Anupamaa and my life - Page 2

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Pardon me for this if u r babuji fan but I get negative feelings from that man , he is hindrance in anu's life.

He is not allowing anu to move out of d house after divorce , he only say anu is his daughter Coz like others he to want a glorified maid for d house varna what's d point of Anu staying in d house after divorce ? He mostly Is a mute spectator when anu is humilated mercilessly.

Anu has her own maternal house she will heal & grow faster outside than this house after constantly seeing Vanya infront of her eyes , she can still be mother to her kids .

I don't trust babuji at all . Only samar & Kinjal r well wishers of Anu.

Exactly, he holds highest authority and stays silent all the time. He even used emotional blackmail to make her stay!

If he is capable of all that, why don't speak up when she wronged. Piche se sympathy or moh banana ka kya fayda! He is basically head of the house, who gave silent support to all those years of abuse and still counting! Kinjal and Samar both are good, but what is the use - Anu silence them when they are speaking truth.

It really takes courage to share your story especially when the memories are not the happiest ones. Kudos to you for sharing and really glad you found a better life for you.

I kept oscillating between whether Anupama is right or wrong in her decision of staying in Shah house. I feel its very easy to judge someone and declare him/her wrong because we dont agree with them because we are not in their shoes. It takes a lot of empathy to think from the point of view of someone else.

Anupama definitely has a maayka but she spent the first 18 years of her life there out of which we do not remember our infant years. So roughly spent 14 years there. Compared to that she spent 26 years in her sasuraal which is almost twice the time she spent in her mayka. She has practically grown up in her sasuraal. People can choose to differ from my opinion but when you spend so much time somewhere, it automatically becomes your default home. It takes a huge amount of courage and self belief to leave such a place and start your life from scratch away from your kids. Anupama does not have that yet, and the way she has lived her life up until now its not fair to expect her to change overnight.

Hopefully she will be there soon in her life where she could take that step and live the life of an an empowered woman.

Originally posted by: sillibilli

I kept oscillating between whether Anupama is right or wrong in her decision of staying in Shah house. I feel its very easy to judge someone and declare him/her wrong because we dont agree with them because we are not in their shoes. It takes a lot of empathy to think from the point of view of someone else.

Anupama definitely has a maayka but she spent the first 18 years of her life there out of which we do not remember our infant years. So roughly spent 14 years there. Compared to that she spent 26 years in her sasuraal which is almost twice the time she spent in her mayka. She has practically grown up in her sasuraal. People can choose to differ from my opinion but when you spend so much time somewhere, it automatically becomes your default home. It takes a huge amount of courage and self belief to leave such a place and start your life from scratch away from your kids. Anupama does not have that yet, and the way she has lived her life up until now its not fair to expect her to change overnight.

Hopefully she will be there soon in her life where she could take that step and live the life of an an empowered woman.

Jab shaadi hi nahi raha toh kounsa sasuraal? Nope, I cannot find one good reason for her staying in her ex-in-laws/ex-husband's house. She may have a share in the house too, but living in the same house is weird.

The minute she signed the divorce papers, she is expected to move on. There is no other way about it. She can come up with an arrangement to meet with the Shah family once in a while if she is so attached to them. But, all of them living under the same roof is strange and unusal.

You are entitled to your opinion, and the CVs to theirs! Btw, if you read my post, I nowhere wrote it is not weird to live with ex-husband and his current wife, it definitely is!

But the question is why should Anupama leave when she has a share and legal claim in the house? Why did Vanya not leave and kept living in Shah house? Kavya has only her husband who she loves and is attached to, she does not care about the rest of the family, so why does she weirdly want to live with her husband's ex wife?

Who will decide who should leave so that it is not weird? And please do not give me a regressive view that Vanraj is the "beta" so he will live! Anupama has also given her blood and sweat to that house for majority of her life. It is as much her home and now she has a legal share too! So why is everyone asking her to leave? Why not Vanya?

Dee -----Kudos to u dear for finding your way out and finding unr partner.

I find it very tough to connect at times due to way Anu reacts to situations and my Amma aunts all find her right whereas I find it seeking validation.

I despite the shit that happened in my life want to be Anju too. Sometimes eat what I want, spend a day in a month with myself and my bff, take rest when sick despite the inconvenience it will cause since others can cook only basics.

My Amma says moms should never be selfish my bro says if u are not happy u cannot keep others happy. It is ok to be slightly selfish one in awhile