Originally posted by: MistyDawn
The day she saw Mandhar..it would've been nice to show all her memories related to him including his death come rushing back at her when she was alone thinking about everything that night.. How Ayi Baba coped with Mandhar's death..how the whole family tried to support each other during those difficult times.. THAT would've made a world of a difference.. Then it would've been easier to understand her position.. why she feels(still) that she owes it to them to help Mandhar get his memories back.. Fact is she has moved on in life.. is very happily married and settled.. But Mandhar (if we forget his psycho obsessive side) lost her, his memories so basically even when back amongst his family, he is alone.. so its understandable why should would feel sorry for him and want to help him.. But they never gave the audience any of that so its all left on imagination and assumption..For most, what they see is what they believe.. They are seeing Mandhar as a creep..they saw how Baba behaved with RaghVi..so for the majority it becomes tough to relate to her when she goes out of her way to help them, especially at the cost of her current marriage..
@bold: I agree
For me, even when I think from Pallavi's POV - she's an orphan, D fam took her in, she experienced a real family, etc., the issue I kept coming back to was always about, why go to these extreme lengths to help. Its not about why did she help, why does she feel sympathy for Mandar. I used to think those things but coming here to AT to read more about her perspective helped me get over that. Now I'm just (was) stuck on, "ok, but why this much." She didn't leave Raghav after Baba and even Aayi asked and wanted her to, and she wasn't even in love with Raghav at the time, so what's the motivation now? All I can come up with is her own guilt of moving on + convenient writing LOL.
I get she feels indebted to D fam, but as a 21st century woman, I wish they would show her with more of a backbone towards her family. I know all about being a doormat for your own family - the women in my family are prime examples of this which could be why I'm personally so triggered (LOL - I acknowledge it), but having gratitude for your family does not equal to being a doormat for them. I wish they'd emphasize this more in the show regularly, not just when Pallavi has reached her limits.