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To be honest I don't really have a problem if raavi comes home due to dhara's pregnancy to help .hasnt she always been like that? Forgiving and loving.that is the basis of her character. She was forgiving towards dev.somehow her worst side comes out with shiva, but still her actions say that she will forgive shiva if he apologises.

My problem is I can't understand the family anymore.raavi was so excited about being a chachi, about dhara's pregnancy.no one bothered to inform her?no one gave her a call? She misunderstood that they are celebrating her talaak,she was so hurt by it.noone cared to clarify things to her? Abhi woh suddenly bahar wali ho gayi?

Originally posted by: Krishnapanchali

gautam has worked in kitchen half his life he was the one who use to cook and clean everything else pre-marriage toh suman ke bete ne kaafi kaam kiya haa kitchen main ghar m dukaan m

Lol tbh I dont think so! Because in the haveli scene, he had to wake Dhara up in the middle of the night to cook him some maggi. If he cooked his entire life for the kids, I am sure maggi toh bana hi sakta hai😆

Originally posted by: _charu_

Exactly. Infact it would have been a good opportunity to give equal responsibilities to everyone .ideally everyone must contribute in chores and finances ..but if this is the way Shiva will start respecting raavi, no🤢aur suman bhi. Girgit kahin ki🤢

I dun think there r chances of raavi coming bk or Shiva asking her to come unless the court orders them to. They r hinting towards it..proceedings have started and all couples have to go through compulsory counseling, in itv land 😆

But maza aayega when rishita or dev put their foot down for rishitas job. Rishita kahegi maid rakhlo😆

@bold..i would love to see that and how they deal with it..😆..I really want the men to share kitchen work now..show some maturity atleast in this..its not like anyone is bothered abt the store..kaka heina. They hardly goes there these days. 🤪

And I doubt they will ask ravi to comeback for helping out in kitchen..if they didn't find her important enough to inform her abt the baby, why would they tell her to come and help them in household..

Unless dhara is in some deathbed, I dnt think shiva would even act to be ok with ravi. 🤪

If at all ravi comes to help out dhara, i would like it to be if ravi realises their misunderstandings and understands shivas feelings for her and wants to give their relationship another chance..shiva being shiva wouldn't allow that, so she might come in the name of helping out dhara..and irritate shiva to confess.. 😆..

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

Lol tbh I dont think so! Because in the haveli scene, he had to wake Dhara up in the middle of the night to cook him some maggi. If he cooked his entire life for the kids, I am sure maggi toh bana hi sakta hai😆

That's invalid that he might knw cooking..he is married afterall..😆..why should he cook..suman would throw a fit if gautam had to make Maggi by himself when dhara was alive and living under her roof..🤪😆..the patriarchy I tell u..😳

Originally posted by: Pixiepadhi

To be honest I don't really have a problem if raavi comes home due to dhara's pregnancy to help .hasnt she always been like that? Forgiving and loving.that is the basis of her character. She was forgiving towards dev.somehow her worst side comes out with shiva, but still her actions say that she will forgive shiva if he apologises.

My problem is I can't understand the family anymore.raavi was so excited about being a chachi, about dhara's pregnancy.no one bothered to inform her?no one gave her a call? She misunderstood that they are celebrating her talaak,she was so hurt by it.noone cared to clarify things to her? Abhi woh suddenly bahar wali ho gayi?

U r absolutely right..more than ravi, its the injustice that is being done by suman thats making me Not to want her to go and help them out..atleast rishitha krish and dev were abt to tell her the truth..neither dhara nor gombi bothered..dhara is missing ravi but she can't call and tell her the news. She could have told ravi to keep it a secret from mami or anitha..they r not living in a mobile free era..and suman..not a day has passed and she started judging ravi as prafulla type..why becz she made a thamasha of herself thinking everyone was happy for her loss?..I lost all my respect for suman...she has no compassion for anyone who is of no use to her..she cares only for her sons...all the daughters in law are treated like objects . As long as they provide whatever for her son according to the rules of suman, fine..else they can get lost..

Originally posted by: Krishnapanchali

making sweets on special occasion is not help gaumbi alone raised his three bros at same time managing store after marriage gaura did it together

dhara use to work in store so suman does not decides people in this fam do what they want dev married as he wished shiva has done number of blunders starting from giving up his education because he wanted to

the thing i dont understand is naukarani raavi helping someone you call didi while she is going through a critical phase in her life makes her naukarani? had it been the other way round dhara would have been at her beck and call all the time

dhara gave up her life to raise three brats so is she naukrani too what about gaumbi who has been working continuously from even before dhara came along woh toh phir sabsa bada naukar hua nahi?

I am just putting up some points not trying to argue or invalidate your points:

Dhara has done a lot for the brothers and time and again she does make them realize that by constantly saying “ Maine tum logo ko paala hai” . If you raise someone with your whole heart you dont constantly make them aware of the sacrifices you have done!

Ok GauRa worked hard in the store from the beginning. They even got paid for it. All the finances are handled by GauRa even today. Atleast they are paid servants The brothers work too, but they dont get paid because paisa toh bade bhai handle karega, right? Ye toh family ka usool hai! If I were in GauRa’s place first thing I would have done was pay my brothers and make them financially independent! GauRa toh paid naukar hai, par baaki log toh bina paiso ke hi gadha mazduri kar rahe hai! 😆🤣

Originally posted by: _charu_

My post was about suman and her prejudiced thinking . Not about who sacrificed what and who is willing to do.chores and whether doing chores make anyone a naukar. No I don't believe In any of it , but Suman constantly devalues her dils and treat them as bache paida karne ki machine or kitchen mein kaam karne ki...

Suman will never let rishita go for job and allow dev to help in kitchen. That was the only point. And the way she insulted raavi today by calling her prafulla ka khoon, I wish she has to beg raavi to come bk but I know aisa kuch nai hoga. Raavi will come by her own or due to court order n willingly help dhara bec she loves dhara 😡

your first point was calling raavi naukarani there is nothing wrong in loving dhara because dhara is kind of person who will give her 100 folds bacj for everything raavi will do for her and her child

but anyways i agree suman can be quite regressive and misogynistic when she wants she is the same woman who defends dhara and then thinks dil can are baby making machines she is same woman who was all soft towards raavi when dev messed up and then she was mocking her today

Originally posted by: Krishnapanchali

making sweets on special occasion is not help gaumbi alone raised his three bros at same time managing store after marriage gaura did it together

dhara use to work in store so suman does not decides people in this fam do what they want dev married as he wished shiva has done number of blunders starting from giving up his education because he wanted to

the thing i dont understand is naukarani raavi helping someone you call didi while she is going through a critical phase in her life makes her naukarani? had it been the other way round dhara would have been at her beck and call all the time

dhara gave up her life to raise three brats so is she naukrani too what about gaumbi who has been working continuously from even before dhara came along woh toh phir sabsa bada naukar hua nahi?

You are right in saying so.

Nobody becomes a naukrani or nauker by working in their own house or store.

Cooking, cleaning are basic Life skills that everyone should learn.

What upsets me is the general attitude towards daughter in laws in the pandya Family.whether it's dhara, rishita or raavi.

the show had so much love and positivity, it was different than other shows.there was no toxicity.the love and respect between the family was visible.sadly I can't see that anymore.

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

I am just putting up some points not trying to argue or invalidate your points:

Dhara has done a lot for the brothers and time and again she does make them realize that by constantly saying “ Maine tum logo ko paala hai” . If you raise someone with your whole heart you dont constantly make them aware of the sacrifices you have done!

Ok GauRa worked hard in the store from the beginning. They even got paid for it. All the finances are handled by GauRa even today. Atleast they are paid servants The brothers work too, but they dont get paid because paisa toh bade bhai handle karega, right? Ye toh family ka usool hai! If I were in GauRa’s place first thing I would have done was pay my brothers and make them financially independent! GauRa toh paid naukar hai, par baaki log toh bina paiso ke hi gadha mazduri kar rahe hai! 😆🤣

gaura are last people to boast about their sacrifices if they really were people who make huge noice about everything they did then pandya bro would have known about the reason of them not having baby long ago they raised them with all their sould there should be no dounbt in that

now talking about brothers then they lived a far more comfortable life then gaumbi or even dhara ever did because gaura made sure they did everything they ever wanted was provided to them so the three bro are no way majudur

about financial independence then i agree all brothers should have that even suman should have it that 7000 jibe was embarrassing 😆

but gaura are not perfect so they mistakes this is one of them which i will hope they rectify soon enough

Originally posted by: deeps07

So do u think its OK for dhara to come and take care of all the maid works of the brats after she has been been questioned abt her character by gombi and divorced by him during the initial stage of marrg before both could build a bond of love..?

no i never said that all i am sayong is that it is ok for raavi to help dhara didi not accept shiva back raavi should not take shiva back if she does not wants to

all i am saying that to help someone who you consider sister didi does not makes you naukrani

raavi helping dhara does not undermines in her anyway it actually shows she is gentle hearted soul but even if she refuses to help that is fine too because raavi did not left the house on good terms so its quite ok it should be her decision