Semi Finale with Karan Johar - Page 20

Originally posted by: Uma2010

A difference in age is a huge positive (provided the guy is proportionally emotionally mature) in a relationship, especially where both parties are Indian.

I find it interesting you say that. Was true in the main 30-40 years ago. I see a lot a stress when you are in your youth going away 40's, and he is in his office is everything 50's. Works much better early in the marriage and is brilliant when he needs help for doing even small things. Old age is when the age difference is solid gold. I am not really sure about its efficacy even in India these days in the middle patch.

I have not said any of this in connection with the contestants. I abhor private life peeks which is a bane of society worldwide. I find commercializing it even more objectionable.

It is a general statement based on observation and experience made by a general man.

All this talk and rationalizing on the forum on whether Arudeep is a couple or not 😆 and how they reacted to this and that- that is all part of something only they will know and people at this end can only assume and read according to our own subjectivities.

However what I find extremely offensive is calling in their age difference as a valid reason for the impossibility of them being a couple implying that a difference of age is a legit point 😕 As someone who is married to a guy 8 years senior and having cousins who have married guys 10-11 years senior 😆, I find that assumption offending. My cousins and myself married quite young, were all ambitious to continue to study and have strong careers and families as well and were keen to build our careers and families with the absolute support and shrewd guidance of our husbands. I have found from experience that for women who are ambitious towards both early families and careers, a guy closer to age ‘can’ be a total headache 🤦🏻‍♀️, whereas an older guy carries the understanding, maturity and experience to guide.

So, for Arudeep, they can be anything they wish or not. But to refer to Pawan as cradle snatcher and worse expletives and implying Arunita will lose her career if they are a couple (these are comments on the web and not here) I find those people crass and far removed from the real psychology of human reality and relationships.

A difference in age is a huge positive (provided the guy is proportionally emotionally mature) in a relationship, especially where both parties are Indian.

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Absolutely true. 👍 If there is mental vibing, then age is just a number. One of my besties who is a successful playback singer down south was the first in our gang to marry. She married at 19 to a guy 11years her senior. And he used to be teased in the same manner ‘ cradle.snatcher’. ( I use the word ‘teased’ not ‘trolled’ coz those were the times without SM 🙏😊). As you rightly pointed out , he has stood like a rock behind her,giving her all the support , there was no looking back as far as her career was concerned. ( she even won the state award & many more).

It is so silly to bring in the age factor. If there is something brewing btwn Aru & PD which can turn into something long.lasting , then it is for them & their families to figure out.
Another annoying thing is when ppl split hairs reg PD’s age. Wiki says 1996 born, hence 25 now, whereas there are ppl who swear blue on their faces that he is 27! 🙄🙄. What diff does it matter, 25 or 27?? Let them go figure their lives. Ppl act as if PD is pushing 40 with both hands!’ 🙄😡
Remember Nehu-ruhu… he is many years younger than her. Another eg Milind Soman & Ankita. These couples seem to have a joyous marital life.
So high time that these age-obsessed ppl take a chill pill.

Originally posted by: Uma2010

All this talk and rationalizing on the forum on whether Arudeep is a couple or not 😆 and how they reacted to this and that- that is all part of something only they will know and people at this end can only assume and read according to our own subjectivities.

However what I find extremely offensive is calling in their age difference as a valid reason for the impossibility of them being a couple implying that a difference of age is a legit point 😕 As someone who is married to a guy 8 years senior and having cousins who have married guys 10-11 years senior 😆, I find that assumption offending. My cousins and myself married quite young, were all ambitious to continue to study and have strong careers and families as well and were keen to build our careers and families with the absolute support and shrewd guidance of our husbands. I have found from experience that for women who are ambitious towards both early families and careers, a guy closer to age ‘can’ be a total headache 🤦🏻‍♀️, whereas an older guy carries the understanding, maturity and experience to guide.

So, for Arudeep, they can be anything they wish or not. But to refer to Pawan as cradle snatcher and worse expletives and implying Arunita will lose her career if they are a couple (these are comments on the web and not here) I find those people crass and far removed from the real psychology of human reality and relationships.

A difference in age is a huge positive (provided the guy is proportionally emotionally mature) in a relationship, especially where both parties are Indian.

being DA. Devil’s Advocate here 😋

operative word in bold can make it or break it. Glad in your or your cousin’s case it all worked out. But in many cases 8 yrs, especially in ARU-Deep’s case it’s a 9 yrs age difference & I can take the liberty & say a decade of age difference. If imay or May not have any effect today, But it will have its consequences/repercussions some day trust me I know what I’m talking about here.

It is case of “Pay now or Later” 😂😂

closer in age at least you grow up together. Women grow up @ younger age. If the man is 8+ yrs older for him “been there done that” syndrome 😳🙄

when she is in her mid 40s finally woman figures out what she wants out of her life, her happiness, man Is in his 50s probably with some mid life crises 😂😂😂

today’s generation may have totally different take on this.

Originally posted by: Realityshow

I find it interesting you say that. Was true in the main 30-40 years ago. I see a lot a stress when you are in your youth going away 40's, and he is in his office is everything 50's. Works much better early in the marriage and is brilliant when he needs help for doing even small things. Old age is when the age difference is solid gold. I am not really sure about its efficacy even in India these days in the middle patch.

I have not said any of this in connection with the contestants. I abhor private life peeks which is a bane of society worldwide. I find commercializing it even more objectionable.

It is a general statement based on observation and experience made by a general man.

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On the Aside: I am not sure how KJo would respond to the turn this thread has taken 😆

Originally posted by: anoushka_113

Absolutely true. 👍 If there is mental vibing, then age is just a number. One of my besties who is a successful playback singer down south was the first in our gang to marry. She married at 19 to a guy 11years her senior. And he used to be teased in the same manner ‘ cradle.snatcher’. ( I use the word ‘teased’ not ‘trolled’ coz those were the times without SM 🙏😊). As you rightly pointed out , he has stood like a rock behind her,giving her all the support , there was no looking back as far as her career was concerned. ( she even won the state award & many more).

It is so silly to bring in the age factor. If there is something brewing btwn Aru & PD which can turn into something long.lasting , then it is for them & their families to figure out.
Another annoying thing is when ppl split hairs reg PD’s age. Wiki says 1996 born, hence 25 now, whereas there are ppl who swear blue on their faces that he is 27! 🙄🙄. What diff does it matter, 25 or 27?? Let them go figure their lives. Ppl act as if PD is pushing 40 with both hands!’ 🙄😡
Remember Nehu-ruhu… he is many years younger than her. Another eg Milind Soman & Ankita. These couples seem to have a joyous marital life.
So high time that these age-obsessed ppl take a chill pill.

As for the ageism, it is indeed seriously irritating. Who cares how old Pawan is or Arunita is? They can be 100 and 110 for all I care 😆 People seem to imagine two people of the same age are the most compatible with absolutely no idea of how differently a man and woman age emotionally/ psychologically.

There are several couples like you mentioned across the board with all sorts of age gaps living successful and stable lives. Why, Macron has a 25 year age gap with his older wife! Like you say, let people figure it out for themselves and let them live and breathe and have wonderful careers.

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

being DA. Devil’s Advocate here 😋

operative word in bold can make it or break it. Glad in your or your cousin’s case it all worked out. But in many cases 8 yrs, especially in ARU-Deep’s case it’s a 9 yrs age difference & I can take the liberty & say a decade of age difference. If imay or May not have any effect today, But it will have its consequences/repercussions some day trust me I know what I’m talking about here.

It is case of “Pay now or Later” 😂😂

closer in age at least you grow up together. Women grow up @ younger age. If the man is 8+ yrs older for him “been there done that” syndrome 😳🙄

when she is in her mid 40s finally woman figures out what she wants out of her life, her happiness, man Is in his 50s probably with some mid life crises 😂😂😂

today’s generation may have totally different take on this.

And age difference toh baad ki baat hai pehle to Arunita is just 18 and should take some more time to think about such relationships. She is not in a position to see pros and cons. She's living in a fantasy world created by channel. She is faar away from real world right now. Better she concentrate on her singing career... many opportunities are waiting for her 😊

Abhi toh uski single life enjoy karne ke din hai. Jo baad mein nahi aayenge 😉

One more thing he belongs to very different culture than her. Its easy to say but hard to manage.

Baki unki marzi.. hum kya kar sakte hai 🥱

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

being DA. Devil’s Advocate here 😋

operative word in bold can make it or break it. Glad in your or your cousin’s case it all worked out. But in many cases 8 yrs, especially in ARU-Deep’s case it’s a 9 yrs age difference & I can take the liberty & say a decade of age difference. If imay or May not have any effect today, But it will have its consequences/repercussions some day trust me I know what I’m talking about here.

It is case of “Pay now or Later” 😂😂

closer in age at least you grow up together. Women grow up @ younger age. If the man is 8+ yrs older for him “been there done that” syndrome 😳🙄

when she is in her mid 40s finally woman figures out what she wants out of her life, her happiness, man Is in his 50s probably with some mid life crises 😂😂😂

today’s generation may have totally different take on this.

Also, my said cousins are in their late 20s now after early marriages. Which today’s marriageable generation would you be talking about? 😆

Originally posted by: Uma2010

I agree with parts of what you have written, but am slightly confused.

Thanks. This discussion is not germane to this thread and I do not wish to contribute more to it.

No I didn’t contradict myself. You misread closer in age to ssme age 😊 In a relationship age difference plays part but more than that family backgrounds, culture, religion, education, intellect etc etc plays part.

Never believed in couple should be of same age but should be closer in age 3-4 yrs difference.

At the end of the day its 2 people who have to figure out what works for them.

What worked 30, 40, 50 yrs ago with large age difference may not be applicable today. These days girls get married in their early to mid 30s. Old stuff is out the window.

The trend is tall & older women with shorter-younger guys. Hey whatever works. All power to them 😊👍
my last post on this topic as its midnight. GN

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

In a relationship age difference plays part but more than that family backgrounds, culture, religion, education, intellect etc etc plays part.

Never believed in couple should be of same age but should be closer in age 3-4 yrs difference.

At the end of the day its 2 people who have to figure out what works for them.

What worked 30, 40, 50 yrs ago with large ahe difference may not be applicable today. These days girls get married in their early to mid 30s. Old stuff is out the window.

The trend is tall & older women with shorter-younger guys. Hey whatever works. All power to them 😊👍

Sorry for quoting you, but you are the only one talking shaanti se, and I wanted to put my two cents here 😆 Hope thats okay with you 😆

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Personally for me its not the age difference, but the disturbing way in which the channel has been pushing this narrative.

Arunita was 17 when they started this drama (I call it drama because what the channel is doing is for TRPs). She was a minor. To ship her with someone who was an adult and in his mid-20s is disturbing. And this is not a fictional TV show, they are real people being themselves.

I agree age is just a number, most of my crushes, both celeb and non-celeb, have been at least 5 years older than me. There is no upper limit though. 😆

I have had one relationship, the guy was my age and it was a terrible experience. And I agree there should be a slight age difference, preferably the guy should be older because girls mature quicker, but if a younger guy has the same maturity level then why not.

Coming back to Arudeep, I doubt they are together. They come across as great friends, just like everyone else on the show. But for some weird reason the channel decided to put them together. There were instances where I noticed both of them being uncomfortable with it in the beginning, maybe now they've come to terms with it and just want to get this over with.

Whatever it is, its not their fault. They are two artistes who are under contract which makes them obligated to do certain things. There are too many things that go on in the making of a reality show, lots in which contestants are not even involved. People should let them be.