*~*TAZBU (SaiShi and RaghVi) AT 18*~* Ghar More Pardesiya - Page 52

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So I just caught the show, last 2 episodes. My goodness..I am not over it, just couldnt watch Pallavi lifeless when she was on the road and , her breaking with Amruta made me cry and the way she was utterly lost when Amruta brought her to Deshmukh house was heatrwrenching. I was crying through yesterday' s episode. Pallavi's shock and absorbing the facts was depicted so well. Each and every past was brought up and she told him how badly she was broken. Shivangi 👏..no over acting, chest thumping, abnormal wailing..nothing. The shock, truth dawning, accepting the reality, the struggle to find right words, the extent to which she is now broken...her do not touch me ..in that low voice...give me jitters...beautiful!!! I thought she would throw away her mangalsutra so maybe there will be another confrontation later.

But I could still deal with the angry Pallavi but not with the dead look, lost Pallavi. When she was sitting in Deshmukh house room on that chair, her pain was visible in her unshed eyes...her grim face. Her life..the way she knew it , is all gone. Though I like the way Amruta supported her, its too soon to talk about doosra mauka. First Pallavi needs to grapple with the realities, not once but everyday. She married twice and both times she didnt get what she deserved. Now she needs to love herself and only herself, she needs to become selfish,she needs to become independent, self respecting person and then, only she can think of second chances, if Raghav deserves it by then. Trust badi kamini cheez hoti hai. Ek baar toot jaye to kisi pe bhi bharosa nahi hota.

I also felt bad for Raghav, he was helpless...this is what he had feared the most that she will leave and that fear was coming true. I wish Raghav told her that she need not leave, she belonged in the house with all rights , and he would leave instead since he made the mistake. He can live in one of his safe houses. But the explanation that he was trying to give that they both were drunk, it utterly useless....that does not absolve him of anything. Rather as Pallavi rightly said, he only broke promises to her.

Amma's reaction with Esha was over the top , because they dont know about Warangal Kaand yet. I do hope when Amma comes to know of warangal Kaand, she slaps and "manhandles" Raghav the same way...and asks him to leave the house as well. Because between Raghav and Esha, Raghav is the married man and should have had more sense. I want to see Amma being that volatile with Raghav and send him packing. Tell him that he cannot come in the house until Pallavi forgives him. Right now all the Raos, Amma , Farhad everyone needs to support Pallavi.

And Raghav needs to know that the situation is not just between him and Pallavi, its s social situation and his family is not going to support him. She should ask Pallavi to come stay in the mansion because that is her house but Raghav the one to make the mistake so Raghav should leave. Let him be away and alone, and struggle. Raghav needs that...space and alone time to gather himself .

I know its very hard for a man in this situation, if he truly loves his wife and news of his cheating has spread and both his own family and his in laws are now hostile to him. He needs to win over not only his wife but both these families too. Its a big journey. I am interested to see how CVs make Raghav win Pallavi back. What can cause a woman to forgive this?( other than proving that he really did not sleep with Isha) Really would love to see.

Kudos to Sai, Shivangi, and Amruta. Loved their acting.

Feel bad for the actress doing Isha..looks like she is being hit around like anything , not to say talks of the show going down because of her.

I also felt bad for Keerti today..usually I just dislike her and ff her scenes but her scene preparing and excited for the baby and her own home and small family was very heartwarming , the one guy whom she loves sincerely breaking her heart.

Edited and added : The Keechad falling on Pals on the road brought another POV into my mind. Right now she is a abandoned woman in society , a woman whose husband slept with someone else. Her own reputation will be under question in society too. Just like she faced it as being a widow. There are many out there who think that if a man cheated then his wife may not have loved him or given him what he needed so he had to look outside. I know Sunny and Isha will use this angle, and I hope Pals is strong and is protected .

Originally posted by: PSharada

Well Today Pallavi said that Raghav ne sab kuch maila kar diya - Her trust, her feelings everything. Imagine if Raghav gave in to Pallavi's seduction and went ahead. Pallavi would have felt even more cheap - that her husband had no qualms coming in and sleeping with her after doing the kaand with his ex. I know Raghav should have been more sensitive when Pallavi was trying so hard to get close to him but Raghav just was grappling with the humongous mistake that he did and not everyone will be able to deal with a life altering event with a sane mind. Even now, I know some times I should have reigned in my feelings and should have been more tactful but I just can't. So I can cut Raghav slack because I understand his state of mind.

Yup I understand why Raghav did that, my post was to clarify why internet was terming that as a rejection or of how society deals with woman's rejection differntly than a man's rejection. Man and woman are not built equally psychologically so equalization is hard at times..its a generic discussion.

As far as Raghav here is concerned, ideally even if he rejected Pal's physical advances he would have gone behind her after she cried, he would have made her feel beautiful, send some flowers and a gift and told her there was something going on at work until he sorted out how he will tell her.

But of course , the Raghav we knew all these days pre-Esha , the one who was sensitive to every feeling of Pallavi, he would just not drink or cheat. We all know this track is convoluted and contrived, the saving grace last two episodes are the leads and writing.

Originally posted by: Shri_12

Like I said I haven't watched so can't comment. I empathize with Pallavi, being rejected isn't easy, irrespective of the reason. But in general, a man rejecting a woman (in sexual context) is seen as a foolish decision. In fact, it is seen as a lottery win if a woman proposes/initiates. So the comment was more in a general context, which affect people, and not solely based on the show.

Yes, I understand .

In context of Raghav Pallavi, since the wedding itself was forced and caused out of hatred, Raghav waiting until Pallavi is ready mentally and physically was very warming and alluring. And because this was the first time Pallavi tried to seduce with the moves, and her getting rejected was hard to see. But we all know why Raghav did that.

Originally posted by: ...EhSaas...

So raghav got a new tag shameless who is asking for forgiveness from pallavi 😆

I am going to skip next few episodes also

Lots of serious drama is not my cup of tea and specially during big festival like diwali and when I am attached to show emotionally it affects more

If he walks away from her and doesn't ask for forgiveness, what would that make him? It would be weird if he didn't.

He's damned if does, damned if he doesn't.

Originally posted by: PSharada

I can wait to see Raghav sleeping in the cold under the banayan tree. I loved the way Raghav took everything that Pallavi dished out without saying anything. Sigh - Had he told this truth earlier he could have at least given his pov as to what happened in Warangal night. He totally knew that he lost his chance. But he is not going to give up on the relationship - Nope not when Pallavi is his life. He is going to be there until he proves himself worthy of her love again. He will do everything he possibly can if only that means she can look at him with the same amount of love shining in her eyes.

I really want a scene where the warangal truth is out and then the relief that both Raghav and Pallavi will have after the truth is out. Please writers give me that one scene. Raghav finally breathing free that he was not wrong and he never cheated on Pallavi.

As much as we curse the writers at times, it's writing like this that reminds me why I love this show. The banyan tree and the significance of Raghav sleeping there, broken and distraught. It reminded me of two key moments on the show: his despair when Amma was in the hospital and he was in the dargah praying for her and lying on the ground, and then the scene where he asks Pallavi if her dream home would have a banyan tree which she would circle as she fasted for him. Amma is his jaan and when she was so ill he felt his own life force might be leaving him. Today his jaan Pallavi's departure was breaking him the same way (also refer to Pallavi saying she thought she was Raghav's jaan). In the second, Raghav had wanted to know if she would ever have a place in her life aside from the Ds which would be his. She is now back with the Ds and that banyan tree symbolizes his place in her life. Currently they are all in D house and he's an outsider with only that banyan tree (representing his dreams about their joint future) for company. He cannot even stand being in the periphery in her life so forget about being out of it completely.

Originally posted by: inlieu

As much as we curse the writers at times, it's writing like this that reminds me why I love this show. The banyan tree and the significance of Raghav sleeping there, broken and distraught. It reminded me of two key moments on the show: his despair when Amma was in the hospital and he was in the dargah praying for her and lying on the ground, and then the scene where he asks her if her dream home would have a banyan tree which she would circle as she fasted for him. Amma is his jaan and when she was so ill he felt his own life force might be leaving him. Today his jaan Pallavi's departure was breaking him the same way (also refer to Pallavi saying she thought she was Raghav's jaan). In the second, Raghav had wanted to know if she would ever have a place in her life aside from the Ds which would be his. She is now back with the Ds and that banyan tree symbolizes his place in her life. Currently they are all in D house and he's an outsider with only that banyan tree (representing his dreams about their joint future) for company. He cannot even stand being in the periphery in her life so forget about being out of it completely.

They may not be able to tie up all loose ends but I really liked how they made reference to the various stages in their relationship.

The only gripe I have with the episode is the lack of long scenes because they put in the Milind track in the middle. I'm glad they are showing that parallel track because of the contrast in both marriages but it didn't need to interrupt the flow of the critical scene of Pallavi's outburst and departure. I think she should have had uninterrupted screen time.

Can I also applaud the dialog writers for being able to capture within a few sentences the essence of what Pallavi was thinking and feeling, and her finally voicing what her subconscious mind had added up a long time ago (like we saw her do with Sanki)? Her words to Amruta were perfect and Amruta in turn said what many of us did about supporting whatever Pallavi decided.

Also Amma and Raghav blaming Esha for Raghav's mistakes was another call out of how mother and son don't introspect often, if at all. They probably won't address her bad parenting but yes we were reminded once again of Farhad saying jaisa beta waisi maa.

I absolutely loved the line about a person's true nature never really changing as it's something I've been saying through all the sudharna dialogues. I've also asked a few times if Pallavi had truly understood the real Raghav Rao and what it meant to accept his true nature, so her dialogues about her realization of him not changing was the partial answer to my question. Even if she forgives him, this track serves as a true wake up call where Pallavi's seeing his unmasked face and needs to asses if she wants to be with him and all his mess and what her threshold of tolerance would be in their relationship, since some things will never change. When she refused to go back to her brother in the Hyderabad track, she wasn't armed with the knowledge of his true nature and she had recency bias because he was going through his redemption arc. Now she can see where the lines are. If indeed she discovers that all this was Esha's plotting then she will not be able to stop her protective side from coming out, because she is wired that way. Then she will have a battle between her heart and mind that only she can fight.

Originally posted by: Trina2021

Well said but do you think these writers have the capacity to think about the plot the way you did ? If they did why would they write a track to destroy Raghav?

I think they're thinking about it this way already.

I personally don't feel they destroyed RR. I know there has been a lot of debate on this but I feel he is acting very much in character. All his flaws are on display with both LWR and Pallavi pointing them out.

He needs to deal with his past and his trauma and the CVs' love for OTT drama made them choose this route with Esha. They made it extreme but the core message is very much on point.

They ripped off the band-aid, which was the collection of chances Pallavi and even Amma gave him. So now the wound will be exposed and will have to heal once and for all.

Another excellent episode but Pallavi made me cry today like literally . I cried so much during her scene with Raghav and bravo to Shivangi for enacting Pallavis despair her pain her helplessness with sheer excellence 👏

I was always into Sai Ketan and his emotional scenes as Raghav but Shivangi you did it girl . Loved loved loved that scene and it was all Pallavi today . Sai Ketan did his best to compliment her but It was Pallavis day today and she excelled with distinction 👏❤️

Worst scene today was the last 1 min of the show which ruined the entire episode for me was two lowlives planning & plotting while staying in the mansion . I don’t even understand the reason behind keeping these two actors in the show (one of them can’t even act )till the last day ? They are ruining last few days of bliss for us nothing else .

Precap same .
BTW why do I feel Pallavis is going to return of the mansion very soon max by end of next week ? Bcoz VD & Amma promised. To intervene & we got those bts as well

But that actor playing Easha. Still there in kolhapur posting pics of her day off . Why’s she still there ? 🙄

Originally posted by: inlieu

They may not be able to tie up all loose ends but I really liked how they made reference to the various stages in their relationship. I feel they may be able to address most. They are used to wrap storyline in speed of rabbit on wheels.

The only gripe I have with the episode is the lack of long scenes because they put in the Milind track in the middle. I'm glad they are showing that parallel track because of the contrast in both marriages but it didn't need TK interrupt the flow of the critical scene of Pallavi's outburst and departure. I think she should have had uninterrupted screen time. Yes that put me off too because I FF those scenes and it was frustrating to do everytime I watched the epi yesterday. Today there was less interruption. You'll love it.

Can I also applaud the dialog writers for being able to capture within a few sentences the essence of what Pallavi was thinking and feeling, and her finally voicing what her subconscious mind had added up a long time ago (like we saw her do with Sanki). Her words to Amruta were perfect and Amruta in turn said what many of us did about supporting whatever Pallavi decided. Yes, Pallavi knows a lot of things but she selectively reacts till it crosses limits. We had seen that with VD and now with Raghav. I'm glad it's happening because they had to take out all the issues in the open, only then they can heal

Also Amma and Raghav blaming Esha for Raghav's mistakes was another call out of how mother and son don't introspect often, if at all. They probably won't address her bad parenting but yes we were reminded once again of Farhad saying jaisa beta waisi maa. See I won't talk about Amma here but Raghav didn't blame Esha for the ONS. As far as I read the scene, he blamed Esha for trying to create MU between them, trying to blame murder on her, stealing her designs. Also I really hope Amma addresses the fact that her abandoning him led to all these issues that he lives with.

I absolutely loved the line about a person's true nature never really changing as it's something I've been saying through all the sudharna dialogues. Yes he did a lot of things to pacify her and keep her happy. I was so miffed at how the alcohol chudwana was done. He had to go back to one last drink, addiction isn't easy to give up, you have strong reactions to it. Heck, even something like a tea or coffee addiction is real, here we are talking about alcohol. Raghav can't be treated as a project jisko sudharna hai. I've been waiting to see a midway they arrive at mutually and not with the fear that the other person will leave. Let's see how they address this

I've also asked a few times if Pallavi had truly understood the real Raghav Rao and what it meant to accept his true nature, so her dialogues about her realization of him not changing was the partial answer to my question. Yes she has been giving him a lot of chances, she always had the upper moral ground in this marriage. Even if she forgives him, this track serves as a true wake up call where Pallavi's seeing his unmasked face and needs to asses if she wants to be with him and all his mess and what her threshold of tolerance would be in their relationship, since some things will never change. When she refused to go back to her brother in the Hyderabad track, she wasn't armed with the knowledge of his true nature and she has recency bias because he was going through his redemption arc. Now she can see where the lines are. If indeed she discovers that all this was Esha's plotting then she will not be able to stop her protective side from coming out, because she is wired that way. Then she will have a battle between her heart and mind that only she can fight.

Yes, she needs to decide if they are worth another chance. It is Raghav's chance at for a change taking charge to make things right, fight for the relationship. She's been his emotional anchor all through, can he handle this on his own, for them?

They need to talk to decide where the boundaries lie, what's the tolerance levels in their relationship, just communicate even if you're throwing dirt at the other. The more you keep in the more difficult it will be when things blow out of proportion and it all comes back ten fold.