Baa and Vanraj are typical narcissists - Page 2

Originally posted by: khushi345

The Karkhana kand is over.......what an overwhelming and emotional rollercoaster it was!!! 😭😭😭

Bapuji........baa's words have reduced him to a broken shell of a man.💔💔💔 Having watched Anupamaa's story from the beginning, I often questioned Bapuji's passive support to Anu, when he could have been more fierce in his stance. Baa's outburst at the Karkhana however, entirely justified his silence for all those years, which was needed to maintain peace in the house.

Shah house suffered collateral damage under the reign of Leela, her ladla and now her pota. Leela is the embodiment of a typical narcissist. She is an example of how one person can single handedly cause destruction...it is her sense of entitlement which she had carefully nurtured and passed on to her son....Bapuji and Anu were mere pawns who were in good books as long as they remained silent. In reality, their silence were two of the strongest pillars of the Shah house which helped and Baa and Vanraj could create a facade of a happy family for the entire world to see. The first pillar crumbled when Anu broke free of her toxic marriage. Bapuji knew that if Anu left, it would mark the start of domino effect of destruction of his house, aided by Baa's able new bahurani. Narcissists thrive on control on they excercise on their victims, blaming and shaming them for everything going wrong and certainly went back to their old ways with Anu. When Bapuji could not bear Anu's extreme humiliation at their hands he helped her break the shackles of her ghosla, and fly away. He knew that the house had become a makaan and was no longer a home...Leela's kand at the kharkhana was the final push to the hammer that broke Bapuji's pillar of silence as well and the house will now only move towards destruction....

Gaslighting, blaming and shaming victims for the mistakes that they themselves commit, is the core nature of narcissists....but the only thing they fear is that their victim slips away from their clutches.... Seeing Baa swing in her Jhoola today made me think that she is losing control over herself....the entire scene had such a creepy and spooky vibe to it ☠️☠️....gave me horror story feels with the creaking jhoola and the house devoid of light and the lamp lit in front of the deity flickering away.....the Shah house is totally doomed.....

He wasn't silent because he wanted to maintain peace? he himself admitted infront of everyone that he was silent because of the sacrifices and pain leela underwent because of his financial shortcoming in case you missed that. I have no sympathy towards him for whatever was directed at him, he is as selfish as Baa if you ask me.

Do narcissists sleep hungry, live on just two saaris for 2 plus years without complaining about it for 30 plus years? I don't think so! Do narcissitst's get to work at an early age of 14 years to support their family because the father of the house is incapable of doing that, fulfill the responsibility of a breadwinner which should have originally been fulfiled by the original head of the house? taken the responsibility of their sibling's education and other expenses? This was supposed to be Bapuji's responsibility which was forced down on Vanraj and his wife, and you call them narcissists, why exactly?

Take a look at the other side of the coin as well instead of making them the complete villains here. You say Bapuji was reduced to broken shell of a man because of what baa said, what did she say so wrong exactly? He was the one who started with this Tera mera business first so he will obviously get a reply in the same manner, if he couldn't deal with the reality leela brought before him then he should have just shut up, all these years he kept quite and let her have a free reign because he knew he was useless money wise then he should have just shut up till the end.

And yeah Money is important, very important! Love doesn't feed you money does.

Bapuji was giving 400 rs to baa at that time jub yeh baa 400 rs pe satish nahin hui tub bapuji ise ke naam pura ghar bhi kar denge to bhi yeh baa kabhi satisy nahin hogi

Baa is kalah priya person

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Bapuji was giving 400 rs to baa at that time jub yeh baa 400 rs pe satish nahin hui tub bapuji ise ke naam pura ghar bhi kar denge to bhi yeh baa kabhi satisy nahin hogi

Baa is kalah priya person

Apna pet kaat kar rehne mein kya satisfaction hoti hain?

Pet kaatna aise. 50 year pehle 400 ki value bahut hoti thi . Aaj ke 40000 ke barabar

Originally posted by: Rein123

He wasn't silent because he wanted to maintain peace? he himself admitted infront of everyone that he was silent because of the sacrifices and pain leela underwent because of his financial shortcoming in case you missed that. I have no sympathy towards him for whatever was directed at him, he is as selfish as Baa if you ask me.

Do narcissists sleep hungry, live on just two saaris for 2 plus years without complaining about it for 30 plus years? I don't think so! Do narcissitst's get to work at an early age of 14 years to support their family because the father of the house is incapable of doing that, fulfill the responsibility of a breadwinner which should have originally been fulfiled by the original head of the house? taken the responsibility of their sibling's education and other expenses? This was supposed to be Bapuji's responsibility which was forced down on Vanraj and his wife, and you call them narcissists, why exactly?

Take a look at the other side of the coin as well instead of making them the complete villains here. You say Bapuji was reduced to broken shell of a man because of what baa said, what did she say so wrong exactly? He was the one who started with this Tera mera business first so he will obviously get a reply in the same manner, if he couldn't deal with the reality leela brought before him then he should have just shut up, all these years he kept quite and let her have a free reign because he knew he was useless money wise then he should have just shut up till the end.

And yeah Money is important, very important! Love doesn't feed you money does.

Bapuji for sure admitted that he could not provide enough for his family and he said that he appreciated Leela for all the hardships she had to endure. He gave her his Silence in return. So his silence gives her a free pass to torture her DIL and wreck havoc whenever things don't go her way??? Sure, Baa must have faced a lot of hurdles financially while managing the family and Vanraj had to shoulder responsibility at an early aye....but who did they do it for???not for strangers....but for their very own family.... And it is sad that both of them had to go through such tough times.While money is absolutely very important, it however CANNOT be the deciding factor about how good or bad a person is. This was said by Anu I think when she defended Bapuji and her lines about the same were really nice.

Baa and Vanraj are both clear examples of narcissistic personality disorder...Narcissists are human beings too...their behavior however lacks empathy of any kind....they can and do feel emotions of all kinds only for themselves, but sadly when it comes to others, and especially the people they consider to be inferior to them, they just abuse them, like they did to Anu.

You say that Bapuji should have remained silent because he was not financially stable in the past....how about when Baa tells him that he should be grateful that Vanraj still respects him and takes care of him....how awful and mean was that!!!!! A son should keep accounts of what he has received from his father and then decide how to treat him??????

Indeed, money is required to lead a good life and love cannot suffice alone....but with only money, life becomes dull, empty and useless as is now the case with Shah house...

Regards

Khushi

P.S. no hard feelings on anyone...this is just my POV 🤗

Toshu was right she is no 1 problem creator or koi ehsaan nhi kiya baa ne khana na kha ke har koi kuch na kuch responsibility hold karta apni family ke liye she also did ab koi national award de uske liye 🤪

Baa is very sad coz she can't bend anu anymore & vanraj is sad he can't enjoy Anu's undivided attention & care.

Khali baa or vanraj ne family ke liye kiya hai baaki kissi ne kuch nhi kiya.

Both r problem creator who only know how to create problems , vanraj is bhagoda also who ran away from problems instead of facing it.

Originally posted by: Shake_d_spear

Toshi was right she is no 1 problem creator or koi ehsaan nhi kiya baa ne khana na kha ke har koi kuch na kuch responsibility hold karta apni family ke liye she also did ab koi national award de uske liye 🤪

wahi toh...jab dekho tab Baa aur unka ladlaa ehsaan ginaane lag jaate hai (Vanraj should actually count all the bricks in the deewarein of shah nivas ( jobless that he is now), and spare us the torture of listening to his Mai Maine jaap 😖😖)

Like counting sheep helps us fall asleep, he can count the bricks and grains of sand to calm him down.

Yes I suddenly got a doubt if I was posting in the right forum. When I read what has Anupama done or what has Hasmukh done.

The fact that he didn't squander what he bought and what was given to him. Let's see how long Leela and ladla hold on to it.

Leelas beti cum bahu has lots of plan and clever tricks up her sleeves.