Originally posted by: oblivious_soul
Is it that bad here? I see an army attacking and being protective of Virat everytime someone mentions hsi dhortfall. Forum should enable such discussions. Not a good experience up until now. I was expecting FL fans to be touchy since she has comparitively less flaws. This banda is poora ka poora problematic and still much scrutiny. Cant seem to talk freely of his traits here. Someone said it right, will have to do jai Virat
Note: This might or might not be a long post.
While I understand your point, and I am really sorry about your poor experience here, I think that the person you quoted didn't actually mean it as an offence but was just being sarcastic that Virat is sometimes shown to be so mahaan when he actually has so many problems. But yes, I also understand what you mean by saying that recently many people here are not accepting various pov as wholeheartedly as they did before. It is not only with those who think of Virat as bad but it is also the same with those who try to defend him. Many people use taunts and sarcasm against those who try to point out the faults/ good deeds of a character and that is not how a forum should be.
Now, as for the main topic. Firstly, I would like to point out one thing before starting that as far as my opinion is concerned, I am neither a complete Virat Supporter nor a complete basher and the same with Sai's character. I try to see them as actual faulty imperfect people who just happened to be the main leads and never expect them to be perfect or have more expectations from them than the other characters just because they are the main leads.
Now, the main point. I understand why you felt that Virat is not a good brother and to some extent I agree with your point too. Virat is not a good brother. But is being a good brother in a family like his truly that easy? Pointing out someone's flaws is right, but blaming him for it without even once giving a thought to the diffivulty of the situation is wrong.
The thing is that when we talk about good brother and sister relation in this case we can't just look at their individual relationships. Virat lives in a joint family where every relation affects every other relation, plus a person might or might not get more attached to one particular (Samrat in the case of Virat). In a joint family, one like Virat's, even if we do feel like becoming more open to others and thinking about the problems of others, more often than not we cannot, not because we don't want to but because we too are suffering from problems of our own lives and are under the burden of expectations others have from us. Why couldn't Samrat bring himself to come back for the rest of the family? Why couldn't Mohit stand up for his own wife when she is being taunted? Why couldn't Sonali and Omi stand up for Mohit when he is being humiliated? Not because they don't want to, but because they are engrossed in their own problems. For some, they are held back by the chains of the relationship they share with someone else (usually Kaku), because it is embedded in their minds since a long time that they must not disrespect or talk back to one certain person. And a habit that has been developing since such a long time is really hard to be changed. However, with Sai it is changing slowly. For some, it is because they are hurt so much that their mind cannot take further burden of other relations. For some, it is because they might feel betrayed that this person whom they trusted to have their back in the darkest of situations left them alone, so why should they defend them now?
What I am saying is that, Virat has grown up in a very toxic environment, a family which looked perfect from outside but is suffocating when you come closer. And he has been there for so long, followed those rules for so long, that he no longers feels the suffocation. From childhood, he saw his mother being humiliated, not jsut by the rest of the family but by his father himself. I am pretty sure he must have felt bad, must have even raised his voice once or twice, but he must have been shushed. Don't talk like that, you are not supposed to talk back, what kind of spoiled child did your mother raised? These must have been the reactions of the family. While he would have thought that he is helping her, Ashwini must have been scolded even more. So, his mind did the one thing it does the best, it adapted. If they say that this family is perfect, then it is. If they say that it is night not day, then it is. If they say you respect her and keep your mouth shut, then you do. If you think about it, then every child of Chavan khandan except Samrat has been mentally tortured. Can you imagine how a child must have felt when he saw his mother bejng treated the way Ashwini is being treated. If his father can dare to raise his hand on his daughter in law in front of the entire family then you can only imagine what he must have done in the safety of the four walls oh their room. Do you remember the episode when Harini's truth came put and the way Virat stepped in front of ashwini to protect her from Ninad? How many times he must have felt the same urge before, when he was not an officer.
But the thing is, no matter how toxic, how bad, a child is programmed to love the people it grows up with and that is just what Virat did. His mind created an illusion of a perfect household since he was child, and that illusion only got stronger with time. And this is why, because he was raised to bear whatever crap the elders threw at him, he could never gather the courage to defend his cousins. Virat has many times said that he frequently asked about Devi's well being and the reason behind her condition but he was told not to ask her for her condition will worsen. Virat felt for Mohit when he was refused the food and he defended him, raised his voice against Kaku for him. And think about what he did for Samrat. Evenif we now know that Virat was not in love with Pakhi, at that moment he thought he was. It must have hurt a lot to see her get married to someone else, but he didn't evenhesitated once and let her go for Samrat. Now, I know it was a wrong move, but at the end he did what he thought was best. He did whatever he can to ensure his happiness. But these are not enough, of course they are not, but still these are something. These are his efforts against what he has always been taught. For whom are these efforts for? Not for himself, but for those he loves.
We see Virat the way he is, strong and confident and loved, but only now. Now, that he is a police officer. Now, that he is agreeing with everything his father and Kaku say. But what of the time when he didn't? Whose to say that he was never once treated the way Sai is been inthis house? Once he had gone against, he wouldn't be Ninad's son but Ashwini's spoiled child. See what happened to the other bahus of Chavan Khandan, Karishma and Sonali. They know what is right or wrong, they do feel bad when they do something really wrong, but can they fight back? No, because they are scared. They find this wrong but safe life easier than the right but hard one that Sai lives. And if it is this easier for a grown up to be stripped of their conscience, then you can only imagine what must have been the state of a child.
So, no, he is not a good brother. No, he is not a good son. No, he may not always be a good husband. But he is a good person, who tries his best to become all those things. But sometimes our best is just not enough for everyone.
Now, I would like to point another thing out. That this characterisatio which I have done of Virat will become invalid a few episodes later, not because I am very wrong,but because makers do a really crappy job.
However, I hope I kept my point nicely and I am really sorry if I offended anyone. That was so not my intention. Also, please excuse my grammar and any other mistakes.
Edited by ShipIsSailing - 4 years ago
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