Originally posted by: manny136
Dhara wasnt wrong to bargain but she was totally bossy and heavy handed about it. Also I get rishitas resentment about the money issue but the job issue she herself keeps on flip flopping about it and we can't all blame Dev for it when the rest of the family support her and she herself was so gungho about it. Rishita is her own worst enemy letting her flip flop mood to change her stance everyday practically. Her attitude is also not positive she only calls raavi Coz she needs her help get mad at her for not being responsive. She tells raavi we will divide up the chores when discussing her new job and her college classes but then flips the next day when raavi asks her about what time she will come back coz she needs to pay her fees. Rishita is the architect of her own misery in terms of her career and ambitions especially now that besides Dev even Suman is fine with her working. Blaming others is just wasting time she needs to just get off her butt and go for it.
Manny..I agree with wht u wrote regarding rishitha in general..but regarding dev I totally disagree..
What dev has been doing is what I call gas lighting..
Here are the top signs that someone is gaslighting you:
- They deny things you know to be true. ...
- They pretend to be concerned for your psychological well-being. ...
- They isolate you from other people. ...
- They minimize your feelings and use them against you. ...
- They insist getting help is proof you aren't stable.
He totally denied Rishita’s reasonable concerns regarding the working of family..its finances and over dependency..
He pretends he cares for her happiness but when the time comes he leaves her alone to fight for herself..
She doesn't even have the freedom to openly talk with her family..though he is all sweet talks abt family and love.
All her concerns and reservations regarding dev and her as a couple like cooking pizza or financial freedom or better job is looked down upon or considered selfish from her side.
And i would say dev is one of the worst kind of manipulators..with regards to rishitha..he acts as a decent man..but he is and always has been very selfish.. rishitha is a victim here..no wonder she is not sure abt working or not..when she got the job, dev was emotionally blackmailing her with silent treatment and taunts..and when ur husband does that to u behind the curtains, no matter how much others in the family support..it shakes ur confidence..becz at the end of the day peace is what matters most..and if there is no peace between a couple then it would ruin their life..and dev so easily lied on her face that she is free to work if she really wanted..when it was him showing all the tantrums.. asking what is ravi left..why rishitha can't do what ravi can..
No matter what..no-one has disgusted me as much as dev in that house.