Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #87|Hotstar and its Kaands - Page 36

Originally posted by: milkcakejamun

Decided I would go on a dinky website to watch 😆 Having a hard time paying attention as is 😆

I watched some scenes on Insta but there is too much yelling, crying and humiliation of Dhara by Suman in front of Anita.

Why was Anita in Pandya Niwas in the first place? Why did she there come in yesterday's episode? Raavi does not live there any more, that cannot be the reason. There is absolutely no explanation for that from the writers.

Originally posted by: Mountains_Lakes

You don't want to see it on IG. Safer than dinky website😂😂

Which IG account uploads the whole episode This was a snooze fest watching it the first time, I can't imagine watching, uploading, and then re-watching afterwards to make sure everything went smoothly

Originally posted by: mpks1

The only other forum I visit is that one. They don't leave anybody bash movies, actors, actresses, directors and so on. Some of them don't even watch any ITV but only movies. And the fanwars are huge🤣

now I wanna visit

Originally posted by: Mountains_Lakes

Agree to this to some aspect, and respectfully disagree to other.

Agree with Rishita being breadwinner and doesn't need to juggle both duties. But what with her being so shocked about putting away food after she was done eating so it doesn't go bad. It's common sense and my parents know and expect all of us to remember to put it up and tidy the place.

Also, she took responsibility of Suman. A. How can she not know that Suman needs help with bathroom. Is she really in her own world and lala land all the time? They had one bathroom until recently and that was in aangan. Did she never see suman going to the bathroom with help of Dhara or Gaumbi? Suman can move her hands, so she probably just needs help sitting on the toilet. Did she never see GauRa helping her get ready in the morning? How would Dhara know that Rishita didn't know that inspite of living in the same house.

And I understand you can get caretakers. But you'd need help at some point. Again, to retiterate, Dhara asked Rishita if she'd be able to handle it and Rishita said she would. If she thinks she couldn't handle it, why did she take the responsibility? At first, it may seem like they may have gone overboard in attacking her, but in the kitchen scene, she started that convo with defensiveness. She didn't need to get so defensive and her line about what else she could have done even if she heard Suman made it seem like she wasn't really sorry. She had to wheel her to the bathroom and help her sit on the toilet with some support.

About diapers,you make a good point, but I don't think it's always not equivalent to humiliation. It depends on the individual wearing it and how they feel. If someone was 100% bed ridden, I'd Understand. But Suman can sit in a wheelchair on her own from her bed. So I assume she can help herself a bit with someone's help and take care of her own business. She just needs help getting to the toilet. So why should she have to wear diapers if she doesn't want to and using bathroom is not a bad option?

I would have been of the similar opinion as yours, had I not been in somewhat similar situation. Everything hit completely differently.

Hi ML. 🤗

First of all, take a big hug! I talk from a space of complete love, empathy and dignity,; hun I love you, you know that and lots of strength to you 🤗

I agree with all the points that you make here. I am operating from a space of personal experiences. I have been a sole caregiver and have maintained the household from class 7th onwards for my Ma and my grandfather later. Unfortunately, he passed away just 4 days before my wedding. So, we had a wedding and a funeral simultaneously. But, that's another story.

My Ma’s disability started slowly and then finally bedridden when I was in 12th. I have burnt my fingers, and trust me; Adult diapers are for emergencies only.

My Ma, despite being mobile again, can't walk fast and wears it whenever she is alone in the house or going out to the markets.

The point I am making here if destigmatising the usage of medical support or care. I carry oxygen Cans with me and invite curious eyes everytime.

I do not deny Rishita’s wrongdoings. But, she was guilty, and she was fervently apologising till a point when she got frustrated too.

Many people aren't cut out for patient care. My sister is a live example. She was petite and could barely help Ma physically; neither she could bear the stench of urine etc. Does that make her a bad daughter, and I would have ended up lashing at her?

The best possible situation would have been to comfort her and tell her it's okay, Rishita, but sometimes you have to be more careful. I don't particularly like Dhara, but I felt she deserves peace and house help, and so does Rishita need not be bummed for a mistake she did.

No, right? It's okay not to know things and yet be dealt with caution and not hurled with accusations.

I agree Rishita has her la la land, but she can't be hung for that.

I forget to keep the food in the fridge all the time, but I can't be killed for that.

Anyway, 🤗I tagree with all your points, hun. Much love to you again 🤗

I hope 🙏 everything becomes better for you! More courage, strength and love.

Originally posted by: Mountains_Lakes

I wonder though if this will be one of the ways ShiVi gets closer. I.e. The lawyer will say all the bad things Shiva did. She will hear it in court and connect to some of the things, but Raavi won't be able to bear his humiliation, and will voice all the good things about him and how he's always been her savior leaving out the manhandling part.

Originally posted by: sunsaathiyaa

now I wanna visit

Sara, I am a silent member in BWF, don't post anything at all but do read the threads😆 That forum has baap of all trollers😆

Originally posted by: Beautyful_Mess

I really should stay out of this conversation but I can’t help it hehe but why does it have to be glorifying?? Can we not just assume this is just about Suman and not everyone else that disabled in one way or the other?? I see nothing wrong in one not wanting to wear a diaper as long as they have people who are willing to be there and help. Dhara doesn’t feel being burden with these things and Suman is happy this way so all is good. It wouldn’t be nice to force someone into something they don’t feel comfortable with and if Suman feels ashamed to wear a diaper then that’s fine too. She requires a little help the family is willing to do it happily. Now if someone is disabled and has no willing members to help then their feelings should come next and needs first but here it’s different it’s all good. As far as Rishita being attacked goes she did take responsibility to take care of Suman in Dhara’s absence and it would’ve been better had she been a little more responsible and asked Suman if she needed anything or just check on her before attending to the interview. I’m sure had she said hold on a minute the lady would’ve waited. It was indeed irresponsible of her not to check on Suman at all especially after knowing there was no one else at home. I believe she shouldn’t be defending herself or talking about diapers. She should just apologise and move on. Of course she has the right to decline to look after her in the future or even maybe talk about the diaper some other time. Now obviously emotions are running high and she should lay low since she did make a mistake. No need to excuse or even give suggestions at this point. One can take care of others in times of need and work as well. We all do it on daily basis but I understand the drama is needed for the show 😆

Today they literally made us hate three of them equally..suman dhara rishitha..what a mess...glad ravi has been thrown out by shiva.. couldn't bear to hate her too...🤪

Originally posted by: mpks1

I watched some scenes on Insta but there is too much yelling, crying and humiliation of Dhara by Suman in front of Anita.

Why was Anita in Pandya Niwas in the first place? Why did she there come in yesterday's episode? Raavi does not live there any more, that cannot be the reason. There is absolutely no explanation for that from the writers.

Sara's LU was so bang on 😆

And we don't ask for reason and sensibility in the Pandya Niwas 😆

Originally posted by: milkcakejamun

Which IG account uploads the whole episode This was a snooze fest watching it the first time, I can't imagine watching, uploading, and then re-watching afterwards to make sure everything went smoothly

The one deeps posted earlier. At least for this episode. Will have to rely on search skills of forum wasis for the links

Originally posted by: Mountains_Lakes

Lol, of course, duh 🙄

Haha I thought it was one of the acronyms we created for ShiVi😂. Biwi something something 😂😂