Excellent decisions - Page 8

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Trust has many maturity levels.

Raghav’s trust is at budding level

1. He trusts that Pallavi will not voluntarily go back to Mandar

2. He trusts that she loves him when Mandar was not in the picture. He trusts that she believes Mandar was a good man and cared deeply for her and she had many dreams to have a happy married life with him

3. Now coming to Mandar’s disappearance - he built a great fake backstory that he left that night to get pallavi the bangles he wanted to gift on their first night. Pallavi saw Raghav in discomfort and did nothing to alleviate his insecurities other than making pallavis awesome nimbu paani. She did not remove the bangles even next day that would remind Herself and raghav of the missed firstnight of mandar-pallavi. At this point even i started believing that if she was not married to Raghav and just loved him - she would have gone back to live with Mandar and give their marriage a shot. She is being very insensitive towards Raghavs insecurities- he told her he doesnt feel comfortable or thinks something is not right about Mandar. She knows that mandar wants her back and Raghav is aware too. Raghav finally even told her about the challenge, aayi and milind aske sher to not take an oath but she ignore everyone and everything and went ahead and promised that she will not leave until Mandar gets all fine and dandy… now she is a lost cause for me and cant wait see her suffering if any..

Raghav doesnt trust that pallavi will not leave him and go back. He strongly believes that she will give into their emotional blackmail and go back to DH leaving him.. he expressed his same concern and she promised that she wont even let air between them… 😂

Now she did exactly what he feared.. so where is the trusg? Should he really trust her?

Yes he trusts her not to cheat on him or do any twotiming with him and mandar—- thats where the trust ends

Originally posted by: fria319

These are good ideas in theory but he needs real therapy to get over his insecurities. These are deep rooted, stemming from his abandonment issues from when he was a teen and his mother left him alone. The show won’t address this though bc it’s too complex of an issue for them to want to bother with IMO. ITV is not good at show casing real mental struggle.

Any Sane person will also go insane if they see their partner going and staying with their ex under one roof, roaming around without informing and staying away from him.. irrespective of gender and how secure he feels. Who the Eff gets comfortable ever on earth with their partner nursing their ex, attending calls midnight. No one does 😆 Had he been just a friend and Raghav's Emotions would have been without a reason you can suggest this. But NO.. He is challenged by the ex that by hook or crook he will get his wife, and the wife day and night speaks about Mandar Mandar.

No one tolerates these.

Neither will Pallavi tolerate if Raghav brings his ex gf and keeps Pallavi waiting in their room while he is there taking care of that girl, and while Pallavi makes plan for the both of them Raghav leaves everything in mid way and run to the girl. Do you think Pallavi would be all happy 😆

Ohhh i so want to see this happening

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Now all I want is to Raghav get into some accident and completely forget the existence of Pallavi. Tab meri mann ki aag thoda thanda hoga … 😇

I would like vent a bit here too

1. Raghav is insecure. Pallavi has done absolutely nothing to make him feel secure. With all this drama of shifting to DH , she has only reinforced his insecurities

2. Pallavi used to mention how she dreamed about having a good life with Mandar and how good he was and how he made her feel. So why should Raghav not feel insecure ??

3.Tracking device- i don’t see anything wrong. I would have done the same thing if i feel Pallavi is going get herself in trouble especially after knowing what Mandar’s real intentions are. Raghav could have told pallavi that i want to be able to know where you are and if you are safe incase ur phone is unreachable and Pallavi would have given same trust bhashan.. when he gave the new phone, i was really hoping there would be tracking device installed in it.

4. Trust- what trust is she talking about ?? Its a two way street.. did she believe him when he told her about Mandars

Intentions? No… did she keep any of the promoses she made to Raghav? Absolutely No.. so what trust is she talking about?

5. Respect- I have seen respect for pallavi in Raghav’s eyes. When Mandar came back, he asked pallavi what she wants?? If she still loves him?? Thats respect. He asked her the other day too “tum kya chahta hai pallavi??”

Does pallavi show any respect for Raghav or Amma?? Absolutely NOT.. when it is time to show her humanity, she absolutely disregards everyones feelings. She does what ever she believes is right - thats all. She did not hear to her baba when he asked her to stop meeting Raghav in the past. She does the same now- doing what she wants and not heeding to Aayi, Raghav , Milind or anyone. She has this “white knight Complex” where she feels it is her responsibility to solve every problem and if it makes her sacrifice peace of mind of hers and ppl who care about her — she would would do that with out blinking an eye.

She didn’t find it necessary to get Raghav and Amma onboard with her plan to go live with her ex husband away from her current husband…

I have to applaud Raghav’s love and patience here .. no husband/wife (no matter how progressive or how much ever he/she trusts the spouse will ever agree to this arrangement). Its a deal breaker for anyone!!

Now i just need Raghav to step back and see where this goes.. i am going to sit and enjoy when the Shit hits the fan and pallavi will be the one to sameto

No no ,no more accidents for Raghav pls.

Point 1 & 2 : Absolutely on point. Yes Raghav is insecure but Pallavi's actions hv only reinforced his fears . Her words dont match up to her actions.

Point 3 : I believe Raghav should hv told her Mandar picked up her phn and switched it off. But then he had no proof and Pallavi as usual would hv dismissed him , saying Mandar is not well or something similar. Yes tracking her phn would hv been easier. Also his intentions were never wrong but she questioned his trust on her widout listening to him.

Point 4 : True. Trust is a two way street. Also Raghav never had any trust issues wid her. She is unable to comprehend dt Mandar is not someone Raghav knows. Why should he trust him.

Point 5: Yes Raghav respects Pallavi a lot . Since the initial episodes only , he had a different kind of respect for who Pallavi was. That respect has only grown for her

"White Knight complex"......yep she has dt. Dts why she didnt consider it important take let Raghav or Amma weigh in her decision .She didnt even inform dey abt it , after having taken it bcz well she took it....it has to be right only.

We all want Raghav to let go. Its the best thing to do ryt now. But he wont be able to do it.

Originally posted by: gayatherry88

Good intentions can't be justified by bad actions

Amma is watching everything silently and she speak on right time. Amma can't stop pallavi sometimes because she knows it won't be any use but she can stop her son.

Sometimes we need to let things go and we can't control each and everything. Raghav is very loving and protective of his family so his controlling nature comes instantly. Anger, impulsive, controlling, insecure and doubting all these things will destroy the relationships. Amma given the right advice, trust yourself, his love and his wife. Yes he will feel insecure but he needs to get over it because at EOD pallavi is legally wedded wife and both love each other madly, she also letting him know he don't needs to feel insecure because she'll be back to him soon. Raghav don't need to do tit tat or step low with anyone when he owns his things. He needs to stop allowing mandar to play on his heads. Glad he got Amma to hold and shield him.

Pallavi have her own obligation, responsibility and her caring nature towards d family isn't allowing her to have peaceful present. She needs to gets over with her past to live her present and future. She may consider daughter of d house but she should also think she is daughter in law of one house and she have responsibility towards Amma and Raghav. She needs to let them know before she takes the leap, because as a married woman going back to ex husband won't go well with society, Amma and Raghav needs to face the consequences. They'll handle it if may come also but it's on own her hands also. Some decisions when it's affect others she needs to let them know and also getting their concert is necessary.

That's why we need to handle our freedom carefully. Raghav lost the chance of letting her know on first place about the challenge so she should know on practical about mandar intentions. Taking responsibility and finishing up is important part. She took the responsibility of mandar but it's suffocating her each minute pass by, she feels uncomfortable when Mandar touches her and all these things piling up and she will burst out soon .

She will know what mistake she is done and she is one can fix it. Raghav and Amma bursting her??? Yes as a husband when he reaches his saturation point he can sure blast at pallavi and she needs to hear him but will he do it??? No because he loves her and Know she is innocent so he never do that.

She got into this mess and she is the one needs to come out. Marriage is never a bed of roses, loving each other isn't enough. Love and trust will always be tested and everyone needs to give that test, face the demons to be with each other. Strong emotional bond will be formed and more the love will be increased.

Both are breaking and both not hiding it's with each other. Both will bounce back hard and become stronger than before.

I agree good intentions cant be justified by bad actions. But sometimes one needs to see what was the intention behind an act. We all do dt where our loved ones are involved. If a child acts out , parents find out what was the reason behind it bcz punishing the child is never the answer. And wasnt Pallavi the one who said this to Amma once and now dt she is in the same position.....she chose to judge the action and unsee the intention.

Yes Raghav needs to get over his insecurities but these are deep seated in him , its not dt easy . It takes years of love and care and therapy to get over such issues. And yes Pallavi has assured him but her actions say otherwise. What good are her words when she doesnt match up to dem in actions. She keeps running to D house on the mention of Mandar's name. She keeps talking abt him all day . She is focussed on him all day. How is that reassuring to anyone , least of all her husband.

They might love each other but its just new. Their are at the initial part of their relationship , where you need to give each other that time , that support and build your relationship together. Just saying ILU ten times a day doesnt do it.

@ bold : Totally agree wid every word.

This is Pallavi's own mess. She needs to sort it out on her own. She is walking blindly and some day she will realise she is and can be wrong too. Hopefully she does. I know Raghav and Amma wont blame her bcz they love her wid all their heart and they actually know she is innocent in all this. That is trust and dt is how you judge people by their intentions and not actions. Bcz Pallavi's actions cant be justified either.

@bold 2 : Fingers crossed.

you know I have best plotline… Amma ki kisi friend ki beti ki visit kra lo RR mansion me… bs amma k liye entertain krega Raghav use or Pallavi tk khabar pahucha do… fir dekho kasam vasam sb gyi tel lene… daud kr wapas aa jayegi …🤣

Originally posted by: fria319

It’s bc Pallavi has always had a sense of self righteousness. It’s actually one of her flaws. She thinks she’s right in this situation , and raghav is wrong so she’s going to ignore all of his concerns and do what she thinks is right because somewhere deep down she feels her moral compass is better than everyone else’s or that she knows better than everyone else. She has done this countless times. Whether it’s with Raghav, D fam, etc., she constantly overrules other people’s objections to do what only she sees as right. You rarely ever see her change her mind post counsel from others.

Disclaimer for those who may need it: I’m not bashing her but I’m calling a spade a spade. This is just part of her characterization. None of these characters are perfect and their flaws are often times what gets them into bad situations.

This is what it is. She thinks her moral compass is always ryt and Raghav's isnt. Today her dialogue abt " insaaniyat" is basically dt only. She thinks she is the only one who thinks selflessly abt others and others cant understand her or her noble work.

Originally posted by: nikkiGarg

you know I have best plotline… Amma ki kisi friend ki beti ki visit kra lo RR mansion me… bs amma k liye entertain krega Raghav use or Pallavi tk khabar pahucha do… fir dekho kasam vasam sb gyi tel lene… daud kr wapas aa jayegi …🤣

I wish dt would happen.

Raghav ko apne award function mein atleast kisi hot ladki ke saath photos toh kichwani hi thi.

Pallu needs a lil taste of her own med.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

I would have agreed with you if his insecurities were only about losing his wife. More than losing a wife he is afraid of losing one person whose presence reminds him that he is also a good human being.

He has been misunderstood so often that he had somewhere started to believe other people's version of him being a Rakshas. Pallavi accepting him has restored his faith in himself.

When a 17 year old boy's mother abandons him and calls him murderer every other day , wishes she had killed him in womb , curses him every day for 10 long years how do you expect him to be all sorted out ?

We all want RR to behave rationally but it isn't easy for him. He is losing one person who accepted him, forgave him and even loved him.

@ bold : You hve my heart❤️ for this line. Evrything said in one line.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

I agree good intentions cant be justified by bad actions. But sometimes one needs to see what was the intention behind an act. We all do dt where our loved ones are involved. If a child acts out , parents find out what was the reason behind it bcz punishing the child is never the answer. And wasnt Pallavi the one who said this to Amma once and now dt she is in the same position.....she chose to judge the action and unsee the intention.

Yes Raghav needs to get over his insecurities but these are deep seated in him , its not dt easy . It takes years of love and care and therapy to get over such issues. And yes Pallavi has assured him but her actions say otherwise. What good are her words when she doesnt match up to dem in actions. She keeps running to D house on the mention of Mandar's name. She keeps talking abt him all day . She is focussed on him all day. How is that reassuring to anyone , least of all her husband.

They might love each other but its just new. Their are at the initial part of their relationship , where you need to give each other that time , that support and build your relationship together. Just saying ILU ten times a day doesnt do it.

@ bold : Totally agree wid every word.

This is Pallavi's own mess. She needs to sort it out on her own. She is walking blindly and some day she will realise she is and can be wrong too. Hopefully she does. I know Raghav and Amma wont blame her bcz they love her wid all their heart and they actually know she is innocent in all this. That is trust and dt is how you judge people by their intentions and not actions. Bcz Pallavi's actions cant be justified either.

@bold 2 : Fingers crossed.

Pallavi never hold anything she always say each and everything out especially to raghav but he have everything on his mind. Even though he said he don't say everything outside, pallavi isn't in that phase to understand his underlying emotions. They need to travel some more to understand that emotions.

I completely Everytime she is going on their own private time but Everytime she is asking him and he is saying to go so she thinks raghav trust and love her so he is allowing to go but she don't the volcano erupting inside him. He did voiced his concern but he should have been more communicate and clear what he is feeling. She thought raghav is fine with everything until tracker issue came out on his own mouth and she shattered so even though raghav shouts about mandar its not getting register in her mind because she feels her own husband trust her when she said everything to him . Raghav done it for her own safety but still she is wife , even though his intentions is good but it's was a bad action. Pallavi will learn hard way and Amma knows it well that's why she is asking him to be patience and have faith on his love and pallavi. Even she falls down Amma and Raghav is hold her.