Charu..its true that one doesn't start loving another person just seeing them in a different dress...but see from shivas side..he is just wishing he looked like a person of ravis likes. He blindly believes what was written in the diary and what sneha told abt ravi..and what he has been seeing abt her obsession with dev since the beginning..he didn't understand that she is changed ..he is flawed there..and his incapability to understand what she wants makes him insecure about himself.
And ravi too doesn't under him..she knows his anger came from sneha and diary..she also knows he was coming close to her before sneha happened. Still she can't understand there might be more to his anger rather than just inferiority complex..she knew him since childhood..knew how confident he was on his own skin. Then what suddenly changed that he started becoming insecure and finding himself inferior to her friends..its not that difficult to atleast try to connect the dots..I mentioned this before..if she had tried to understand the reason behind his anger rather than pacify him to suppress his anger for her in the name of compromise, this wouldn't have turned into such a mess..maybe he is too difficult for her to understand..thats OK.. but trying to understand is also needed in a marrg if one wants it to work.. ravis first dialogue after separation was mein usse kabhi samajh nahin payi..thats true...and shiva said jithna usko samjhne ki koshish ki uthna usse door jaatha gaya..shiva thinks he understood her when he clearly didn't understand her then..
I dnt think they r incompatible..a marrg like theirs with their bg are bound to be incompatible and go through this rough patch to make it strong and compatible.
Wonderful !
Like I said I am trying to understand his insecurities ..if I had, I wouldn't be so lost 😆 From liking to hating him to I don't care...i didn't bother for anyone else in ps 😆nobody else evoke strong reaction from me. . for me , what he did was much worse than what raavi did. Anyways .
Even I can't connect the dots so I can't blame raavi for it..
Reason behind the anger won't help either.... being on both sides , one who loses calm easily and on the other, trying to understand the reason behind the anger of the other person, I can say that its easier said than done..one needs to communicate well to understand the reason behind the anger. It's like..when there is fire , the instinct is to doze it off first rather than trying to look for the reason behind it . If someone acts crazily, ppl try to calm them down rather than racking their brains over why how when .
Raavi knows he has inferiority complex.. family knows..dhara knows.. what r they supposed to do ? For something that they know "doesn't exist" they know it's not real, how can they convince him that his insecurity is baseless? He will still care about raavis friends opinions, her diary, her love for dev etc etc ....This insecurity is only in his mind , the reason for it is baseless...the solution is stupid..funny part is he also knows that's not the solution. only Shiva can overcome it , nobody can help him. The makers failed to develop this whole track...coz these insecurities have less to do with raavi and more with her friends and her past.
I agree with the last para. Very soon this rough patch will be over n they will be like a perfect couple 😳