Physical mental abuse and marital rape

Today as aneri akka Mukku curled up in fear i was thinking she must have faced so much abuse to curl up in fear like that.

Lets admit in india and asia a bit of domestic violence and threats and hata pai(hitting shoving pushing screaming) like they call happen between majority husband and wife irrespective of whether you live in joint family or single family with kids without kids

Like Vanraj how he used to threaten and ill treat anupama both inside bedroom and in front of family. This is common in 80% spouses or more in asia for sure. The kind of mental harassment and scare mongering Vanraj and Baa did to anupama happens to certain extent to every married woman at least a few times irrespective of where you live joint family india asia even USA/UK NRIs etc

But just like anupama father in law, mother, brother, children turned a blind eye to it every family does the same actually. Also police or law supports men only. If you complaint against family or spouse they will say its house matter resolve it why you came to law. Why break family etc Its all brushed under carpet in name of culture and society and family honour. Like how anupama family did for 26 years and now happening to kavya too openly in front of mukku, anuj all outsiders by vanraj

But aneri kind of torture is lesser extent may be that kind of thing here. Its more in lower class and very rich society. Middle class marital rape is much lesser like i said 20 to 30%.

First day when Mukku was going back home in car she feared bump and lights and loud sound. So i had told shes been abused by boy friend and husband same day.

What i am surprised how an abused marital rape girl is hugging vanraj like that. Such women stay 100 feet away from a man outside male especially. Its tough for them to not get scared of father, brother and uncle also initially.

If you read psychology you know girls who are marital raped or battered by husband get scared to live with brother and father too any man comes near they get scared. But of course later on they find protection or being safe in company of father and brothers only. They learn to trust outside man because of their father and brothers only slowly.

But of course no girl abused by man behaves like Malvika openly hugging business partner like vanraj shah or praising toshu, samar etc. They usually avoid being close to any outside man and have tough time making male friends or trusting men again. Of course its a different thing with a father, brother, uncle like GK they form your support system for a victim.

What job law should do to protect such victim of domestic rape and marital abuse that job a father and brother do in india and asia as a whole. When a husband or boy friend hits girl will call a father or brother never police. Because usually no action happens. To save themselves girl call brother or father or uncle or cousin in town only. Or a school mate/college mate if you stay away from family.

Here with Mukku too i am sure its brother only who saved her stepped in to save her once he knew truth. In india and asia hide such fact from family for long till its unberabale or neighbours call and tell family. Lucky Mukku has Anuj as brother not vanraj. Vanraj would have said to dolly stay or die in hubby house do not come home one more bhoj on my head do not bend our family head in front of family etc

But knowing anuj he will say come to my house and stay with me. He will not think sister as bhoj oor society honour etc. Malvika is a lucky girl because 90% parents and brother only force girl not to break marraige after abuse. Like anupama family did to her for 26 years. So hats off to brothers and parents like anuj who do not think ladki is outsider after marraige she can go to hell not comeback to brothers or parents home.

Isi liye toh anuj kapadia viewers ke dil pe raj karthein hain from day one

I can say 90% of brother or parents are not like anuj kapadia in india when daughter or sister face abuse by hubby

Instead of anuj kapadia feeling guilty for marrying sister to abuser he must be proud he gave his sister new life new hope new freedom respect in society

Sage bhai joh nahi karthe woh adopted bhai ne kar dikaya

Thats why anuj kapadia is vviewers hero not vanraj shah

Sarare bhaiyon ko yahi dar hota hai sister sasural se na aa jaye meri 100% property jo mil rahi hai 20% daddy behen ko na dede (Majority brothers have fear my married sister should not come home dad may give 25% property to her. 50% bhul hi jaho sister ka beda garg karlenge sabi bhai)

And here is a great brother writing 100% of property he earned with hard work to sister

Aisa hero toh 9 billion humans main dhundo ek na mila kalyug main shayad 15th century 10th century main 10-15 mil jayenge ya satyug main

Listen anuj kapadia you should not be guilty that you married Mukku to devil. All devils come in guise of angels nowadays like Vanraj. You are not at fault.

Audience is proud you saved sister from devil gave her better life gave her 100% property

Itna achha bhai sab ko mile duniya main but nahi milne wale

Toh Mukku ke anuj bhaiya ko hi dekkhe kush raho sab viewers

Ladkiyon ko choddo all boys will be thinking anuj kapadiya humare bhai bane bhagwan life set ho jayegi

Issues with track:

Why anuj force Mukku to marry? Come on hes educated in USA at 20-21 he will force sister to marry what a joke? Ba a shid shes half vanraj age just 2 years elder to toshu. that means shes 25-26. How can she marry 10 years and stay away from brother. What se married at 15 or 20?

Further he forced her to stay with abusive hubby? are you crazy CVs

When you live in USA kids cannot be ordered or controoled. Govt will interfere and welfare committe visits houses to see progress etc its not that easy to force a marraige or force to stay in marraige like india

So you are saying US educated brother forced US eduacated sister to marry an abuser and stay in that marraige

Nothing is more impractical than such a scenario

But what to do Vanraj ko mahaan dikane ke liye anuj kapadia ko badnaam karna padega

so the issue is she is not playing the perfect victim?

this is do regressive that we think rape victims are supposed to hate themselves and live their entire hating men.

no it doesn't work like that with therapy, family & friends support many victims are able to move on in life, live normal life with marriage & kids.

malvika on other hand is still dealing with the trauma.

she has that resentment towards anuj i wouldn't call it hate but she believes anuj opposed her bf and made her marry a monster. she is running away from her past and don't want anyone to treat her as a victim.

Her persona as happy go lucky eccentric rich brat is just a armour she is wearing.

Well said Domestic violence is rampant in our country and normalised. Most families dont even realise that the woman is being traumatized in their presence. We find that timely intervention could have prevented it in most cases.

Women too silently endure it thinking it is their draw in the lottery. Had the EMA not occured in her own presence Anupama may not have believed it. Even thereafter she worried about everything else other than herself.

Our social structure is such that we turn a blind eye to abuse of any kind. Sometimes blame it on the victim herself.

10 years is a long time. Instead of confronting the problem she has allowed it to fester within and she is in deep pain. The way she enters Shah house asking for something sweet is indicative of her fragile state. She has been diagnosed and treated but emotionally is in pain. In some instances anti depressant is prescribed life long. The more we encourage people to speak up, to stand up against abuser the deeper will be the reach.

Mukku does not want sympathy. Whenever she said harsh things to Anuj it was in private the Christmas party was an exception.

Originally posted by: _Khaleesi_

so the issue is she is not playing the perfect victim?

this is do regressive that we think rape victims are supposed to hate themselves and live their entire hating men.

no it doesn't work like that with therapy, family & friends support many victims are able to move on in life, live normal life with marriage & kids.

malvika on other hand is still dealing with the trauma.

she has that resentment towards anuj i wouldn't call it hate but she believes anuj opposed her bf and made her marry a monster. she is running away from her past and don't want anyone to treat her as a victim.

Her persona as happy go lucky eccentric rich brat is just a armour she is wearing.

I am talking from psychology perpective go read behaviour of abused girl

It takes years to come out of it

And such victim can identify abusers from kilo meters

Mukku cannot understand vanraj toshu baa nature

Even anupama an abused same praising abusers

No one will do that

Shes just smiling for outside world shes unhappy inside

But aneri kind of torture is lesser extent may be that kind of thing here. Its more in lower class and very rich society. Middle class marital rape is much lesser like i said 20 to 30%

I'm sorry, you seem to be speaking based on your opinions, which I don't think are based on any kind of real data. I disagree with this statement. And also your opinion that people who have been through trauma need to react in one way. They don't, there are a million different ways that minds can process these things and I don't think it's very nice to say that one needs to react in a given way.

Originally posted by: _Khaleesi_

so the issue is she is not playing the perfect victim?

this is do regressive that we think rape victims are supposed to hate themselves and live their entire hating men.

no it doesn't work like that with therapy, family & friends support many victims are able to move on in life, live normal life with marriage & kids.

malvika on other hand is still dealing with the trauma.

she has that resentment towards anuj i wouldn't call it hate but she believes anuj opposed her bf and made her marry a monster. she is running away from her past and don't want anyone to treat her as a victim.

Her persona as happy go lucky eccentric rich brat is just a armour she is wearing.

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thats how a lot of people deal with trauma, put up that bratty borderline rude and prudish garb to mask their internal fear...

there is no such thing as a perfect victim and even our expectations are stereotypical when it comes to abuse sadly, thats how society at large generalises trauma

Sub ka deal karne ka tareeka alag hota problem se but mujhe malvika ka track dheela lag raha hai. Malvika ki entry mein aur aaj ke story mein koi connection nahin lag raha hai

If we remember jub malvika ki entry nahin thi to makers ne yeh suspense rakh 15 days tuk ki camaalvika uski behan hai ya girl friend. Aur jub vmalvika ka call aaya tha tub anuj ne bola tha why she was calling after so many years and anuj cut the call

And suddenly physical abuse track ?

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Originally posted by: surabhi01

Sub ka deal karne ka tareeka alag hota problem se but mujhe malvika ka track dheela lag raha hai. Malvika ki entry mein aur aaj ke story mein koi connection nahin lag raha hai

If we remember jub malvika ki entry nahin thi to makers ne yeh suspense rakh 15 days tuk ki camaalvika uski behan hai ya girl friend. Aur jub vmalvika ka call aaya tha tub anuj ne bola tha why she was calling after so many years and anuj cut the call

And suddenly physical abuse track ?

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The thing is, this track wasn't planned beforehand rather added just like that , hence the plot holes .

True. . It is certainly plot holes other wise why a brother anuj said those word ki why malvika calling him after so many years when malvika gone through physical abuse

Us time to aisa dikha rahe they jaise anuj aur malvika mein kitna jhagda raha ho

The show or writers don't do their research with regards to issues

They just write tracks.for trp

They have made a mockery of abuse, cancer, mental health, women's rights etc etc

Mukkus whole story & track is just to grab trp but so many nonsense things written

The issue is not being a perfect victim: it's about depiction & representation of issues which the writers make a kachara out of because their focus is trp & not about raising awareness