Portrayal of Raghav Rao and Inconsistencies - Page 3

Originally posted by: Radiant_Eyes_

Raghav had no qualms about being shirtless; he sleeps shirtless, keeps few buttons of his shirt open, and so on.

So that's fine, that's how his character was written, but they went far with the Sulochana being attracted towards Swapnil concept today.

Comments like "hot chai" and the OTT lustful looks she was giving were unnecessary in my opinion; it wasn't funny.

Imagine old man looking at girl enough to be his daughter like this 🤪.

I totally agree Sakshi. Like Sonia mentioned, in his personal space he can be shirtless and we've never pointed it out or discussed this before but off late it's going overboard. They make him drop his shirt for no rhyme or reason. Sulochana scene was extremely distasteful and I couldn't get my head wrapped around this warped sense of humour of the makers. Irrespective of gender, objectifying is wrong.

Concept of Raghav using (direct/indirect) support of Deshmukh ladies against Mandaar was good but execution is clearly failing here 👎🏼.

I think this logic is in lines with Hero no 1 where the ladies are interested to keep the hired help because if he goes the burden falls on the ladies of the house. Hence, for Sulo and Mansi (considering they don't know to cook), Swapnil is important. They didn't need to show her smitten by his body.

Mansi and Sulochana getting impressed by Swapnil , his personality and career history was fine but today her ogling his body for most part of episode was crass 🤢.

Yesterday there was no issue because like you said it was about how experienced he is. Today was not

Raghav dreaming about Pallavi -

My interpretation- makers wanted to illustrate that Pallavi gives him solace, which is why he enjoys a good night's sleep these days as she visits him in his dreams.

He got a good night's sleep last time he was troubled (Vat savitri ) as he slept on her waist, and this time it was her dreams making up for Pallavi’s void.

I can accept your argument that sleep gives people solace when there is a disturbance or turbulence in real life. Hence, Raghav sleeping peacefully dreaming of Pallavi can be acceptable.

But I’m disheartened by his behaviour today 🤔

Even Rama clearly told Raghav to tell Pallavi they’re here but Raghav didn’t do it ,because he was enjoying irritated Pallavi ? 🤷‍♀️

Yes, I felt this was not the time or place to indulge in such games specially when he first hand saw what Mandar can do. Pallavi was almost burnt had it not been for timely entry, bravery and quick action.

Pallavi constantly lives under fear and stress these days and recently experienced fright due to fire incident so she’ll obviously take time to process Swapnil’s presence.

Raghav could have also simply used code ILU when they were in kitchen . But he didn’t ?

(I have seen lot of criticism over Pallavi using or not using code language / verbally or non verbally expressing her love , didn’t see a thread on this today so saying it here 😆)

When the shoe is on the other foot - Sakshi, my shade queen. I agree Raghav had the opportunity to come clean instead of playing such childish games that are so contrary to his character.

Why is Raghav wasting time to see if Pallavi recognises him ?

Can’t he simply inform her !

Time is of essence, isn’t it ?

Isn't that the while point of him coming to D house. To take action so that damage can be minimised. The only hope in all this mess for the audience is Raghav is here and Pallavi will be safe now. I hope they quickly move past this coz it dilutes the impact and urgency of the situation.

I personally won’t question his love for her, because unlike some I watch MHRW , love Raghvi and

I know Raghav and Pallavi love each other a lot .

We aren't questioning either. Sakshi, both love each other more than themselves and that is the reason we all love them, don't we?

Writers are failing to show it properly in their attempt to add other elements and such inconsistencies are disheartening!

You know, I've always ignored smaller inconsistencies because they are giving us good content in comparison to what is out there but you need to point certain things and not hawa main filter, isliye this post.

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Well I completely agree about objectification of men not only MHRW but in other shows and movies as well.

It was totally creepy on Sulochana's part to ogle on his body and then openly eye him in front of her daughters. And truly said if genders are reversed that will be termed as harrasment but just because it's other way round it has been taken as comedy.

Objectification of both men and women is equally wrong and it's high time it should stop.

Now coming to the inconsistencies of the characters I don't think too much into that because at the end of the day it's an ITV show and they have to deliver 6 episodes a week and have to keep changing according to the taste of audience with the sword of TRP hanging on their head. If anything is too much out of character I just skip that part and hawa mein filter it & move on with the show.

I watch whole episode on my first watch and after that watch only RaghVi and some other good scenes on repeat so don't bother about the context of it and what happened before and after that. 😅

They love each other equally there is no doubt in that. The kind of love they have for each other doesn't even need daily need of verbal acknowledgement and I am so happy their love is not limited to just confessing I love you to each other again and again it's much more than that.

Again everybody have their own opinion, I respect each and every opinion stated in this thread.

Don't mean to offend or disrespect anyone.

Thank you.

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

While I chuckled when Sulo saw Raghav, I know it is problematic. See, our society never recognizes the fact that men also deserve privacy and respect. We see it everywhere. Totally agree with your viewpoint (you see what I did there 😆) Why should laws be any different for different genders.

A good example, as I always say, is how fangirls behave with their fav male actors. They objectify him to no end, and if they meet in person, they often jump and kiss him on the cheeks. Did anyone ask him if he's comfortable? Many women think that male actors must be loving it, but I'm sure they are uncomfortable. There should be dignity in what one says to their fav actor and how they interact with him because "uski izzat bhi izzat hai". Imagine if this situation was reversed? I can only imagine the outburst.

Again, totally agree. People can get overboard while fangirling but it is important to draw the line and respect personal boundaries (actors or common man).

As for Raghav's character inconsistencies, I agree. On ITV, a character starts off so well, the writers draft an entire manual of how it is meant to go. Then the TRP pressure spoils it all. I applaud Sai for carrying himself with so much poise. I'm sure he must be feeling that a Don doesn't behave this way.

Sai is doing a fab job as Raghav. I had my reservations about Swapnil when I first saw the BTS but Sai pulled it off so well. The mannerisms and the body language are so different (if you notice he's trying to use his right hand more). He's getting to showcase his range which will bode well for his future. I hope the makers do justice to his character as well.

At the end of show's actors tend to get frustrated because what they signed up for and what they get towards the end is different, rather poles apart.

As for FL, I feel sorry for them because they get nothing but a sanskari bahu to play. FLs have no scope in ITV but I'm glad Pallavi isn't the typical bahu so she does get to play shades of emotions as well.

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Originally posted by: euphoric

Hola Pretty people... so this post is about Raghav, some concerns over his portrayal and things that don't fall in place with his character.

Caution: Healthy discussion is welcome, haters may avoid!

So it's been a couple of days that Ren, I and a bunch of our friends have been pondering over the inconsistencies that is seeping into Raghav's characters over the past few days. But today we had a trigger point with Sulo ogling over him.

Objectification of man or woman doesn't matter is always bad. And there have been too many scenes where shirtless Raghav makes an appearance which doesn't fit into the context. Shirtless Raghav while Pallavi comes in to meet is fine, that's how he's sleeps in his home. So it was fine but later that towel scene (he could have been in a bathrobe) or for that matter today in D house it was so not needed.

Sulo, a middle aged woman, mother of two grown up daughters, ogling a man fit to be her son's age. Sorry that's not what I don't think we can call funny. We feel creeped out when Mandar ogles at Pallavi, then why Sulo ogling at Raghav's naked torso is anything but crass! I don't even want to ask how would we react if there was a gender reversal there.

Some of us have complained about Pallavi not recognizing Raghav by his touch today. But is it in Raghav's character to dream about Pallavi when she is at danger in D house? I loved that scene too no doubt. Their chemistry is apt, its the USP of the show and we know need it for TRPs. But just to put things into perspective, this guy was so frustrated that he was brandishing a gun, punched Farhad and Amma had to fire a shot in air to make him even listen to her. And the next morning we find him day dreaming. He was so nonchalant unlike the Raghav who woke up from a nightmare after Mandar give him that stupid challenge.

Pallavi here had taken a risky chance when she sneaked out. If at all anyone would have found out about her escapade, she would have landed in a danger and Raghav wouldn't even know. Yet he was day dreaming about her like wifey has gone out for a vacation! Should I say he loves Pallavi less? Ofcourse not! It was the fault of the script and I wish they had incorporated the scene in a much better way.

When he made this heroic entry in D house, I was expecting him to be more focused. He has entered a war zone after all. The aarti scene, the determined look on his face and the Tanaji background music accentuating the impact.

There I thought, when he was all by himself, he would ponder about the fire scare that burnt his hand and could have harmed Pallavi. But instead we saw him pondering over Pallavi not recognizing him. I missed that sharp focus of Raghav Rao here again.

Raghav has always been a no nonsense person. How he tackled Keerti while she asked for her happiness as a Rakhi gift was amazing. The toilet scene where Pallavi was acting stupid but Raghav was in charge of the situation was apt. Because that's how they are. He is in control and she is goofy. These things add depth to their characters and their portrayal.

I hope in desperation to add some comic relief with sprinklers of romance with a tadka of shirtless Rao... the makers don't take away these small nuances from the characters that sets them apart.

Over to you guys... would love to read your views 🤗

agree with your each words

Personal opinion

As for the raghav appearing shirtless context , I think makers have made his character that way only ,the one who is confident of his vanity and looks. There was one dialogue of Raghav in earlier episodes " Haan , hai main besharam ". He character follows this line only. He doesn't shy away from flaunting his body even in front of his staff. Remember he has lived 10 years of life as a man whose authority couldn't be questioned in the house because there was no one superior to him in that house. His mother wasn't not there to chide him for his silly display of his body or any other female member that he would feel caution too.

As for character inconsistencies or plotholes , truth be told I don't really pay attention to these details much. I like to take entertainment as entertainment only as it is my refuge from real life miseries. I like to go with flow of story .A fantasy land where I get happy with whatever I am served and the things I don't like , I skip them.I am someone who likes to believe in the disclaimer lines shown at starting " This is a work of fiction. Nothing is related to real life events and persons".

Coming to makers , its their story to tell and how they want it to. I feel like I don't have any authority or right to interfere in their plot because at the end of day it's they who are giving their hours and brain to write something that too on daily basis.

if I am not liking the content which they are serving to me , I still have the power to watch something else on different platform. We are living in 2021 where there is no dearth of quality content /entertainment

hope I haven't offended anyone 🤗

Originally posted by: euphoric

Hola Pretty people... so this post is about Raghav, some concerns over his portrayal and things that don't fall in place with his character.

Caution: Healthy discussion is welcome, haters may avoid!

So it's been a couple of days that Ren, I and a bunch of our friends have been pondering over the inconsistencies that is seeping into Raghav's characters over the past few days. But today we had a trigger point with Sulo ogling over him.

Objectification of man or woman doesn't matter is always bad. And there have been too many scenes where shirtless Raghav makes an appearance which doesn't fit into the context. Shirtless Raghav while Pallavi comes in to meet is fine, that's how he's sleeps in his home. So it was fine but later that towel scene (he could have been in a bathrobe) or for that matter today in D house it was so not needed.

Sulo, a middle aged woman, mother of two grown up daughters, ogling a man fit to be her son's age. Sorry that's not what I don't think we can call funny. We feel creeped out when Mandar ogles at Pallavi, then why Sulo ogling at Raghav's naked torso is anything but crass! I don't even want to ask how would we react if there was a gender reversal there.

Some of us have complained about Pallavi not recognizing Raghav by his touch today. But is it in Raghav's character to dream about Pallavi when she is at danger in D house? I loved that scene too no doubt. Their chemistry is apt, its the USP of the show and we know need it for TRPs. But just to put things into perspective, this guy was so frustrated that he was brandishing a gun, punched Farhad and Amma had to fire a shot in air to make him even listen to her. And the next morning we find him day dreaming. He was so nonchalant unlike the Raghav who woke up from a nightmare after Mandar give him that stupid challenge.

Pallavi here had taken a risky chance when she sneaked out. If at all anyone would have found out about her escapade, she would have landed in a danger and Raghav wouldn't even know. Yet he was day dreaming about her like wifey has gone out for a vacation! Should I say he loves Pallavi less? Ofcourse not! It was the fault of the script and I wish they had incorporated the scene in a much better way.

When he made this heroic entry in D house, I was expecting him to be more focused. He has entered a war zone after all. The aarti scene, the determined look on his face and the Tanaji background music accentuating the impact.

There I thought, when he was all by himself, he would ponder about the fire scare that burnt his hand and could have harmed Pallavi. But instead we saw him pondering over Pallavi not recognizing him. I missed that sharp focus of Raghav Rao here again. The sharp focus with

Raghav has always been a no nonsense person. How he tackled Keerti while she asked for her happiness as a Rakhi gift was amazing. The toilet scene where Pallavi was acting stupid but Raghav was in charge of the situation was apt. Because that's how they are. He is in control and she is goofy. These things add depth to their characters and their portrayal.

I hope in desperation to add some comic relief with sprinklers of romance with a tadka of shirtless Rao... the makers don't take away these small nuances from the characters that sets them apart.

Over to you guys... would love to read your views 🤗

Thank you for the tag Sonia, Most of the illogical scenes are bhool bhool for me😊

A shirtless R in P's company is justified due to the relationship between them. But other than that a No No for me. ITV is catering to the large teenage (??) female audience to garner more TRPs 👎🏼 by showing R shirtless.

BWA and R scene - I cringed and actually FFd the entire scene, the same way I do for Mandy scenes.

D house entry, P not recognizing R - I am a married woman but am yet to recognize my hubby by his touch or smell LOL. I am guessing R being nonchalant was shown in lightheartedness as you cannot have super hyper episodes. Already the Fire thing had happened.

All in all, I am not much perturbed by how the characters behave one day and certain way the next. We all react differently depending on the circumstances.

At the end of the day for me R and P are beautiful characters who are not perfect like the rest of us.

Peace :-)

Originally posted by: Mysterie_girl

Thanks for the tag and taking out time for all this

I should thank you for reading and replying.

You guys have pretty much summed it up all, objectification of any person (the gender shouldn't be considered here) is not right.

Till yesterday it was fine, but looks like to add the humor they got over-boarded with certain things. Yes totally agreed. Yesterday it was not objectifying so it was ok. Today it went overboard and felt icky.

If they are trying to add humor so as to make heavy and emotional scenes somewhat light for the audience as well as the actors they could have used something else. I hope in the coming episodes, they will tone it down.

The makers need to keep check on the same as the age group of audience is very diverse. I agree that they need to use something else for humour instead of this or the maa da ladka they earlier used. For example, I find Swapnil's mannerisms so funny. The way he stood at the door crossing his leg or smelling the flower in the morning kitchen scene. They need to find better scenes for romance and humor to keep the balance otherwise it sticks like a sore thumb.

There are definitely so many inconsistencies in not only Raghav's but almost every character but since you mentioned about him, even if a person drown oneself in alcohol as much as he want but at the end only sleep let the mind calms (at least the case with me)...so it was fine on my part if he was getting some peace from sleeping I accept your reasoning that he needed the calm and hence went off to sleep and dreamt of her.

I get it that he need to think about strategies to blow Mandar's cover, think about his wife's safety but mind needs some rest as well so as to work again and if in sub-conscious mind he dreamt of Pallavi then I didn't had any issue on that front. Same as above

And concludingly, there is no comparison between them for love, they both love each other equally...they never had that phase of verbal assurance of I love yous and I don't think they needed it as well...they understand each other to this extent that they know about their partner well Yes, their relationship never needed any verbal affirmation as their actions were clear.

Every person have their own set of flaws and those cannot be removed in a jiffy...people need to keep patience for the same and enjoy Raghav-Pallavi and their journey to get more strong!!

Trying to be patient and hoping the inconsistencies if any are so minor that we can hawa main filter. I love this show to bits and will stick through anything. My love Raghvi surpasses everything.

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Originally posted by: Inese_20

Hello Ren 🤗

I agree with you here. I don’t mind a shirtless Raghav in his personal space if that’s how he prefers it . But no denying the fact that ML objectification has been an issue in this industry.

Oh and I personally love Raghav in his suits or shirts the most. Raghav in clothes >>>>>>>

Parul, our point was precisely that. We aren't saying ki bilkul math dikhao but saying don't show it out of context. I love Raghav in bis suits and hoods

And I agree, the Raghav- Sulo scenes today were extremely unpleasant and unnecessary. I didn’t find them funny at all and had to just hawa mein filter. Just the reversal of genders and we can see where the problem lies.

I do hope makers take a note of it somehow and realise that these things aren’t funny, really.

I also hawa main filter such things but the problem lies when gender roles are reversed, it gets more uproar which is unfair to men. I hope the makers change or underplay this in future episodes or else I will have to fast forward for the sake of my sanity.

I see the point you are trying to make and totally get where you are coming from. But Like i said in my reply to Soni, I don’t expect them to behave a certain way ever. Like it’s his nature so he should do that or this is how Pallavi should behave. I instead try to make sense of why they are doing what they are doing- so it helps. Because I have never seen anybody maintain their characterstic traits or their usual behaviour 24*7. Reactions vary according to the situation, surroundings. Never had an issue with either Raghav or Pallavi, don’t have one now. 😳

The problem (more than the character inconsistency) is that there is a real threat or danger surrounding them. I want him to exhibit his older qualities to deal with the danger coz it gives me anxiety to see Pallavi in the vicinity of Mandar who is unpredictable and dangerous. I'm not sure if I'm able to put my point across as words are failing me right now. Had it been any other time they behaved out of character, I'd be ok, ykwim?

I agree with this. With someone in disguise, you will always have second thoughts, even if their smell/touch feels familiar. Obviously one would be vary like what if it’s somebody else. Yes, I'm sure Pallavi felt the familiarity but couldn't conclude that it is Raghav.

Yes they do love each other all the same and that’s all what matters. Till Raghav and Pallavi are working together- nothing else matters. As long as they are together punching their problems, nothing else matters

RaghVi FTW yes ofcourse Raghviftw and ShiRen-ftw

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Originally posted by: euphoric

Hola Pretty people... so this post is about Raghav, some concerns over his portrayal and things that don't fall in place with his character.

Caution: Healthy discussion is welcome, haters may avoid!

So it's been a couple of days that Ren, I and a bunch of our friends have been pondering over the inconsistencies that is seeping into Raghav's characters over the past few days. But today we had a trigger point with Sulo ogling over him.

Objectification of man or woman doesn't matter is always bad. And there have been too many scenes where shirtless Raghav makes an appearance which doesn't fit into the context. Shirtless Raghav while Pallavi comes in to meet is fine, that's how he's sleeps in his home. So it was fine but later that towel scene (he could have been in a bathrobe) or for that matter today in D house it was so not needed.

Objectification is bad, no doubt there. But objectification isn't because of clothes (or lack of it), its because of people's mentality. Objectification involves viewing and/or treating a person as an object, devoid of thought or feeling. Makers aren't objectyfing Raghav, audience are doing it, and not showing shirtless scenes is not going to change it.

Sulo, a middle aged woman, mother of two grown up daughters, ogling a man fit to be her son's age. Sorry that's not what I don't think we can call funny. We feel creeped out when Mandar ogles at Pallavi, then why Sulo ogling at Raghav's naked torso is anything but crass! I don't even want to ask how would we react if there was a gender reversal there.

Sulochana was wrong here, but I am letting it go for one episode. Hope they won't repeat it. However, the other characters, Raghav, Rama, Mansi did see her behaviour as inappropriate rather than funny. This is why I think this wasn't just for comic relief. Like some of us were discussing Sulochana is going to help Raghav to defeat Mandar, this is setting up the stage for that. Let's see what happens

Some of us have complained about Pallavi not recognizing Raghav by his touch today. But is it in Raghav's character to dream about Pallavi when she is at danger in D house? I loved that scene too no doubt. Their chemistry is apt, its the USP of the show and we know need it for TRPs. But just to put things into perspective, this guy was so frustrated that he was brandishing a gun, punched Farhad and Amma had to fire a shot in air to make him even listen to her. And the next morning we find him day dreaming. He was so nonchalant unlike the Raghav who woke up from a nightmare after Mandar give him that stupid challenge.

Pallavi here had taken a risky chance when she sneaked out. If at all anyone would have found out about her escapade, she would have landed in a danger and Raghav wouldn't even know. Yet he was day dreaming about her like wifey has gone out for a vacation! Should I say he loves Pallavi less? Ofcourse not! It was the fault of the script and I wish they had incorporated the scene in a much better way.

Raghav was dreaming about spending time with Pallavi. Don't we dream what we want? Raghav wants few uniterrupted, personal moments with her. Just because he had a good dream, it is wrong to conclude that he is not worried. "Mai aaj-kal late uthata hu", suggests that he may not sleep properly at night and in the wee hours only he is able to catch some sleep with sweet dreams. He knows that any anger is not going to get him anywhere (Amma and Farhad explained him). Raghav was unaware that Pallavi is going to visit. Even Pallavi didn't know that she would visit, it was unplanned, mauke pe chauka thing. Of course there is always scope for betterment.

When he made this heroic entry in D house, I was expecting him to be more focused. He has entered a war zone after all. The aarti scene, the determined look on his face and the Tanaji background music accentuating the impact.

There I thought, when he was all by himself, he would ponder about the fire scare that burnt his hand and could have harmed Pallavi. But instead we saw him pondering over Pallavi not recognizing him. I missed that sharp focus of Raghav Rao here again.

Here he knows that the culprit is Mandar. He was constantly looking for opportunity to tell Pallavi, but he didn't wanted to reveal in front of Amruta. Only after the situation calmed down he thought about Pallavi not recognizing him.

Raghav has always been a no nonsense person. How he tackled Keerti while she asked for her happiness as a Rakhi gift was amazing. The toilet scene where Pallavi was acting stupid but Raghav was in charge of the situation was apt. Because that's how they are. He is in control and she is goofy. These things add depth to their characters and their portrayal.

I hope in desperation to add some comic relief with sprinklers of romance with a tadka of shirtless Rao... the makers don't take away these small nuances from the characters that sets them apart.

Over to you guys... would love to read your views 🤗

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You people said it all.

Sulo ogling Raghav is nothing but sick. And this is objectifying the male lead.

I honestly didn't like the way Raghav has let Pallavi get rattled. To her, he is a third person in that attire and Pallavi getting uncomfortable is justifying. That's how any woman would react witnessing a stranger enter her personal space. It is anything but funny or cute. Raghav calling that cute is totally irritating. What would he do if somebody else was in his place? She carried the same emotions there. Again no amount of being her spouse will let that pass.

The problem is not about Raghav taking the chance, it is about Raghav letting Pallavi feel absurd. Uncomfortable means uncomfortable, there's no husband or stranger there; when she's not okay with it, he should step back. No matter how romantic anybody finds his actions to be, it does not appease me. It is far from romantic for me.

Originally posted by: Ubiquitos

First, thank god you raised some of the points. I will comment on the indecency of it all. Thank you for reading and commenting. Happy to raise and discuss valid points.

First, Raghav being shirtless too much. It is indecent beyond a point. You have to, have to draw a line. One, it is too much objectification. Two, it's not appropriate. Three, it takes away from the mood of the scene/storyline. I totally agree on the excessiveness of it all. In context, it is fine but off-late it is done too much. I always ask if he could have worn some clothes and whether it would impact the scene - to give an example, the towel scene 2 episodes ago, he could have been in a bathrobe coz he came out of the shower and got the idea. Normally you could also wear a bathrobe when coming out of the shower. Also the gym scene, he had worn a vest before while gyming in the yoga scene. So when it is possible to show him wearing clothes it should be done. Objectifying is not cool. Also, he is now taking his shirt off in D house. It was done only to show BWA ogle at him.. again so not done.

Second, Sulo ogling over Swapnil. It was fine if it was not in the face to be honest. But she is his MIL in name for god's sake. I think they don't take anything seriously in the show.... Along with the relationship (one can argue she didnt know it was Raghav and she has never ogled at Raghav before) it was the age factor or just the blatant ogling irrespective of age. If it was opposite gender, it would cause some uproar..

Third, about Mandaar. Again they don't take him THAT seriously. Neither the makers nor the characters. Neither his creepiness or pervert intentions or the harm he poses to the family. So let's just ignore. I dont want to comment on Mandar, it gives me anxiety and he is not relevant directly to our post.

About characters and graphs, I think they are on different tangent than what we thought these characters to be... Raghav isn't some grey shade charismatic ultra smart don, period...He is all shades of mood, but not this...not what people think him to be, he is much beyond all that and we are chronicling his almost daily life... I take all of his moods as natural and not character deviations, uska apna hi chalta hai...He has had his own share of stupid/ghonchu moments so far to not take him THAT seriously. These days he is almost like a kid bursting with so much energy... See, I totally get that we should not take these character inconsistencies seriously because people change with times but today it is a matter of real imminent threat to his loved ones. Him waiting for P to recognize him (upset that she didn't recognize his disguise) instead of informing her right away in the kitchen when he had the first chance (and giving her the much needed solace) is way out of line and thoroughly insensitive.

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