Originally posted by: Transference
Shiva-Raavi: Children who are now Man & Wife-
Well, I see the EDT is flying with so much chit chat happening! I can't seem to keep track, so I am Going to go with my two cents. 😆
I may have missed essential discussion posts; forgive me for not replying. I shall try to find the posts and reply. (It's a bit too much to skim through, though)
So, there has been a lot of speculation about Shivi going back to their usual selves after their heated fight and Raavi subconsciously yearning for Shiva to wish him.
We also see these two dorks restless to resume their newfound chat and bury the hatchet.
We might see it as atrocious as Shiva had deeply insulted Raavi in front of everyone, and we all would want nothing more than Shiva begging for forgiveness given that no woman deserves to be treated like this!
That's us, and that's how a typical husband-wife relationship should be with mutual trust, love and respect.
That's OUR ideal scenario, and rightfully as well as respectfully expected.
But, let's view these two from the lens of an extended family as distant 2nd cousins or relatives-these two have grown up together in a certain way, and that doesn't change for them overnight just because they got married.
All their lives, they have seen two scenarios, Shiva lashing out at Raavi, Raavi chanting Dev, both of them bickering and then going back to normal. This has been their cycle.
We need to go back to their childhood scenes where Raavi calls him “Jhalla” and says, “apno ki Baat is bura nahi mante. Jhallon ki Baat ka kya bura manna”. Raavi has always been forgiving when it comes to Shiva. He had thrown her out multiple times; she still forgives him with her smile and goes to lock horns with him again and again.
It's not only because of Dev, but it's their thing! To fight and then mellow down. If we go back to the vegetable throwing scene, the very next moment, she is back teasing him! No matter how angry Shiva would be, she would throw herself at him, lock horns and again repeat their cycle of fights.
Does this mean Shiva is Right! NO
Is Raavi’s insult okay? NO
Why? Because something has changed in our eyes! Their relationship has changed, as pointed out by Raavi.
It struck me out of the blue because, if you notice, Shiva wanted to go back to their usual self. He said: Before this, you would keep on coming back to their house and keep sticking on to me like a Chipkali. Now it's your own house, and you won't come back, now your ego has become too much.”
My first reaction to this was, “How dare a husband say this to his wife after insulting her so much.”
My second reaction was, “These are children who have accidentally become husband and wife.”
These people, especially Shiva, has no idea what to take out of this marriage. Raavi rightfully points out as she is more aware of her changed relationship with him. “Ab humara Rishta Badal Chuka hai.”
Raavi brings up the wife equation and questions Shiva that he doesn't consider her a wife while Shiva is still stuck to their zone of familiarity where he says that your “husband” won't wish you.
Raavi expects more; Deserves more, And rightfully So! But, these people who have shared A lifetime! It's A Long Journey before they realise what respect means.
Subconsciously, Shiva and Raavi are still those kids who were a certain way and have now been thrown into a relationship they both didn't desire to be in.
It's a long journey for them.
Their cycle has been- “him throwing her out, she giving it right back to him and then going back to annoy him more.”
One might question that this time it isn't bickering but something grave! I agree, but in their heads, they go back to following down soon.
It's the US viewing them from a distance VS what they are. During the Haldi locking horns scene, too, Shiva almost throws her out, but she is back lunging at him and pulling his ears the very next day.
Shiva may have expected that this time too, so does Raavi seeing those balloons and making them about Shiva.
They need a whole new perspective, acknowledgement, respect and Trust before They finally become what an ideal relationship should be.
P.S- I DO NOT justify what Shiva did to Raavi, and no woman deserves to be treated like this!!! This isn’t a Shiva justifying, endorsing manhandling post!
How childish is this look 🤪
She looks like a Gudiya in this one 🥰
Two children in a relationship!
Beautiful post❤ as always
Yeah these 2 have a very long way to go ahead.
And regarding the fact that raavi is more aware of their changed relationship is because she was already prepared to get married, even though to Dev, but she was aware and prepared for what all a marriage entails.
Whereas for Shiva, he was obviously made to marry all of a sudden, so he will take time to understand and adjust to this marriage set up.
