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Originally posted by: bhavna101

Exactly my point!😳

That is why I do not expect Raavi to behave nicely with Shiva and pick him over Maami, because he hasn't earned it yet. Nobody should expect that from Raavi. Shiva needs to tone down his anger, eliminate his unjust hatred towards her and show Raavi his true self.

Why would Raavi call him janwar, jahil and gawar, if he behaves nicely with her like his family members.

It's just the way he acts with her that makes Raavi dislike him.

exactly shiva needs to change his ways and first apologize for all the manhandling

Originally posted by: bhavna101

Raavi was mentally prepared to marry Dev.

She wasn't prepared for Dev's betrayal and definitely not the marriage with Shiva.

If Shiva had been nice to her since the beginning, then Raavi would have treated him the same way.

And now, even if Raavi wants to initiate something, Shiva's anger, his rude behavior pushes her back.

That scene from Saturday's episode when he didn't want Raavi to find those land papers, the way he behaved with her that time, it wasn't necessary.

He could have asked her nicely or made some other excuse but he didn't.

How can Raavi behave nicely with him after he's like that. One moment he's all good but the next he turns bad. He changes his behavior so much that it is confusing Raavi.

That's why I expect Shiva to change his behavior towards Raavi first. And once he does that, Raavi will do the same.

Nothing can justify Shiva's behavior towards Raavi.

Do u remember that tiny scene where he held her finger with his? Do u remember her words? After rejecting his hand in mandap she still couldn’t accept it then. Granted usko ghalat fehmi hui thi par kya uske words ke baad Shiva try karega? Shiva is shown to be too sensitive. Her actions haven’t been exactly heartwarming either.

I don’t say she has to initiate anything. I say there has to be effort on both the side. Kyunki neither are willing to give. How can a marriage survive if neither r willing to give?

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Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

Maami ka equation in dono ke beech kangan kand se shuru hua but even before that there is no level ground between them.

My only point is Raavi and Shiva both have to take steps. Ek aage badh hi nahin sakta. Shiva is just as much affected by the whole thing. He has married a girl who not only hates him and thinks of him as gawaar but also loved his bro whole life. She is now his wife. Do u think he will have it in him to just take steps towards her? Just like Raavi needs to be handled with care Shiva does too. He had known his own lil world till now and suddenly he hass been thrusted with a responsibility he wasn’t exactly prepared for.

But I believe that Shiva has to take the first step. Usko shuruvaat karni hogi, and later on they can take all the steps together.

Shiva married a girl who dislikes him because he hates her. Raavi's disliking is justified, Shiva's hatred is not. Maami took that kangan, Maami created all that mess, Raavi did not. So he cannot behave like that with Raavi. This "Maami Ki Behen Ki Beti" maybe a fun nickname, but it doesn't sound fun to me.

Everytime Shiva addresses her by this name, it reflects his hatred for Maami and the fact that his hatred towards Raavi is because of Maami only.

Why won't she call him a gawaar when he behaves like one with her? He gets to call her everything but she can't be mad at him at all?

You know what I think. Had Shiva been nicer towards Raavi like Dev was when they were kids then maybe Raavi would have liked Shiva instead.

The step that I am talking about is eliminating his hatred and changing his behavior towards his wife. Is that too much to ask for?

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

Jaldi jaldi update de!🎉

Irada wahi hai😆

Just to add some positivity guys:

1. Two weeks baad we will get Somnath scenes!

2. We will get Shiva working in the store and ShiVi store scenes

3. We will get Janu and Motiben

4. The haveli sinister track will end

5. ShiVi love story will start

Just 2 weeks more guys...I am 100% sure we will get better tracks once they are back with the whole crew! Pre wedding jaise scenes! Cannot wait! Itna patience se ab tak jhela toh 2 weeks aur hi sahi! 🤗

Originally posted by: bhavna101

What makes Suman and Dhara believe so is because Shiva behaves nicely with them, they are his family. And these two ladies are like those mothers who think that their son is the best and can't do anything wrong. All these years they let Shiva misbehave with Raavi, this speaks about everything!

Shiva needs to learn to respect others, especially women outside the family. He still doesn't consider Raavi as his family completely, it's just in name kind of thing.

He's always been so rude to her that now, when at moments, Shiva leaves without talking back to her, Raavi wonders what actually happened to him and why didn't he react like always. She is used to his misbehavior now but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt her.

That's why I am always taking Raavi's side because she is not at fault in this relationship.

thats unfair dhara never let shiva misbehaves with raavi whenever he did she was always there to correct him but if shiva refuses to listen then she really cant do anything about it it is only so many times she can make him understand rest it is upto him if he does not comes out of his i dont give a damn attitude then it will create more problems for him

he is grown up adult for heaven sake

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

Do u remember that tiny scene where he held her finger with his? Do u remember her words? After rejecting his hand in mandap she still couldn’t accept it then. Granted usko ghalat fehmi hui thi par kya uske words ke baad Shiva try karega? Shiva is shown to be too sensitive. Her actions haven’t been exactly heartwarming either.

I don’t say she has to initiate anything. I say there has to be effort on both the side. Kyunki neither are willing to give. How can a marriage survive if neither r willing to give?

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Communication, behen, communication.

When has being silent done any good? Usko pata thha na that Raavi misunderstood him, toh uski misunderstanding door kar deta. Wahan khandar mein jab marne waale thhe tab bhi usko sach bataya na. Toh pehle kyun nahi?

Which sensitive person behaves like that with a girl who is now his wife? I am a sensitive person but you won't see me manhandling someone.

And I repeat, when somebody has been rude to me, why would I be polite towards him?

See, Raavi needs time to recover and Shiva needs time to accept this but that is the main problem here!

Everybody is just pushing them, forcing them to accept this reality but not letting them work on this relationship on their own!

But still, Shiva needs to be the one initiating things and Raavi will follow, I believe she will. Shiva needs not to accept her but he calls her a part of his family, no? So just treat her like that.

Originally posted by: Krishnapanchali

exactly shiva needs to change his ways and first apologize for all the manhandling

He does! He can apologize for all those things later, but he can start with being a bit nicer towards her. And I know that after seeing this change, the impression that Raavi has of Shiva will begin to change as well.

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

Just to add some positivity guys:

1. Two weeks baad we will get Somnath scenes!

2. We will get Shiva working in the store and ShiVi store scenes

3. We will get Janu and Motiben

4. The haveli sinister track will end

5. ShiVi love story will start

Just 2 weeks more guys...I am 100% sure we will get better tracks once they are back with the whole crew! Pre wedding jaise scenes! Cannot wait! Itna patience se ab tak jhela toh 2 weeks aur hi sahi! 🤗

I am on a break till then😆

Originally posted by: bhavna101

But I believe that Shiva has to take the first step. Usko shuruvaat karni hogi, and later on they can take all the steps together.

Shiva married a girl who dislikes him because he hates her. Raavi's disliking is justified, Shiva's hatred is not. Maami took that kangan, Maami created all that mess, Raavi did not. So he cannot behave like that with Raavi. This "Maami Ki Behen Ki Beti" maybe a fun nickname, but it doesn't sound fun to me.

Everytime Shiva addresses her by this name, it reflects his hatred for Maami and the fact that his hatred towards Raavi is because of Maami only.

Why won't she call him a gawaar when he behaves like one with her? He gets to call her everything but she can't be mad at him at all?

You know what I think. Had Shiva been nicer towards Raavi like Dev was when they were kids then maybe Raavi would have liked Shiva instead.

The step that I am talking about is eliminating his hatred and changing his behavior towards his wife. Is that too much to ask for?

It isnt.

But Shiva isnt the only one that need to eliminate the hatred does he?

He calls her all the names but gawaar jaahil etc r not just names they r thorough insults on a person’s esteem. Calling her chipkali and him gawaar isn’t equal. And he calls her all the names except MKBKB in an affectionate way like he calls Krish sometimes. But not Raavi. Raavi hs an image of a partner that doesn’t suit Shiva and Shiva knows it and also knows ki she won’t be able to accept him and with that thought in his mind, him taking the first step isn’t possible. Yet he is doing what he can. And she is too. But she has been shown more malleable and flexible between the two.

If you ask me if this was real whom I would like to see taking the first step. I would say Shiva. Because there is nothing more beautiful than a man who can take steps towards his woman. But with the baggage he has, him taking the first step doesn’t exactly makes sense. He has all this emotional baggage and it’s since childhood. Granted that Maamis sins are not Raavis but Shiva has been seeing it that way since he was a kid and the though have been pressed into his head so keenly that it will take time to be removed. Raavi on the other hand do not have hatred. So it makes more sense to take the route that way.

I want one scene with their convo on this.