Originally posted by: akki27
It ITV prblm...one side they show how progressive ml are, supporting their wives and all but these small things they forgot.
its such regressive thing to show on TV that men can keep the plates to sink...i really hate it
but these things do happen in real life, i have example at my home even...old generation people still follow this not keeping plates in sink..even left overe things only eaten by females of house
My inlaws has this issue.initially in first year, my in-laws came to visit us within 4 months of my coming to US. I was anyways not great at cooking. And mother-in-law would create a scene if I don’t make breakfast (fresh bhakri) and lunch before going to work ( here it starts sharp 8 am & add to that commute)
And you come back and have to cook dinner. Which I was happily doing it anyways.
At that time, us & my jethji stayed together. (He was unmarried) and our deal was I cook , you guys clean.
Did 3 times cooking for couple of weeks after in-laws came. They didn’t like their sons helping with dishes, nor liked me using dishwasher 🤷🏻♀️.
After 2 weeks, gave pravachan go pati & jeth: either I work or I cook 3 times & clean.and in no ways I went to 5 years of college to do later! I enjoy my work. So speak up. Problem was solved for good. Ofcourse tanaas still continue😄
I also have Dhara in my life- my husband is youngest & their elder sister is 9 years older to him.
Her & her family lived close by in initial years. And even though she was done with child births & pregnancies- her moodswings were quite similar to Dhara’s with Raavi & Rishita. Very insecure, especially since I could manage our house our way! Thankfully they moved! Distance helps keep relationships healthy. Though she still gets those Mood swings. And I let her ‘manage’ everytime she visits.
My next tricky trap is, her son now stays with us past 2 years as his work is close to our house. And he is dating non gujju girl. Preparing for next real life kaand when my nanad & sasuma get to know about this. I was only non Patel girl in their family & that was Hawwww for all. Still get ‘outsider’ aapda jevu nahin’ treatment. Eventhough I am gujju😄)
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Edited by spdp - 3 years ago