Originally posted by: fria319
Sorry I'm going to butt in here to add another perspective -
There's always an imbalance in every relationship - this is why compromise is key to making a relationship work.
Raghav at his core is not dark. He's a mama's boy through and through. He's a don that doesn't kill, barely uses his gun, and had like a 95% legit business. Lol. He was never dark. He was jaded, traumatized, alone and abandoned, but never dark in that way that P would want to change anything else about him. The two things she asked for him to change were legit concerns that any spouse would have about their spouse. We don't have to accept the bare minimum just because we love someone. We can ask them to be better - its up to them whether they're willing to change. Raghav isn't some robot that follows all the whims of Pallavi. In the end he chose to change time and time again.
Pallavi has also shown time and time again how she's willing to bend her own principles for those she loves dearly, especially Raghav. She was always willing to move past R's shortcomings.
This is not so much an imbalanced relationship as it is an opposites attract type of relationship. It can work if both are willing to make it work.
Also, Raghav is the one that thinks he can't measure up to Pallavi. She has never thought that about him. In fact she's always held him on a pedestal while they've been in love. It's Raghav who constantly puts himself down. That's not a result of them being different people with different moral compasses. That's the result of him not facing & overcoming his trauma, guilt, and abandonment issues head on.
Yes pallavi may not think all those things about raghav not measuring up to pallavi but as a viewer who has been watching the show, its my takeaway about his character that he is dark even without his insecurities and he can never cross the chasm when it comes to moral high ground.
about insecurities.. raghav never was the kind to hide his bad actions. He was upfront about his backhanded ways and kameena ways during pre-marriage days.. Its only his insecurity of losing pallavi and wanting to latch onto pallavi that he started doing all these things.. so yes, with respect to his relationship with pallavi, this might get fixed in the on-going track..
also don is a term that is not just used for a gun toting gangster and killing people.. don is a term that is used to refer to a leader of a gang who does organised crime and yes, the organised crime includes smuggling which is what raghav used to do..
as a viewer, i do think they have different moral compass… raghav is still the man who put pallavi in front of a truck, beat ved up mercilessly during mandaar track, had his own way of dealing during the pallavi’s necklace stealing kand, tried to buy sunny using money to send him away from his sister when he used the same money to drag pallavi into a forced marriage, put a tracker in his wife’s bag , locked his sister up when he feared she would elope, he is just as ruthless as he was before.. he gave up smuggling not because he thinks oh.. smuggling is a crime and bad thing to do.. his soch didnt change.. he gave it up because it affected pallavi.. would pallavi ever do something criminal??
Pallavi will always have the short end of the stick with him because she is way too good.. and raghav will always falter because he is just wired up differently..
Again, am not saying raghav is terrible.. raghav does have good qualities in him which are lovable.. i do know that he let pallavi do what she wanted to.. he has respected her consent in their marraige.. he is someone who relentlessly pursued his mother for 10 long years and that he would bear any punishment from pallavi..
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