Why do I fail to understand shivas insecurities ? There is a diff in what somebody likes and what they have and what they actually want. It's not like raavi will start liking shiva if he starts wearing coat pant ? Yes , may be, she will be happy but this alone won't make her happy ..Shiva knows this much ke if she likes a groomed shiva , it's not love, it's a lie..but he doesn't even know if this is what raavi wants. Problem is def more from his side than hers.
Gol.gol. baatein
Charu..its true that one doesn't start loving another person just seeing them in a different dress...but see from shivas side..he is just wishing he looked like a person of ravis likes. He blindly believes what was written in the diary and what sneha told abt ravi..and what he has been seeing abt her obsession with dev since the beginning..he didn't understand that she is changed ..he is flawed there..and his incapability to understand what she wants makes him insecure about himself.
And ravi too doesn't under him..she knows his anger came from sneha and diary..she also knows he was coming close to her before sneha happened. Still she can't understand there might be more to his anger rather than just inferiority complex..she knew him since childhood..knew how confident he was on his own skin. Then what suddenly changed that he started becoming insecure and finding himself inferior to her friends..its not that difficult to atleast try to connect the dots..I mentioned this before..if she had tried to understand the reason behind his anger rather than pacify him to suppress his anger for her in the name of compromise, this wouldn't have turned into such a mess..maybe he is too difficult for her to understand..thats OK.. but trying to understand is also needed in a marrg if one wants it to work.. ravis first dialogue after separation was mein usse kabhi samajh nahin payi..thats true...and shiva said jithna usko samjhne ki koshish ki uthna usse door jaatha gaya..shiva thinks he understood her when he clearly didn't understand her then..
I dnt think they r incompatible..a marrg like theirs with their bg are bound to be incompatible and go through this rough patch to make it strong and compatible.