Bhagggg Anuj Bhagggg ! DT NOTE Pg3,6 - Page 3

I can understand that shah family is orthodox specially baa. But how can she point a finger on anupama after what her own son vanraj did. So according to baa, vanraj is free to have extra marital affair, get re married to girlfriend, live with second wife in the same house but anupama cant even dance with her friend kyunki is umr mein ye sab shobha nahi deta. and i am wondering where was bapuji at this time, waise to bahut gyan dete hain sabko lekin jab jarurat hai tab kabhi present nahi rahenge.

sometimes i think when toshu had outburst and he blamed all the family members including baa and bapuji, his each and every word was so true.

Originally posted by: dipali13

Hey Tanya anu ne jo kuch likha bilkul sahi likha aur kiya bhi👏😳 par problem is ke Anupama ke age group ke aas paas ki ladies ko bachpan se yehi sikhaya jata hai ke without man you are not safe yaha Toronto mai mai kitni ladies ko janti hu jo abuse seh rahi hai mostly husband se but lots of time family members also 😕 jab bahot jyada ho jata hai to wo mujh se baat karti hai aur mai usee move out ka kehti hu to sab ke sab ka reply ek hi hota hai ke naa baba ham akele nahi jee sakte 😲 aur ye sab well educated hai kehti hai ke ham teri tarah strong nahi hai, kuch unch nich ho gaya to? Wo sab ajj bhi sab kuch sehti hai par akeli rehne se unko darr lagta hai

Dipaliji jinko akele rehne se darr lagta hai woh ladies sirf sehti rehti hai , kabhi divorce nahi leti hai issi reason ki wajah se! Like the ladies you are talking about!

Anupama ne divorce liya he kyun at first place? What is the purpose of divorce?? Divorce ke baad bhi uska same life hai jo divorce ke pehle tha ! Divorce ke pehle bhi she was answerable to every next person and after divorce also she is answerable to every next person!

Jab ussi ghar mai rehna tha ! Ussi vanraj se dosti karne mai problem nahi hai ! Usi baa-Bapuji ko jivan ka aadhar bana kar rehna he tha toh fir divorce liya he kyun?? Yeh sab toh bina divorce ke bhi ho sakta hai !!

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

I can understand that shah family is orthodox specially baa. But how can she point a finger on anupama after what her own son vanraj did. So according to baa, vanraj is free to have extra marital affair, get re married to girlfriend, live with second wife in the same house but anupama cant even dance with her friend kyunki is umr mein ye sab shobha nahi deta. and i am wondering where was bapuji at this time, waise to bahut gyan dete hain sabko lekin jab jarurat hai tab kabhi present nahi rahenge.

sometimes i think when toshu had outburst and he blamed all the family members including baa and bapuji, his each and every word was so true.

For me , correct point matters a lot than way of speaking. Toshu had spoken damn true words for entire orthodox/hypocrite/rigid/conservative/old fashion shah family and must say anupama is no less .

Time to time she has proven that she is ready wear
orthodox/hypocrite/rigid/conservative/old fashion thought process of ex in law family by considering it like real diamond necklace.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

For me , correct point matters a lot than way of speaking. Toshu had spoken damn true words for entire orthodox/hypocrite/rigid/conservative/old fashion shah family and must say anupama is no less .

Time to time she has proven that she is ready wear
orthodox/hypocrite/rigid/conservative/old fashion thought process of ex in law family by considering it like real diamond necklace.

absolutely correct. when toshu was speaking all that everyone was so shocked and I was like, "Sahi to keh raha hai bechara"🤣

rakhi dave is much better than anu because at least she answers back. whatever she does is for her daughter. though her idea of happiness for kinjal is misplaced but at least she says the truth on everyones face and doesnt take a shit of shah family just because she is a woman and that too ladkiwale but unfortunately such confident woman is shown as a negative character. thats the problem of tv industry, agar ideal aurat dikhani hai to wo anu jaisi hogi, doormat aur agar wo apne haq ke liye zubaan khole to wo vamp.

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

absolutely correct. when toshu was speaking all that everyone was so shocked and I was like, "Sahi to keh raha hai bechara"🤣

rakhi dave is much better than anu because at least she answers back. whatever she does is for her daughter. though her idea of happiness for kinjal is misplaced but at least she says the truth on everyones face and doesnt take a shit of shah family just because she is a woman and that too ladkiwale but unfortunately such confident woman is shown as a negative character. thats the problem of tv industry, agar ideal aurat dikhani hai to wo anu jaisi hogi, doormat aur agar wo apne haq ke liye zubaan khole to wo vamp.

Lol I can connect with rakhi but can’t with lead because lead is damn unrealistic and such characters exists only in imagination. Real mai aise koi divorce ke baad bhi controlling ex in law family ke sath nahi rehta hai 😬😬

And as I said no women should follow anupama’s footsteps and lead answerable life to every next person .

Rakhi is way more realistic character than lead because lead jaise ex-sasural mai rehnewali kisi bhi age group ki lady ko real life mai maine kabhi nahi dekha hai so lead jaise character sirf TRP ke liye imagination world mai likkhe jate hai! 🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Seems like anupama’s parvarish is done in very conservative/orthodox surrounding by her mother .

Anupama herself is from conservative/orthodox family background may be that’s why she has no idea about how women leads life independently after divorce in real world unlike her who acts like doormat in front of ex in law family on the name of “sanskar” and she is not aware with the fact that “Sanskar “ doesn’t ask anyone to lead answerable and doormat life in front of ex in laws🤢

Neither anupama’s actions/decisions can be called “correct” nor this show is giving any realistic message .

They are misleading all the women who are already suffering just for the sake of TRP

Her intention of divorce was to just get rid of Vanraj as a husband. She as a wife doesn't want to answer him, stay with him, sleep with him. She couldn't tolerate his touch or him being called her husband. That's it. This is where it ends but with the rest of Shah family, she never had an intention to cut off herself completely from them because she has never lived outside the Shah family. Still she was trying after coming back from the resort but the very first chance babuji gave her to stay back, she took it because this what she wants-her family minus Vanraj the husband.

She never considered Shah family especially baa as toxic because had that been the case, she would have revolted even before knowing about Vanraj's affair but she didn't do it. She thinks this is how a saas is and she cannot be changed but this 26 years of her stay in sasuraal has taught her that whatever little unfulfilled expectations she had from her MIL, maybe her DILs will also have the same and that's why she tries to be supportive of her DILs.

Now with Anuj's entry, I hope she will slowly create a world outside the Shah family not necessarily to be with Anuj but for herself. I hope she learn this.

Anupama's case is like a bird who has been caged for a long time. Even if we let the bird free, it will choose cage instead of sky because cage is what it has known its whole life. It will take time to fly and will also come back to cage after every small flight but with time and after n number of flights, it will learn that sky is its true calling.

Originally posted by: deepzz

Her intention of divorce was to just get rid of Vanraj as a husband. She as a wife doesn't want to answer him, stay with him, sleep with him. She couldn't tolerate his touch or him being called her husband. That's it. This is where it ends but with the rest of Shah family, she never had an intention to cut off herself completely from them because she has never lived outside the Shah family. Still she was trying after coming back from the resort but the very first chance babuji gave her to stay back, she took it because this what she wants-her family minus Vanraj the husband.

She never considered Shah family especially baa as toxic because had that been the case, she would have revolted even before knowing about Vanraj's affair but she didn't do it. She thinks this is how a saas is and she cannot be changed but this 26 years of her stay in sasuraal has taught her that whatever little unfulfilled expectations she had from her MIL, maybe her DILs will also have the same and that's why she tries to be supportive of her DILs.

Now with Anuj's entry, I hope she will slowly create a world outside the Shah family not necessarily to be with Anuj but for herself. I hope she learn this.

Anupama's case is like a bird who has been caged for a long time. Even if we let the bird free, it will choose cage instead of sky because cage is what it has known its whole life. It will take time to fly and will also come back to cage after every small flight but with time and after n number of flights, it will learn that sky is its true calling.

So beautifully written and this could be the reason why anu accepted staying back

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

I am seeing high possibility about Anuj becomes like her . Pyar insaan ko sher bhi bana sakea hai or gadha bhi bana sakta hai 😆😆

Better Anuj finds life partner from the progressive background. Here anupama is from very orthodox/old fashion/rigid family background. Aisi ladies ko unke pinjre se nikalte nikalte kai bar aisa hota hai ki bichara men bhi uske pinjare mai kaid ho jata hai .

Totally agree with you as usual Tania...

Anu is a woman who is currently being the live-in doormat of not only her cheater EX-husband, but also his parents, plus his new wife for heaven's sake...

I am seriously going to stop watching this show for good if they show Anuj actively trying to get Anu out of this chidiyaghar and her constantly refusing... like it's bad enough she waited for a man to come and rescue her, and now she won't even let him do the rescuing?? 🤡

Dumb/doormat hone ke bhi hadh hone chahiye...

Also on a side note don't you think it's ridiculous how we aren't allowed to make fun of Anu's character on this forum anymore lol? She's literally a fictional character lmao, as long as we don't bash actors (who are obviously real) I don't see any problem, but apparently there is one lol 🤓.

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Totally agree with you as usual Tania...

Anu is a woman who is currently being the live-in doormat of not only her cheater EX-husband, but also his parents, plus his new wife for heaven's sake...

I am seriously going to stop watching this show for good if they show Anuj actively trying to get Anu out of this chidiyaghar and her constantly refusing... like it's bad enough she waited for a man to come and rescue her, and now she won't even let him do the rescuing?? 🤡

Dumb/doormat hone ke bhi hadh hone chahiye...

Also on a side note don't you think it's ridiculous how we aren't allowed to make fun of Anu's character on this forum anymore lol? She's literally a fictional character lmao, as long as we don't bash actors (who are obviously real) I don't see any problem, but apparently there is one lol 🤓.

@bold : I am noticing healthy criticism is also not allowed for not character and even members are not allowed to talk about anupama set groupism and cold war! Seems like yaha kisi higher authority se instruction diya gaya hai, may be from the makers that jao and jitni bhi on set groupism and on set cold war posts hai sabko close karo as a part of any damage control that's why audiences are not allowed to make any post on set groupism and set cold wars !

Same applies to anupama character also! We are not allowed to talk any minus points of anupama characters even though she is just fictional character!

Tumne dekha overnight anupama forum mai sab kaise and kitna change hua hai! Itna zyada change aise he nahi aa sakta! Kuch to bahot bada chakkar hai! And usi chakkar ke wajah se anupama forum overnight itna change ho gaya jo last 1 year mai humne kabhi dekha nahi tha!

Tum he batao hum log toh day 1 se anupama forum mai hai na! 1 saal ho gaya humko iss forum mai! Kya kabhi itna zyada overnight change dekha!!!??

Lol this may be last post, iske baad yeh thread close bhi kiya ja sakta hai ! If you want , we can connect on instagram! there is no restrictions!

Originally posted by: deepzz

Her intention of divorce was to just get rid of Vanraj as a husband. She as a wife doesn't want to answer him, stay with him, sleep with him. She couldn't tolerate his touch or him being called her husband. That's it. This is where it ends but with the rest of Shah family, she never had an intention to cut off herself completely from them because she has never lived outside the Shah family. Still she was trying after coming back from the resort but the very first chance babuji gave her to stay back, she took it because this what she wants-her family minus Vanraj the husband.

She never considered Shah family especially baa as toxic because had that been the case, she would have revolted even before knowing about Vanraj's affair but she didn't do it. She thinks this is how a saas is and she cannot be changed but this 26 years of her stay in sasuraal has taught her that whatever little unfulfilled expectations she had from her MIL, maybe her DILs will also have the same and that's why she tries to be supportive of her DILs.

Now with Anuj's entry, I hope she will slowly create a world outside the Shah family not necessarily to be with Anuj but for herself. I hope she learn this.

Anupama's case is like a bird who has been caged for a long time. Even if we let the bird free, it will choose cage instead of sky because cage is what it has known its whole life. It will take time to fly and will also come back to cage after every small flight but with time and after n number of flights, it will learn that sky is its true calling.

@bold : Janm nahi hua hai shah family mai and anandi ke jaise balika vadhu bhi nahi thi anupama!

Shah family se zyada toh muje dadisa ki balika vadhu ki family zyada acchi lagti hai. Jagya jab gauri se shaddi kar k aya tab dadisa and bhairav ne anadi ko ghar mai rakkha and jagya/gauri ko nikala tha!

That is called progressive soch!

Unlike this show anandi and gauri dono he jagya ke sath ghar mai nahi rehti thi!

Agar bapuji ko lagta tha ki anandi ke jaise anupama bhi bilkul sahi hai toh vanraj kavya ko kahi aur rehne ke liye kyun nahi bola jaise dadisa/bhairav ne jagya/gauri ko kahi aur rehne ko bolat tha!!!

Dadisa was illiterate orthodox lady way more than shah family but must say those people were way more progressive than baa/bapuji and entire shah family!