MaAn Wedding

Being selfless is one thing but neglecting yourself under the veil of selflessness is just as much of a crime as being cruel to someone else.

Anuj said himself that he has one dream and it should be fulfilled with great celebration. so why should he always make the sacrifice? It is clear that Anuj desires a grand wedding. Anupama and Anuj came to an “agreement” today, but really it is just Anuj neglecting himself and his needs as usual. Why can’t all the other folks in the family who support MaAn come together to chip in for the wedding? Does Anupama and Anuj not have anything saved up? Can’t they at least try to brainstorm ideas to make the grand wedding possible without giving up so quickly?

I am glad that MaAn had a mature conversation today, but it just seems like they are giving up too easily when it comes to their own happiness. I am sure they could make it work if they really tried.

most people getting married a 2nd time go for a pared down wedding

her choices are never backed by her own wants and needs, so im gonna refrain from saying they should compromise. if he wants big, than yeah, i think they should go for it.

if this was samar getting married they wouldve made it happen, some way, some how.

also, why can't the king of the business world get a loan? a private loan even? dont they have lines of credit in india? lol (rhetorical question)

Whether grand wedding or simple wedding it should be Maan own mutual decision

Maam should should not take any decion because other people want it

Agar Maan kisi ground mein tent lagwake ke bus jari aur phoolon se decorations karwake wahan pur varmala hoti hai aur side ladies dholak baja rahi hai

Aur use and throw plate like bargad ke donaa pattal ke mein bhi khaana peena hota hai

Then I am ok with but it should be Maan own mutual. Decision

Totally agree with Surabhi.

But more than that, I am astounded by the 'lavish wedding' mindset, still so rampant here.

I have attended weddings in Asia, Europe, America and Africa. And the ones that were the most wonderful - to the couple itself, mind you - were those that were intimate, small-scale with family and friends who loved and cherished their relationship with the couple.

In other words, it's not to line the pockets of the tent-wala and the catering chap, the music smarties and the liquor vendors, etc. etc., but to celebrate that special moment between the two amidst their loved ones in a special setting.

Apart from the fact that the makers really have a valid point to make:
Especially in these grim times of increasing poverty and rising prices, of virus threat and victims of violence across the world, it is actually outrageous to think of wanting to waste money on a buffet with 30 items - and find so many half-filled plates under the table; on a musical extravaganza - that is often not only too loud but also ugly in sound; and to perpetuate this burden on essentially still the father of the bride to pay for all the wedding paraphernalia.

MaAn#'s love story is the most unusual one on ITV currently. So, let their wedding situation also take its unique MaAn# course only, and not get trapped in the usual pomp and splendour of a wasteful wedding event!

My cousin married to divorcee and his wife is bank officer with 4th scale uske deposit bh honge

But still that wife family and cousin family still prefer simple marriage though kisi ke pass money ki kami nahi hai and sub khuch shaanti se nipat gaya

Phir baad mein reception diya gaya .aur us wife ne mere naani ke urban clap se boy hair cut karwaye phir sasural mein 3,,4 din rehne ke baad usne office join kiya

To simple wedding ke baad bhi sub log enjoy kar rahe hai

Aapas mein shaanti aur understand pyaar jaroori hai rather simple wedding bhi bahut achi lagti hai

In real life, personally I am one to prefer a simple wedding for myself any day (Financially makes more sense and would even be more comfortable for me as someone who likes to avoid uncessary crowds). In fact, I think that grand weddings can be needlesly expensive and same money could be used to save for a house, car, trip, etc.

But I think as a viewer personally it would be nice to see some nice events going on in the show such as mehndi, sangeet, etc instead of just a straight up wedding. That would be nice to see after all the negative things that have been going on lately with the Shahs (Leela, Vanraj, Toshu, etc). Although, I am sure there will still be a kaand coming up in this wedding especially now that Vanraj is apparently no longer working for Malvika..

Although MaAn wedding doesn't have to be a grand event, I feel that it can still incorporate some things that Anuj and Anupama wish for.

Somewhere, I felt that Anuj was neglecting himself because he himself mentioned all the things he wanted.. which is why I was hoping they would meet halfway or something. But if Anuj truly is happy with a more simple wedding as Anupama is, then as a viewer I would have no problem.

But other than that, after considering your perspectives, I would not mind seeing a more small scale wedding either anymore as long as MaAn were really happy with it, and there were positive vibes (ie: no toxic Shah drama, kaands, etc which I know is hoping for too much!😆)

I promise I am not against simple weddings at all and from the way you guys have described, it seems like more smaller gatherings of few close family members is a lot more enjoyable anyways! I am just one of those viewers that loves watching all the small events leading up to the weddings on television, where they do tons of dancing, dressing up, etc. which is why I was a bit disappointed😆. but at the end of the day, I respect MaAn's choice that they make together and would eagerly watch any type of wedding that they decide upon

Thanks guys, appreciate your input!😳

See Mehdi and haldi rasm are just shagun usme बहुत लोगों को bula kur ghar khaana peena, karana jaroori nahi hai

Only devika kinjal anupama mother Dolly yeh log anupama ko Mehdi laga kir bkgaana, kar sakte hai aur deck bsja ke dance kar sakte

Haldi और Mehdi ek hi din ki jaa sakti hai at anupama mother house

Ab main day hota hai shaadi ka agar yrh chshte hai ki wedding simple to rahe there but grand wedding bhi lage ki bahut log aayen aur khub khaama, peena ho

To Maan can book dharm shaala, I know wahan air conditioner tv waigrah nahi hoga ek din ke liye theek rahega aur anupama apne ghar se devika apne ghar se dessert cooler ya rent pe cooler le sakte hai

Phir catering ki jagah halwai rakhe aur bus main main dish rakhe not necessarily ki shaadi mein every state kev cusine hone chahiye ajnd I have told they can use use and throw plate either thermacol aur बरगद के patte

For covience for baraati they can use volvo bus bus will be cheap than taxi

Traditional way mein grand wedding karenge to kharcha utna, nahi aayega isme bahut paise bachenge

Maine to almost middle class ki shaadi aisi hi dekhi hai ya to woh dharma shaala ya phir woh rent mein ghar ya, phir school book karte hai

Guest house banquet Hall to tabhi book hota hota agar unke budget mein hota hai

I mean Maan ko wohi cheej karni chahiye jo unke budget mein and I again said dono jo bhi kare apne aapsi ichha se karre

Another example I can give abhi recently south mein hamare kisi jaan pehchan ki daughter ki shaadi hui woh log bhi officer back ground se hai they have also enough money but unke yahan jo guest aaye sub ne banana leaves mein khaaya kisi ne crockery mein khaama nahi khaaya aur koi guest house book nahi hua. Bjs s simple iron ki table iron kursi lagi thi usi mein sub log banana, leaves mein khaa rahe they aur jyaada khane ka menu item bhi nahi tha bus 4,5 menu item tha

I felt that they did come to a mutual agreement. After listening to Baa, Anu was fine with a simple wedding where they can go to the court and register marriage and then go to the temple to take pheras. But it was established earlier that she too have desires that she doesn’t express because of the age factor (check mahasangam episode) and not to burden Bapuji financially (because he wants to spend on the expenses being the bride’s father). On the other side, Anuj wanted a lavish, high-profile grand wedding for which he had to take loans anyways. The middle ground is that they are having a grand wedding with all the rituals but with the budget that Anuj can afford without no finances needed from Bapuji. So in this way, they are not burdening Bapuji (Anu’s worry is solved), are not taking any financial burdens on themselves and still enjoying their wedding.

Now based on the current episode, Mukku will make the wedding grand and everyone will contribute so middle-class toh nahi hogi yeh shaadi. Let’s see.

The question here is not about economical facts. It is about the one line that Anuj said- that he wanted it grand. It is about that one line that slipped Anupama - that she wants it fairytale like. The discussion ended for me here. It's their choice- to have it grand or simple. And the fact is, both want it grand but decided to adjust. ThusI am totally in agreement with you. You are not advocating for a grand wedding, you are advocating for the fact that they wanted it grand. But since they are supposed to be mature, more unique and yada-yada, it is relatively easy to dig their mahanta and sacrifice. But I don't.

Anupama folded in front of bapuji's plight and Anuj folded in face of her distress. Otherwise, why was this point of zindagi bhar loan chukaunga not made when Anuj was fantasizing of a grand celebration.

Though, we will get every ritual to see and I don't mind the settings remotely. But i do wish, that with Mukku in the fray, these two get the kind of wedding they had envisioned, not the one they will have to settle for.