Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #83|ShiVi ka Divorce (Red Alert) - Page 5

Congrats on the new EDT 🥳

This one gonna be all about divorce and Gadha baby😆

Originally posted by: Transference

Hi everyone,

Would you please watch this video and see how it's not only relevant to Dhara but every woman in the society.

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CS3GAgOpDkP/?utm_medium=copy_link

Absolutely love the video 😍, and it is so relevant to Pandya Store!

The concept of "sacrifice" is such a gendered issue, and for once, I have to say the CVs are doing something unique through ShiVi's separation track. Everyone in the Pandya family has stood by Raavi's side, acknowledging the sacrifices she's made while being in the relationship... Even now, they are berating Shiva to apologize so Raavi wouldn't have to make another sacrifice in the relationship. While no one seems to recognize the sacrifices Shiva has made when he accepted to marry Raavi... and perhaps that's why no one recognizes the pain that Shiva is going through by being in an unloving marriage.

Because to the family, as a guy, he hasn't made the sacrifice that Raavi has made as a woman. I know there were so many other issues regarding the ShiVi track, but I can't help but think no one recognizes Shiva's pain because it is not "socially acceptable" for a man to cry and express his emotions (with the exception of anger)

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

You are Anita's non-evil twin 🤣 We can name you Sunita then 😆 like Seeta-Geeta

Ok now I don't know what I am writing 🤪

Bilkul Nahi. I am ML, Raavi's cousin from paternal side of the family as Avi suggested!

Originally posted by: deeps07

It is so true..this video made my heart feel heavy...a year after my delivery I was trying to get back to working.. It was a new place and so had to hunt for job.... my own father judged and ridiculed me abt thinking how can I be so selfish when my primary responsibility is taking care of my baby..he kept telling me he had worked enough for me to never work and sacrifice the time I should be giving for the care of family.. those times were so sensitive..I myself was submerged in so much guilt..my husband was ok with me working..but also OK with not working..he just wanted me to make sure how I am going to manage baby time..I was lost from every side..I couldn't do it..couldn't go for job.. now after so many years even if I want to get back to work,I lost my confidence..my knowledge..it seems impossible to get back to work ..I can tell this is the story of many housewives in india..they just get lost in these judgements and fear..

Awww!!! Please don’t give up hope and lose your confidence! You’ll be good at whatever job you choose to do 😊

Hope you are doing ok now!

Always try to make yourself a priority!
big hug 🤗

Originally posted by: milkcakejamun

Absolutely love the video 😍, and it is so relevant to Pandya Store!

The concept of "sacrifice" is such a gendered issue, and for once, I have to say the CVs are doing something unique through ShiVi's separation track. Everyone in the Pandya family has stood by Raavi's side, acknowledging the sacrifices she's made while being in the relationship... Even now, they are berating Shiva to apologize so Raavi wouldn't have to make another sacrifice in the relationship. While no one seems to recognize the sacrifices Shiva has made when he accepted to marry Raavi... and perhaps that's why no one recognizes the pain that Shiva is going through by being in an unloving marriage.

Because to the family, as a guy, he hasn't made the sacrifice that Raavi has made as a woman. I know there were so many other issues regarding the ShiVi track, but I can't help but think no one recognizes Shiva's pain because it is not "socially acceptable" for a man to cry and express his emotions (with the exception of anger)

I agree!

Men not expressing how they feel is also owed to the highly patriarchal society we live in, where men are stronger/ superior and hence should not express their emotions!
WRT the Shivi marriage situation, the reason Shiva had to sacrifice was because of the fact that a women who’s unmarried/left at the altar is a burden!
I really hope they make do with these old school of thought!
every individual is whole/complete on their own.

They should get married of their own will and when they want to 😊

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Congratulations on the new EDT 🎊🎉

Looking forward to ShiVi ka divorce and GauRa ki pregnancy, with random dhol playing and cringey HAHK songs 😎 Possible Oily break down and Rishu baby sneaking behind Dev to meet with her "woke" maayka

everytime I think I can't love you more than I already do, you prove me wrong ❤️

Oh Oh Oh I completely forgot... also we are getting back Shiva locket from Monday

Originally posted by: milkcakejamun

Absolutely love the video 😍, and it is so relevant to Pandya Store!

The concept of "sacrifice" is such a gendered issue, and for once, I have to say the CVs are doing something unique through ShiVi's separation track. Everyone in the Pandya family has stood by Raavi's side, acknowledging the sacrifices she's made while being in the relationship... Even now, they are berating Shiva to apologize so Raavi wouldn't have to make another sacrifice in the relationship. While no one seems to recognize the sacrifices Shiva has made when he accepted to marry Raavi... and perhaps that's why no one recognizes the pain that Shiva is going through by being in an unloving marriage.

Because to the family, as a guy, he hasn't made the sacrifice that Raavi has made as a woman. I know there were so many other issues regarding the ShiVi track, but I can't help but think no one recognizes Shiva's pain because it is not "socially acceptable" for a man to cry and express his emotions (with the exception of anger)

What sacrifice did he make ? Every marriage is not a love marriage.

I just came to say I need help because I'm still stuck over here 😫 Yes, I know kal humara ullu banne wala hai 🤣 but still 🔥🙈

Originally posted by: _charu_

What sacrifice did he make ? Every marriage is not a love marriage.

Some of the sacrifices I can think of off the top of my head are:

1. He lost the choice to choose his own wife. Even though he respects Dhara, he was emotionally pressured to accept because he knew everything that was happening. Had Raavi come up as a match outside of the marriage hall, I don't think he would've accepted. Maami and her family are the exceptions to the rules Dhara taught Shiva.

2. He lost his bachelorhood years. Despite being a few years younger than his brother, Shiva was married at the same time as Dev. The 20s is a time of immense growth and development. I am definitely not the same person I was when I was 21-22, and I think if he hadn't married Raavi, GauRa would've allowed him to take on more responsibility at the store. He could've traveled. Meet new partners especially as GauRa start a family themselves. Now, he is expected to take care of Raavi whether he wants to or not.

3. He lost the ability to enjoy his own wedding rituals. Dev and Raavi were able to celebrate every ritual possible, but Shiva and Rishita had not. For Rishita, at least she married someone she loved, but for Shiva, that is not the case.

4. He lost some of his dignity. He was treated as a commodity of sorts. Dev wasn't available but Shiva is! No one stopped to ask him how he felt. He was just handed the wedding clothes and was told to perform all the rituals. At least Raavi had time to prepare for the idea of getting married, Shiva did not. He woke up that day expecting a bhabi, not a wife. Worst of all, all that drama was aired to the town to see.