel the wedding. Abhimanyu should have done just that. Him going after her, after all the nonsense she's been saying and doing, is enabling her crazy behaviour where she's getting more and more insane every day lol.

Before going to the park, she even went to assure aroo that she loves her and her importance hasn't reduced. And this was after saying that she'll go to Abhimanyu. Of what use is going to Abhimanyu if she can't be truthful with him and still wants to stick to criminal aroo, despite Abhimanyu freeing her from the abuse? Even god helps only those who help themselves. She is just not worth the time and effort with the way she's been behaving. 🤢

Originally posted by: tptwi

Saving Abhi from the fire is just one example out of many where his body has been saved. What about all of the examples where she protected his soul? Abhira have both hurt each other due to their past traumas, and yet, Akshu is the one mainly getting bashed left and right. As for Akshu being forced by Aarohi, where did I deny that? She is a girl who has never stood up for herself, been blackmailed her entire life, been manipulated, and had no support to get out of that. She is the victim of abuse and neglect. She herself admitted she is slow and it will take time. Her character development has been slow, but it has been huge since the show began.

Yes, Abhi pushed her to confess. And yet again, you have chosen 1 example where she was pushed and ignored all the other ones where she acted willingly, showing the extent of her love and strength for supporting him despite the manipulations of Aarohi and the traumas of her past. It’s not easy for her to go against her family at all, and yet, she left Aarohi stranded on the mandap and faced her family, declaring her love for Abhi. I don’t think people realize how big of a deal that was for her. And since that day, she hasn’t looked back. Just like she never looked back once she fell in love with him.

Not really wanted to write essay on who did who. Two examples and countless one showed how she has to be pushed to her limits, coerced to act in a right way. Abhi was accused on molestation so she acted. Abhi was dying in fire she acted. Abhi threatened suicide so she acted. Abhi was taken to jail hence she went against Manish. Kabhi to khud se feelings lao. For aro she don't need these triggers. Aro will open her mouth and she will fall on her feet. She can cry just cause aro isn't supposed to be part of wedding rituals, are you kidding me? Their relationship atlst from akshu side don't even feel normal- not in an abuser abusive type. Something else.

Are you regular in this forum? If not please do go through last 100 pages and if you are free, let's make a chart on who was bashed most. The forums ladli is arohi, the normal relatable character. Abhi is the demon abusive jerk. In this very post you can get many replies with the tone of akshu deserve better. Lmao sure. Someone said akshara is ruining og akshara ka name. If there was a guy like naitik she would have cried buckets by now. Abhi /makers in typical itv style letting two sis go off the hook.

Originally posted by: IAMHope

Pooja thx for the tag.

The makers have purposely muted a character who is already quiet and deep - they showed Abhi discussing his insecurities with his brothers but there are no scenes of Ak doing the same. Why?
They could hv shown Ak privately apologize to Manjari. But they haven’t done so. Why?

They could have given her some introspective dialogues that are strong - like the one she said during Ruby track “ pyaar mein barbaadh hone ko thaiyyar hu” type - she has none. Why?

The monologues she is given make her sound insensitive and nonchalant about the drug issue and accident.
I know the cheating in the game is a sore subject but it hurt Akshara’s character and questions her ability to comprehend Abhi’s concerns.
Her inability to choose when Abhi clearly has been most generous with his forgiveness has hurt her character.

I blame the writers for this. Then have been steadily doing this on purpose.

So fans who love Ak, but hate what’s been done to her character get frustrated and upset and question her courage, her commitment everything via posts and tweets. Because they cannot relate to this version of Ak. But the writers are doing this on purpose.

I suggest Ak kidnap Abhi in her phatphati and gag him so he cannot talk. And proceed to tell him all the points you have raised one by one and show him who has shown most courage and picked him all the time. Finally she should tell him in spite of choosing him he called her a liar and ask him how fair that was. If she shows tashan he becomes meow.

If they reveal the actual culprits of the accident, and all Ar-Ak hit hard was a fire hydrant then we will all look foolish arguing about all this.

But the message about driving under influence and the responsibilities of driver/passenger after an accident has occurred will be a social message for everyone.

Let’s just grind our teeth and make it through the next couple of weeks and hopefully the writers will wrap this mess up.

Sorry if I sounded like Anu aunty. Also - I only accept bouquets no brickbats - I’m tired of this track so please go easy on me!

Like I said in my original post, I don’t think that the writers have purposefully made Akshu mute. Again, it’s the way she expresses her love that is different. She is selfless, quiet, and deep. And that leads both the audience and Abhi to question her love at times. She doesn’t feel the need to tell Abhi about any of the instances that he doesn’t know about, because she doesn’t expect anything in return. She supported him and protected him because he’s her everything, not because she wanted credit. But for Abhi, he needs to hear it to ease his insecurities. There is a communication and understanding gap on both ends!

With time, she is becoming more vocal. She has spent her entire life bottling up her emotions inside her, having no one to talk to, and just going along with whatever everyone else wants. Like I keep saying, she is the victim of child abuse and neglect. She has no sense of self. And she is slowly coming into her own.
Her displays of love for Abhi in my opinion have been just as bold and meaningful as his. We have to bear in mind their traumas, backgrounds, and upbringings before comparing I think.
As the show progresses and her character continues to develop, we will see what you are asking for in that she will become bolder in the sense that many audience members want. But it will be a process both for the sake of drama and because that’s how it is in reality too!