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Originally posted by: arya212002

I am trying to understand why her obsession with Baa and why she isn’t that attached to her mom.

I am sure that we all are blessed with such family who treat the daughters as daughters and not as a paraya dhan.

Think if from a very young age, you are said you are paraya dhan, tera sasural hi tera ghar hai, teri saas hi teri maa hai, jo bhi pareshaani ho yahan bhaag ke mat aana etc etc… those were the society’s thoughts and norms and many abided by that. I believe Anu’s mom was also one like that. Maybe not harsh n rude to Anu but still with such thoughts as they were supposed to be correct. Anu’s brain might have been drilled, embedded, pasted, glued and what not with such thoughts to treat her husband n in laws as god n sasural as Heaven… mind you it could be from a tender age and throughout her marriage until the EMA exposure and subsequent divorce. Anu might have lived over 25-30 years with that in mind. So deeply ingrained in her system that she is unable to get out of it.


She is trying hard but deep down she still loves Baa and hence keeps failing… ab old habits seldom die


With her mom, due to such thoughts of paraya dhan, that close attachment may not be there. I am very attached to my mom and share everything with here because that’s the comfort she has given me. Maybe Anu’s mom didn’t give her that comfort to her in earlier days… Anu cares and concerns about her mom but values less than Baa. It could be due her mom itself telling Teri saas teri maa hai mujhe se zyada woh apni hai etc etc…. yes she is regretting that thought and did try to fix it. Lekin ab toh isn’t it too late for that deep bond to develop.

I am not blaming her mom here as I guess she too would be pressured under society. It isn’t easy for everyone to break the rules.


I also don’t agree with Anu’s actions of pleasing Baa but this is just an attempt in trying to understand her obsession.

Let me know your thoughts if it could be a possibility or not

Now you got the drill why Anu attached to baa more of her mother coz this was actually be shown. Her mother behaved like this that was vocalised prior in the show. She just changed her thoughts when Anu decided to take divorce.

Anupama who has not speak and go. Against baa for 25year so after 25 year anupama decided to go against baa and want to marry anuj yeh बहुत बड़ी बात है

Kahan woh anupama thi jo jub baa khuch bolti thi anupama khuch bol hi nahi paati thi bus tremble karke reh jaati thi

Aur aaj anupama baa chahe gala faad faad ke society duhaai deti rahi but at least anupama now don't trempble in front of baa aur pure confidence ke saath anuj ke saath baa ke saamne hug kya aur baa ke orde ko khareej kar diya

Originally posted by: Peppss

If we keep the emotions aside and think camly then you can see that we are all reacting exactly the way the makers want to...

They want us to hate Anu more than we hate vanraj... this is probably the first show where lead is getting bashed so much...where the audience are made to develop so such contempt for the lead

This is all done deliberately just to appease the so called friend and his ego... this what happens when personal and professional relationship are mixed

I genuinely feel sorry for RG and GK...such wonderful talents are being misused and taken for granted

Sad truth

Don't be, if it really affects RG or GK. They will leave the show and cancel the contract. It always happens, if they don't like how there character is shaping they walk out. See RG had choice yet she worked in prequel too. Makers later will give them few good scenes. Remember Anuj holi gujiya scene. RG only 2 days back got so much appreciated for bhashan.

GK said he has always chosen only positive roles because his mother likes that. This time also, he needs to draw line, positive okay but almost side character as showpiece how long he wants. Won't be surprised, if day his mother doesn't like the show, he will walk out for her. That's what I feel, he is very sorted person it seems that way.

Originally posted by: ayushijindal

Now you got the drill why Anu attached to baa more of her mother coz this was actually be shown. Her mother behaved like this that was vocalised prior in the show. She just changed her thoughts when Anu decided to take divorce.

Did they show it in the show like that? Maybe in earlier episodes which I haven’t watched.

I just deducted it from that one scene of Anu’s mom
with Anu, Anuj n Devika at home where she regretted and cried.

Originally posted by: arya212002

I am trying to understand why her obsession with Baa and why she isn’t that attached to her mom.

I am sure that we all are blessed with such family who treat the daughters as daughters and not as a paraya dhan.

Think if from a very young age, you are said you are paraya dhan, tera sasural hi tera ghar hai, teri saas hi teri maa hai, jo bhi pareshaani ho yahan bhaag ke mat aana etc etc… those were the society’s thoughts and norms and many abided by that. I believe Anu’s mom was also one like that. Maybe not harsh n rude to Anu but still with such thoughts as they were supposed to be correct. Anu’s brain might have been drilled, embedded, pasted, glued and what not with such thoughts to treat her husband n in laws as god n sasural as Heaven… mind you it could be from a tender age and throughout her marriage until the EMA exposure and subsequent divorce. Anu might have lived over 25-30 years with that in mind. So deeply ingrained in her system that she is unable to get out of it.


She is trying hard but deep down she still loves Baa and hence keeps failing… ab old habits seldom die


With her mom, due to such thoughts of paraya dhan, that close attachment may not be there. I am very attached to my mom and share everything with here because that’s the comfort she has given me. Maybe Anu’s mom didn’t give her that comfort to her in earlier days… Anu cares and concerns about her mom but values less than Baa. It could be due her mom itself telling Teri saas teri maa hai mujhe se zyada woh apni hai etc etc…. yes she is regretting that thought and did try to fix it. Lekin ab toh isn’t it too late for that deep bond to develop.

I am not blaming her mom here as I guess she too would be pressured under society. It isn’t easy for everyone to break the rules.


I also don’t agree with Anu’s actions of pleasing Baa but this is just an attempt in trying to understand her obsession.

Let me know your thoughts if it could be a possibility or not

Agreed. And it's true that not every daughter is very close confidante to their mother.

But now, Baa is not her Saas. And she knows this well, so while those 25 years no one complaints now people will question.

Same old fashioned mentality, she gave Vanraj too much respect, never called him by name. He was equal to God for her.. but why is she not giving the same respect to Anuj, her would be husband then. They way she treated him before Dance competition and now, is rude.

Have you read Tiana Ficlets, there she shows the old mentality Anu who respects husband and has reservations. But this Anu she commands over Anuj, that doesn't make any sense.

This Anu doesn't make any sense, no matter how much I give her benefit of doubt, I can't relate or understand her.

Originally posted by: arya212002

I am trying to understand why her obsession with Baa and why she isn’t that attached to her mom.

I am sure that we all are blessed with such family who treat the daughters as daughters and not as a paraya dhan.

Think if from a very young age, you are said you are paraya dhan, tera sasural hi tera ghar hai, teri saas hi teri maa hai, jo bhi pareshaani ho yahan bhaag ke mat aana etc etc… those were the society’s thoughts and norms and many abided by that. I believe Anu’s mom was also one like that. Maybe not harsh n rude to Anu but still with such thoughts as they were supposed to be correct. Anu’s brain might have been drilled, embedded, pasted, glued and what not with such thoughts to treat her husband n in laws as god n sasural as Heaven… mind you it could be from a tender age and throughout her marriage until the EMA exposure and subsequent divorce. Anu might have lived over 25-30 years with that in mind. So deeply ingrained in her system that she is unable to get out of it.


She is trying hard but deep down she still loves Baa and hence keeps failing… ab old habits seldom die


With her mom, due to such thoughts of paraya dhan, that close attachment may not be there. I am very attached to my mom and share everything with here because that’s the comfort she has given me. Maybe Anu’s mom didn’t give her that comfort to her in earlier days… Anu cares and concerns about her mom but values less than Baa. It could be due her mom itself telling Teri saas teri maa hai mujhe se zyada woh apni hai etc etc…. yes she is regretting that thought and did try to fix it. Lekin ab toh isn’t it too late for that deep bond to develop.

I am not blaming her mom here as I guess she too would be pressured under society. It isn’t easy for everyone to break the rules.


I also don’t agree with Anu’s actions of pleasing Baa but this is just an attempt in trying to understand her obsession.

Let me know your thoughts if it could be a possibility or not

Based on the story, Anu comes from an economically backward family compared to the Shahs. She is ingrained with regressive thoughts such as: pati-parmeshwar, sasuraal is your home kind of belief system. She has also discontinued her studies. So, her ties with her maternal home were cut off soon after marriage. To add to that, due to baa's tyranny, Anu was not allowed to visit her mayka very often. So, Shah house & it's members have been the entire world for Anupama, with absolutely no exposure to outside world. She seems to have spent more years in SH than her mayka. Based on these, Anupama herself doesnt seem to miss or reminisce her days before marriage much.

Anu is someone who believes that Baa/MIL has the right to condemn and taunt her. But she( Anu) is a good person and goes above and beyond to dote on her own DIL(Kinjal). In fact to the extent that she shields Kinjal from Baa & others.

Also, from what I have noticed, Anu seems to have learnt general household management from Baa and not her mom...( becoz she says...baa ne sikhaya tha...) Perhaps, baa was handholding her during the early days of marriage.

No matter how good her bond with Baa might have been or whatever is the reasoning for her strong attachment with baa, at this point of the story Anu's actions/obsession towards baa do not make sense at all, for these reasons - 1) baa is no longer her MIL. 2) she now has exposure to outside world and knows how normal families behave, sans tyranny 3) irrespective of any of the facts, nobody should be appeased at the cost of one's own self-respect !

Originally posted by: arya212002

Did they show it in the show like that? Maybe in earlier episodes which I haven’t watched.

I just deducted it from that one scene of Anu’s mom
with Anu, Anuj n Devika at home where she regretted and cried.

Yes, she regretted about the upbringing she gave to Anu when she knew about EMA . In last 26 years Anu never visited her mother.

Originally posted by: arya212002

Did they show it in the show like that? Maybe in earlier episodes which I haven’t watched.

I just deducted it from that one scene of Anu’s mom
with Anu, Anuj n Devika at home where she regretted and cried.

I agree with u arya....And also her mom vocalized this.. Remember.. Diwali scenes... With anuj devika n anu.. Uski mom her bat pe rok tok lga to.. Even with friends k sath baher mat jao bla bla... After anu divorce she understand the situation.... Remember that convo... This prove that her mom was with regressive mind with log kya kahenge...

Originally posted by: _SilentSoul_

Shaant people, shaant! Remember we are MaAn/Anuj deprived for a week. Iss liye everyone’s irritated. 😆 But things will fall back in place and we will all become happy again. Shaadi related conflicts are better than anything else tbh.

Anu mentioned about having a smaller scale wedding to not burden Bapuji because he wants to marry her off (Baa just showed them what they have but ultimately Bapuji ko shaadi karwani hai na.) Anuj wants to have the wedding on a grand scale because he’s being gubbara right now in excitement! But im sure they will talk it out!

And most importantly, it’s JUST a promo!

It is just to create some conflict during wedding. Its not like MaAn will get married tomorrow, obviously they will stretch their wedding for minimum 1-1.5 months I feel. So yeah these conflicts are needed.

Anu also wanted a grand wedding but Bapuji wants to do her wedding as in he wants to spend his (and shah family cuz bapuji has no income) money for his daughter's wedding. Like he said he wants to wash away his sins and he feels this is the way to do it. He is old, understandable why he thinks he needs to do that. Old people think about bhagwan ke ghar jake kya muh dikhaunga etc... so yeah. And Anu being the understanding person she is doesn't want to burden Bapuji with such expenses hence she's compromising on simple wedding.

On the other hand, Anuj is justified to want a grand wedding. Its his first wedding and that too to the love of his life he's waited for 26 years. So Anuj's POV makes sense. Doesn't mean Anu is wrong either. Yes they should discuss all this... but this is just a promo. And if Anuj just agrees for a simple wedding for Anu's or even Bapuji's sake, there won't be any conflict na. You need conflict and drama for wedding. Also, Anuj back on his feet and being rich, Anu is a middle class woman.. this conflict of status was gonna come someday. So here it is. Nothing will change between MaAn but its a matter of difference of opinion thats all.

Also, if Anu said simple wedding hogi without discussing with Anuj. He also said grand wedding hogi without discussing with Anu. So both are making their own plans without telling the others. How is it fair to only blame one? I am pretty sure they will come around. In fact this is a good conflict imo. Lets see how they discuss and sort this out. At the end its not related to shahs, its related to MaAn and Anuj is equally involved as I am sure majority of people wanted.

Plot Twist: Mukku will bear all the expenses and throw a lavish wedding for MaAn ... but I am sure wedding will be lavish.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

Based on the story, Anu comes from an economically backward family compared to the Shahs. She is ingrained with regressive thoughts such as: pati-parmeshwar, sasuraal is your home kind of belief system. She has also discontinued her studies. So, her ties with her maternal home were cut off soon after marriage. To add to that, due to baa's tyranny, Anu was not allowed to visit her mayka very often. So, Shah house & it's members have been the entire world for Anupama, with absolutely no exposure to outside world. She seems to have spent more years in SH than her mayka. Based on these, Anupama herself doesnt seem to miss or reminisce her days before marriage much.

Anu is someone who believes that Baa/MIL has the right to condemn and taunt her. But she( Anu) is a good person and goes above and beyond to dote on her own DIL(Kinjal). In fact to the extent that she shields Kinjal from Baa & others.

Also, from what I have noticed, Anu seems to have learnt general household management from Baa and not her mom...( becoz she says...baa ne sikhaya tha...) Perhaps, baa was handholding her during the early days of marriage.

No matter how good her bond with Baa might have been or whatever is the reasoning for her strong attachment with baa, at this point of the story Anu's actions/obsession towards baa do not make sense at all!

They showed Anu a person who love her unabashed and she make baa her live's integral part like her children from whom she can be upset but never disowned. And this is the reason baa still holds Anu. But this Anu still does not understand. At some point, person has to think rationally rather being like this.