Bhagggg Anuj Bhagggg ! DT NOTE Pg3,6 - Page 4

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

@bold : I am noticing healthy criticism is also not allowed for not character and even members are not allowed to talk about anupama set groupism and cold war! Seems like yaha kisi higher authority se instruction diya gaya hai, may be from the makers that jao and jitni bhi on set groupism and on set cold war posts hai sabko close karo as a part of any damage control that's why audiences are not allowed to make any post on set groupism and set cold wars !

Same applies to anupama character also! We are not allowed to talk any minus points of anupama characters even though she is just fictional character!

Tumne dekha overnight anupama forum mai sab kaise and kitna change hua hai! Itna zyada change aise he nahi aa sakta! Kuch to bahot bada chakkar hai! And usi chakkar ke wajah se anupama forum overnight itna change ho gaya jo last 1 year mai humne kabhi dekha nahi tha!

Tum he batao hum log toh day 1 se anupama forum mai hai na! 1 saal ho gaya humko iss forum mai! Kya kabhi itna zyada overnight change dekha!!!??

Lol this may be last post, iske baad yeh thread close bhi kiya ja sakta hai ! If you want , we can connect on instagram! there is no restrictions!

We r seeing changes because there is a report option too in our posts....the DT don't go to each topic n scan through the post.....but once a topic is reported the msg goes to them for review n if they find that rules r not followed then warning or closing of topic is what is seen next (the rules r pinned on the top section of the forum page)

There has never been any hidden superior authority here other than DT ...n whether it's fictional or real...no sort of bashing or name calling has been allowed in any show page of the forum ....I was member in many shows page before n also co-admin for one page n this was done there too....things go out of hand very quickly so they take steps on initial stage itself if it comes to their notice

With the coming of new character /actor ....many new people have joined this page too ,some r active n some silent ....there r many who will not say anything but simply silently without engaging will report the post

u never know who would have reported the post... because without it the scanning of each n every post is not possible

Ps: it seems off to us because here there is actually one lead ....see the mess in the page were there a multiple couple leads. They have same rules all across to keep everything in check

Originally posted by: deepzz

Her intention of divorce was to just get rid of Vanraj as a husband. She as a wife doesn't want to answer him, stay with him, sleep with him. She couldn't tolerate his touch or him being called her husband. That's it. This is where it ends but with the rest of Shah family, she never had an intention to cut off herself completely from them because she has never lived outside the Shah family. Still she was trying after coming back from the resort but the very first chance babuji gave her to stay back, she took it because this what she wants-her family minus Vanraj the husband.

She never considered Shah family especially baa as toxic because had that been the case, she would have revolted even before knowing about Vanraj's affair but she didn't do it. She thinks this is how a saas is and she cannot be changed but this 26 years of her stay in sasuraal has taught her that whatever little unfulfilled expectations she had from her MIL, maybe her DILs will also have the same and that's why she tries to be supportive of her DILs.

Now with Anuj's entry, I hope she will slowly create a world outside the Shah family not necessarily to be with Anuj but for herself. I hope she learn this.

Anupama's case is like a bird who has been caged for a long time. Even if we let the bird free, it will choose cage instead of sky because cage is what it has known its whole life. It will take time to fly and will also come back to cage after every small flight but with time and after n number of flights, it will learn that sky is its true calling.

This is such a lovely post. It is true that in a normal family, no daughter-in-law, even if she is loved the most, stays in the same family post divorce. If we see production wise, one of the reason that she is staying in Shah household is only because if she leaves, there will be lesser content to show. I am not backing Anupamaa to stay at the household but it is what is being shown to us.

Originally posted by: sushups

We r seeing changes because there is a report option too in our posts....the DT don't go to each topic n scan through the post.....but once a topic is reported the msg goes to them for review n if they find that rules r not followed then warning or closing of topic is what is seen next (the rules r pinned on the top section)

There has never been any hidden superior authority here other than DT ...n whether it's fictional or real...no sort of bashing or name calling has been allowed in any show page of the forum ....I was member in many shows page before n also co-admin for one page n this was done there too....things go out of hand very quickly so they take steps on initial stage itself if it comes to their notice

With the coming of new character /actor ....many new people have joined this page too ,some r active n some silent ....there r many who will not say anything but simply silently without engaging will report the post

u never know who would have reported the post... because without it the scanning of each n every post is not possible

Ps: it seems off to us because here there is actually one lead ....see the mess in the page were there a multiple couple leads. They have same rules all across to keep everything in check

Here "Aunty" nd "Mataji" words are considered as name calling!!! isnt it shocking?!!! I mean one can't called mummy ke age ki lady ko aunty!!!

I mean ek fictional character ke liye basic auntyji/mataji words are not allowed!!!

Kisi member ke sath jagda karna galat hota hai, gaaliya bolna galat hota hai yeh sab toh pata hai india forums mai but set ke groupism ki baat bhi nahi kar sakte and basic words for criticism bhi use nahi kar sakte yeh sab toh bahot naya lagta hai!!!

Agar koi report bhi karta hai toh yeh log jo bhi modes hai woh kya dekhte nahi hai ki sahi mai kisi bad word ka use hua hai ki nahi!!!! Muje laga tha gaaliya and gande names ko name calling bolte hoge!! First time i am seeing normal words jo actual feeling ko express karne ke liye use karo woh bhi not allowed here!!

And i am on india forums for more than 10 years now!

Pavitra rishta, silsila ,balika vadhu bahot se forum mai itne saal active rahe hai but forums mai kabhi on set issues discussion ko close nahi kiya jata tha! on set issues, groupism, cold wars par bhi topic bante the and members apna opinion dete bhi the!

Anupama forum mai kuch to bada dhamaka hua hai! Dekho na overnight sab kuch badal gya! members bhi badal gaye and rules bhi!

Slowly and steadily i am moving to instagram community and other public forums for the sake of freedom to share opinion!

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Here "Aunty" nd "Mataji" words are considered as name calling!!! isnt it shocking?!!! I mean one can't called mummy ke age ki lady ko aunty!!!

I mean ek fictional character ke liye basic auntyji/mataji words are not allowed!!!

Kisi member ke sath jagda karna galat hota hai, gaaliya bolna galat hota hai yeh sab toh pata hai india forums mai but set ke groupism ki baat bhi nahi kar sakte and basic words for criticism bhi use nahi kar sakte yeh sab toh bahot naya lagta hai!!!

Agar koi report bhi karta hai toh yeh log jo bhi modes hai woh kya dekhte nahi hai ki sahi mai kisi bad word ka use hua hai ki nahi!!!! Muje laga tha gaaliya and gande names ko name calling bolte hoge!! First time i am seeing normal words jo actual feeling ko express karne ke liye use karo woh bhi not allowed here!!

And i am on india forums for more than 10 years now!

Pavitra rishta, silsila ,balika vadhu bahot se forum mai itne saal active rahe hai but forums mai kabhi on set issues discussion ko close nahi kiya jata tha! on set issues, groupism, cold wars par bhi topic bante the and members apna opinion dete bhi the!

Anupama forum mai kuch to bada dhamaka hua hai! Dekho na overnight sab kuch badal gya! members bhi badal gaye and rules bhi!

Slowly and steadily i am moving to instagram community and other public forums for the sake of freedom to share opinion!

So mujhe yeh kuch naya nahi lag raha😆tumne jo jo shows ki baat ki woh bahut ache wale forum page hai ladaku wale nahi😆...though yeh bhi ladaku wala nahi hai but member member depend karta hai....I remember at last we had to create a twitter group jaha dil kholkar we used to talk but on forum we had to be under rules .

Lagta hai yaha bhi kuch fans aa gaye hai lol couple aur cheater couple ke😆

Ps :u know there was one word used in show itself once but humne usi ko baar uss kiya kisi character ke liye uss forum page mein and humara AT was locked for 24 he for warning..weird right😆

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

@bold : Janm nahi hua hai shah family mai and anandi ke jaise balika vadhu bhi nahi thi anupama!

Shah family se zyada toh muje dadisa ki balika vadhu ki family zyada acchi lagti hai. Jagya jab gauri se shaddi kar k aya tab dadisa and bhairav ne anadi ko ghar mai rakkha and jagya/gauri ko nikala tha!

That is called progressive soch!

Unlike this show anandi and gauri dono he jagya ke sath ghar mai nahi rehti thi!

Agar bapuji ko lagta tha ki anandi ke jaise anupama bhi bilkul sahi hai toh vanraj kavya ko kahi aur rehne ke liye kyun nahi bola jaise dadisa/bhairav ne jagya/gauri ko kahi aur rehne ko bolat tha!!!

Dadisa was illiterate orthodox lady way more than shah family but must say those people were way more progressive than baa/bapuji and entire shah family!

I haven't watched Balika Vadhu ..so can't comment on that.

Staying with Shah family is not correct but that's what I said she has yet to start thinking of a life away from Shah family. Ideally, Shah family should have let go Vanraj and kavya as they were the cheaters.

Regarding janam nahi hua tha vaha par, jiss bandi ko yeh sikhaya gaya hoga ki saas ko maa manna chaiye, kya usko yeh nahi sikhaya gaya hoga ki sasuraal hi uska real ghar hai. That's why I said she has never lived outside Shah house because she considers Shah house as her real actual house. This is the conditioning Anu has gone throughout her childhood and this is the thought process which the current generation is trying not to pass on to the next generation.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

@bold : Janm nahi hua hai shah family mai and anandi ke jaise balika vadhu bhi nahi thi anupama!

Shah family se zyada toh muje dadisa ki balika vadhu ki family zyada acchi lagti hai. Jagya jab gauri se shaddi kar k aya tab dadisa and bhairav ne anadi ko ghar mai rakkha and jagya/gauri ko nikala tha!

That is called progressive soch!

Unlike this show anandi and gauri dono he jagya ke sath ghar mai nahi rehti thi!

Agar bapuji ko lagta tha ki anandi ke jaise anupama bhi bilkul sahi hai toh vanraj kavya ko kahi aur rehne ke liye kyun nahi bola jaise dadisa/bhairav ne jagya/gauri ko kahi aur rehne ko bolat tha!!!

Dadisa was illiterate orthodox lady way more than shah family but must say those people were way more progressive than baa/bapuji and entire shah family!

Well said... Singh family was far better than shah's even though they belonged to a village... Babuji is nothing compared to what bhairon was for Anandi... Even dadisa started changing once the affair was exposed... Anandi actually got wings to fly after divorce although she continued to live with the singhs

Originally posted by: VioletOrchid123

Well said... Singh family was far better than shah's even though they belonged to a village... Babuji is nothing compared to what bhairon was for Anandi... Even dadisa started changing once the affair was exposed... Anandi actually got wings to fly after divorce although she continued to live with the singhs

Very true! Bapuji is nothing compared to what bhairon was for anandi! Entire shah family is nothing in front of bhairon and dadisa!!

After jagya's affair and marriage with gauri, Dadisa changed completely, she thrown out her laadla pota with his new wife and that rural old lady dadisa was way way more progressive than bapuji and singhs were way more selfless than shahs.

There was compassion and respect for balika vadhu anandi in each and every singhfamember's heart! Anandi was balika vadhu but she got wings to fly after divorce although she continues to live with singhs!

Bapuji and story of anupama is nothing in front of classic balika vadhu story and specially rural rajasthani singh family like bhairon and dadisa!

Rural family of village is way more progressive and real than shah family of ahmedabad!

Originally posted by: deepzz

I haven't watched Balika Vadhu ..so can't comment on that.

Staying with Shah family is not correct but that's what I said she has yet to start thinking of a life away from Shah family. Ideally, Shah family should have let go Vanraj and kavya as they were the cheaters.

Regarding janam nahi hua tha vaha par, jiss bandi ko yeh sikhaya gaya hoga ki saas ko maa manna chaiye, kya usko yeh nahi sikhaya gaya hoga ki sasuraal hi uska real ghar hai. That's why I said she has never lived outside Shah house because she considers Shah house as her real actual house. This is the conditioning Anu has gone throughout her childhood and this is the thought process which the current generation is trying not to pass on to the next generation.

@bold : Yeh line har balika vadhu ko jo anupama se 100 times orthodox background se hoti hai unko bhi bachpan se bola jata hai that sasural he uska real ghar hai!

But trust me aj ke time mai chote chote villages mai, rural area mai rehnewale log bhi anupama and shah family se zyada progressive and selfless hote hai and yeh mai khud dekhti aa rahi hu!

I am working with women empowerment cell and ngo, waha maine dekha hai ab log dhire dhire change hone lage hai! Har koi families shah family ke jaise orthodox and selfish nahi hota hai! In fact mai toh chote chote kasbe and village and rural area mai rehnewale logo ko zyada progressive dekh rahi hu jo unke ghar ki balika vadhu yah bahu ke sath jab beta galat karta hai tab bete ko ghar ke bahar nikal dete and bahu ko ghar mai respect se rakhte hai !

Kabhi mauka mile toh zarur dekhna anandi ko uske chote kasbe mai rehnewale sasural walo ne kaise wings diye the or kaise selflessly and respectfully dusri shaddi hone tak ghar mai rakkha tha!

Shah family and anupama's story and pain is nothing in front of those balika vadhus and unke selfless sasuralwalo ke samne! Woh log chote se kasbe mai zindgi bitate hai par unki soch shah family ke jaise choti nahi hoti hai or na he woh log shahs ke jaise selfish hote hai! Kasbe mai rehnewali dadisa ne apne jaan se pyare pote ko ghar se nikal kar apne ghar ki balika vadhu ka na sirf sath diya par uske liye acche se acche ladka dhoondh kar dusri shaddi karane ka sapna dekha tha!

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Very true! Bapuji is nothing compared to what bhairon was for anandi! Entire shah family is nothing in front of bhairon and dadisa!!

After jagya's affair and marriage with gauri, Dadisa changed completely, she thrown out her laadla pota with his new wife and that rural old lady dadisa was way way more progressive than bapuji and singhs were way more selfless than shahs.

There was compassion and respect for balika vadhu anandi in each and every singhfamember's heart! Anandi was balika vadhu but she got wings to fly after divorce although she continues to live with singhs!

Bapuji and story of anupama is nothing in front of classic balika vadhu story and specially rural rajasthani singh family like bhairon and dadisa!

Rural family of village is way more progressive and real than shah family of ahmedabad!

Exactly!!!

Dadisa's redemption started with affair revelation... After that only one time i disliked her was when she asked anandi to accept jagya back,but anandi refused and bhairon as usual stood by her.... The best bond was anandi with sumitra and bhairon... Baa anupama ke liye koi real maa waali feelings nahi rakhti unlike sumitra who was just like a real mom... Babuji bhi anupama ko usi ghar me rakhke apna selfishness prove kiya tha.

My inlaws have been in England for more than 30 years, and they are the worst kind of orthodox fcking backward people I've ever met. None of my grandmothers, great grand mothers, have been ever so dominating to their daughters-in law. Here, I have been threatened to stay at home, smile, cook, clean, and praise my mother in law, if not, I can go back to my parents' house.