Originally posted by: Svt611
aree guys chill!!!!
This is a very normal fight situation......
I will tell from personal experience
Also In no way am i defending virat's actions but I have seen an exact situation first hand and I am shedding light on it please try and understand
so when a person is upset the last thing you want to do is rile them up (which kaku tried to do)
virat controlled himself, if he wanted he could have lost his cool and made a big deal out it, the situation would have gotten worse trust me, seen it first hand.
he did not agree to kaku but she also did not give him a chance to speak kept spewing venom which was intended to rile him up.....
there is no denying what he did is wrong but he was thrown under the bus by the two women and then sai has not come home
he is upset, worried and irritated.
from personal experience, my parents fought very badly and had a huge screaming match once, my mom got so pissed off that she walked out of the house without her phone or informing anyone....
no one absolutely no one knew where she went and that riled up my dad, even more, he was so livid by the fact that she left without telling anyone...
my sister and i had to handle him first before going out to look for my mom, who we found sitting in the gurdwara
but it freaked us all out, no phone, no information and it is not safe outside, anything could have happened...
what did i learn from this situation which could have been avoided was to inform someone no matter how upset you are.... leave a note, message or whatever but don't disappear....
In no way am i defending virat or his actions they were wrong i agree but him staying quiet was 1. better because he did not scream 2. he is trying to understand what is happening 3. he is also seeing what pakhi is doing...
honestly, if i was in his place i would have behaved the same way... I would have stayed quiet and let the other person say all their rubbish why because i know there is no point in saying anything to them... it will not make a difference and why should i escalate the situation when i know the other will never listen for them it is my way or the highway....
sai was wrong in not calling and informing him, he got upset out of worry.. a very normal human reaction.....
both are not in the state of mind to understand each other..... they need time off and hence best not to say anything to anyone because it will add to the situation....
No virat must have not fed pakhi... aai was there and when he got upset because of sai not returning, aai must have asked them to leave him alone and they would have....
see it is a conflict of emotions here, one clear in their stand and the other conflicted and unaware... a clear gap of miscommunication the advantage of which has been taken by a third person.....
that is why we say never go to bed upset, sort it out there and then, never let it reach that stage......
she did not listen to him, he got riled up because of samrat (cause he knows she is right and he is guilty), pakhi used the opportunity, riled sai up thinking she would not retaliate, sai who is cleary done (paani sar se upper jaa chuka hai) retaliated and gave it back rightly so, he did not ask for this but was thrown under the bus no matter who started it, things esclated and sai did not come home.....
a small thing which had to be between the two is now a family matter because those two did not talk and pakhi used the opportunity to pin them against each other.....
something which would have been sorted between the two...
yes i dont agree that he kept avoiding the topic, but now he cannot he will have to address it, and clear things to sai... no longer can he throw it under the rug, which he would have done.....
it is as simple tat he needs a neutral understanding third perspective.
kaku and gang will speak against sai- rile him more
aai, pulkit, mohit if try to expalin he will feel they are siding with sai cause they only understand her
very common i do it with my parents also when i fight with my sister and they try to explain- i exactly say you don't give a shit about me and only see her side! but when i calm down i see her side myself!
he needs someone who is aware of the scenario but is on his side and he knows that person is on his side to explain things to him....
she needs time off which she is getting but this will all lead to them talking it out and sorting it......
So no i did not find anything wrong with what happened!
the only thing that irritated me was the stretch.....
THESE are solely my views, agree to disagree if you don't like them, don't @ me for having this perspective or for trying to understand where he is coming from.... i can sort of get his reaction cause my father is similar and i see him react the same way in these kinds of situations....
so please ignore if you don't like my view!!
tagging some i know wanted my POV
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