@bold: yep. I despise it actually. Again, real life triggers.
@Italics: right on.
I think the disconnect FD is having is that we, even as Pallavi's fans, cannot disregard what she did. Abuse is abuse. It is not so subjective as some other topics that have been discussed in the MF. We can't call it anything but that. And then those who are having issues with P today, who I also assume are largely Raghav's fans, can't forget that he almost slapped her - twice now, he tied her to a chair and almost killed her, he's grabbed her forcefully, once to even leave a bruise, etc. etc. etc. If P could forgive him for all of that, R, who seems to not even care, and even borderline like, what she did, why is anyone arguing on behalf of him?
Abuse, as we know it, is not seen that way in the show and that's what we need to remember.
WE are not the characters. In their show universe - as you said - it's acceptable. So many things are more acceptable than they would be IRL. IRL I don't think a woman such as Pallavi would ever fall that quickly in love with a man like Raghav. I don't think she would've truly moved past all that he did to her. IRL it's NOT ok that Raghav slapped his sister, even if we all hate her. IRL A LOT of the show would not fly. Including Raghav raising his hands at Pallavi twice in anger, and Pallavi hitting him twice with an object.
Although I've said countless times we all connect/disconnect with the show based our own IRL experiences that shape who we are, we cannot hold the characters accountable for what is normal in their show.
If we cannot accept what a character themselves are ok with/ have no issue with, then it's best to move on from the show. After now watching two shows where women beating men with a stick/object was viewed as ok in the show, I've realized this could be more of a culturally acceptable thing. SO, for me to make an issue of it bc I'm uncomfortable with it, there's just no point. I can't change the culture, I'm not even really a part of it. If I don't like it, I simply won't watch.
Yep, thanks for spelling this out so well. I just woke up and words aren't coming easy right now.
I acknowledge my bias, especially here on the AT- I love Raghav, and I love RaghVi, but I can't love them the way I love Pallavi. She's the reason I started watching the show, and she's the story I'm invested in. But my love for Pallavi can't make me put aside my IRL beliefs, which are that a spouse shouldn't hit another, plain and simple.
But there's a suspension of disbelief required when you watch ITV, I think. It's kind of like when you watch a Marvel movie, you're like, okay, well in this world, norse gods exist and magic is real and time travel is possible. So when you watch ITV, you have to be like, well, this is a world where things are a different way. At least, that's how I do it, else nothing on ITV will ever be watchable.
IRL, Pallavi should have PTSD from the truck incident. IRL, she should never have fallen for Raghav. IRL, she would never have forgiven Jaya. IRL, Nikhil won't be off in Bangalore when his brother came back from the dead.
But I still do wish they'd stop making jokes about things which aren't joking matters- they learnt their lesson on the distasteful maa da laadla track, and they should now learn is regarding violence.
