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G, u know na I love you 🤗.. ur perspective n writing 👏👏

I agree with it all and yes it was important for Anu to speak up against abuse infront of V.

On that note, a Q in different tangent.

What was Anu really afraid of ? V or breaking of her marriage? Was she afraid that if she speaks back it will lead to physical harm or it will lead to her relationship breaking? In one of the early episode, I heard Devika said Anu was brave and hit some boy hard. Even after the EMA exposure, she cried n panicked but then too if am not wrong stood up against him.

So she was brave to face a man but not brave enough to face a failed relationship/ marriage.

Love, respect, trust, understanding are all part of relationship. Many often give more weightage to one of these than other or rather don’t mind if other things don’t even exist. Here for Anu, trust n loyalty was more important than love and respect. She could bear lack of love n respect but not the pain of cheating.

Abuse didn’t matter until she left the relationship?

Or she didn’t realize until she left the relationship?

All things sacrificed for the sake of relationship except loyalty because loyalty n trust was key to her.

I hope it makes sense.. wanted to write n explain more but currently under time crunch. Just wanted to put this thought out to u ppl.

Originally posted by: RainFire125

BOLD - 👏👏 and accept it too

And these are only people who also give lectures on women sacrifices to death is right their duty

Originally posted by: arya212002

G, u know na I love you 🤗.. ur perspective n writing 👏👏

I agree with it all and yes it was important for Anu to speak up against abuse infront of V.

On that note, a Q in different tangent.

What was Anu really afraid of ? V or breaking of her marriage? In one of the early episode, I heard Devika said Anu was brave and hit some boy hard. Even after the EMA exposure, she cried n panicked but then too if am not wrong stood up against him.

So she was brave to face a man but not brave enough to face a failed relationship/ marriage.

Love, respect, trust, understanding are all part of relationship. Many often give more weightage to one of these than other or rather don’t mind if other things don’t even exist. Here for Anu, trust n loyalty was more important than love and respect. She could bear lack of love n respect but not the pain of cheating.

Abuse didn’t matter until she left the relationship?

Or she didn’t realize until she left the relationship?

All things sacrificed for the sake of relationship except loyalty because loyalty n trust was key to her.

I hope it makes sense.. wanted to write n explain more but currently under time crunch. Just wanted to put this thought out to u ppl.

Arya lately girls are taught to sacrifice yourself fully, you are made to give fully dont expect, it is your moral duty. Husband has all the rights on you, forget yourself live the way they want that make them happy, woman has no right to take any decision, they are made only for kitchen, as many as can. Because of this type of upbringing she kept quiet to maintain peace found the way to nurture marriage kyunki aise hi hota h aisa hi krna chahye ladkiyo ko ye hi giving nature ki ho sakti h bs, inki apni iccha kuch ni hoti. In sabki wajha se usko ye kabhi galat ni laga. But yeah trust and loyalty are everything in any relationship for any person, same with Anu. So when it broke relationship failed for her then

Originally posted by: arya212002

G, u know na I love you 🤗.. ur perspective n writing 👏👏

I agree with it all and yes it was important for Anu to speak up against abuse infront of V.

On that note, a Q in different tangent.

What was Anu really afraid of ? V or breaking of her marriage? Was she afraid that if she speaks back it will lead to physical harm or it will lead to her relationship breaking? In one of the early episode, I heard Devika said Anu was brave and hit some boy hard. Even after the EMA exposure, she cried n panicked but then too if am not wrong stood up against him.

So she was brave to face a man but not brave enough to face a failed relationship/ marriage.

Love, respect, trust, understanding are all part of relationship. Many often give more weightage to one of these than other or rather don’t mind if other things don’t even exist. Here for Anu, trust n loyalty was more important than love and respect. She could bear lack of love n respect but not the pain of cheating.

Abuse didn’t matter until she left the relationship?

Or she didn’t realize until she left the relationship?

All things sacrificed for the sake of relationship except loyalty because loyalty n trust was key to her.

I hope it makes sense.. wanted to write n explain more but currently under time crunch. Just wanted to put this thought out to u ppl.

I dont know if this is right to think or not...or if I am being a sadist but I really want Anu to breakdown someday in front of Anuj about all the stuff she had to bear in 25 years of marriage...it can be a mini panic attack or something like that....maybe then he ll actually know everything and he deserves to know since she knows almost all his secrets now....God knows if anymore of his secrets are left..

Sorry if I sound sadistic...but this is one wish I have...😬

Originally posted by: ayushijindal

Arya lately girls are taught to sacrifice yourself fully, you are made to give fully dont expect, it is your moral duty. Husband has all the rights on you, forget yourself live the way they want that make them happy, woman has no right to take any decision, they are made only for kitchen, as many as can. Because of this type of upbringing she kept quiet to maintain peace found the way to nurture marriage kyunki aise hi hota h aisa hi krna chahye ladkiyo ko ye hi giving nature ki ho sakti h bs, inki apni iccha kuch ni hoti. In sabki wajha se usko ye kabhi galat ni laga. But yeah trust and loyalty are everything in any relationship for any person, same with Anu. So when it broke relationship failed for her then

Adding on to what Ayushi said , which i also have been pondering --

Why was Anu submissive almost throughout her marriage? Because deep down she knew that Vanraj was always capable of physical abuse i think!! She knew it would destroy her more than the emotional abuse so she kept quiet like any other survivor to save herself from the torture physically as well! She made herself understand that this is OK and she made herself cope because she lived in a time where she didn’t have that support system. She could not have approached her mother as her mother's thoughts were also old school!! I am not sure of her brother. Her FIL was helpless. He could not even scold his SON!! Hence, she was conditioned to believe she can never raise her voice and complaint and the she was made to believe that she was never capable. 25 years later she saw what women were capable off. We ultimately under any circumstances teach ourselves to survive. And she ultimately just survived when no other option was available to her!!

Originally posted by: RainFire125

yepp, her secret should have been hers to share, but that choice was taken away from her hands!!

Her equation with V itself first is to watch out for Komal, Shahs tho duur ki baat hai.

the writers have a lot of inconsistency or they leave lot to our assumptions with no firm back plots!! If she behaves close close with V knowing that she just heard Anu hear a hadsaa, i will not know what to think and what to assume!! My positive mind will want to think that she is playing a game, but with no thoughts of hers out in front of us, my assumption can just that be - an assumption that might not play out at all

Exactly, earlier I had posted a topic where I felt all this was big Mukku game play to unite MaAn and maybe teach V a lesson for misbehaving with her brother.

Anyways, wo din kuch aur the.. ab wo interest wo excitement nahi raha..

As I said, I feel writers have not decided yet themselves how they want to show Mukku...for Anuj they took time before adding him. Mukku seems to have been added in rush without any planning.

Ye lo ek aur iv pado😆

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Originally posted by: Meghuzz

I dont know if this is right to think or not...or if I am being a sadist but I really want Anu to breakdown someday in front of Anuj about all the stuff she had to bear in 25 years of marriage...it can be a mini panic attack or something like that....maybe then he ll actually know everything and he deserves to know since she knows almost all his secrets now....God knows if anymore of his secrets are left..

Sorry if I sound sadistic...but this is one wish I have...😬

No, I agree!! He should know it all!! It will tighten that bond and love between them more. She has started this in pieces by narrating that incident and venting out in that convo. Lets see if writers expose her abuse more to ANuj with time

Originally posted by: RainFire125

Adding on to what Ayushi said , which i also have been pondering --

Why was Anu submissive almost throughout her marriage? Because deep down she knew that Vanraj was always capable of physical abuse i think!! She knew it would destroy her more than the emotional abuse so she kept quiet like any other survivor to save herself from the torture physically as well! She made herself understand that this is OK and she made herself cope because she lived in a time where she didn’t have that support system. She could not have approached her mother as her mother's thoughts were also old school!! I am not sure of her brother. Her FIL was helpless. He could not even scold his SON!! Hence, she was conditioned to believe she can never raise her voice and complaint and the she was made to believe that she was never capable. 25 years later she saw what women were capable off. We ultimately under any circumstances teach ourselves to survive. And she ultimately just survived when no other option was available to her!!

Agree.

Somehow, I agree and understand her behaviour for all those 25 years. The upbringing, lack of support, strength, can relate to.

If you see, no one in FD ever raised this concern earlier because everyone understood the situation.

Only concern is when she looks back she should realise and speak Boldy that what happened was wrong. She should say this directly, straight no sugar coating to her abuser V that that Anu was weak but today she is strong.

And she knows all he did for those 25 years was so so wrong. She should call out to Baa too, and stop covering by saying bado ka aashirwad.

Being a mother she should know and be able to differentiate, a mother does scold child at times for there own good. But Baa never loved her, she is outright bad.

Yes, not realising in that very moment when you are in it, is so so possible but in retrospect one should accept the reality

Originally posted by: RainFire125

Adding on to what Ayushi said , which i also have been pondering --

Why was Anu submissive almost throughout her marriage? Because deep down she knew that Vanraj was always capable of physical abuse i think!! She knew it would destroy her more than the emotional abuse so she kept quiet like any other survivor to save herself from the torture physically as well! She made herself understand that this is OK and she made herself cope because she lived in a time where she didn’t have that support system. She could not have approached her mother as her mother's thoughts were also old school!! I am not sure of her brother. Her FIL was helpless. He could not even scold his SON!! Hence, she was conditioned to believe she can never raise her voice and complaint and the she was made to believe that she was never capable. 25 years later she saw what women were capable off. We ultimately under any circumstances teach ourselves to survive. And she ultimately just survived when no other option was available to her!!

Considering it! She was eventually scared of vanraj and she had no support system neither of her both the houses. The betrayal was the last nail in coffin