Motherhood is a Choice! - Page 4

Originally posted by: TeluguAmmayi

Dhara hit the boys - the pain can go away in a week or 2 but words once out will remain in the mind and heart for ever.

We have to remember today it is Dhara, tomorrow it can be Ristha or Raavi.. Supporting Suman because she is against Dhara is pathetic.

Encouraging suman type people is so wrong.

Suman doesn’t even have the empathy and thankfulness that Dhara took care of her kids for so many years.

Sometimes I wonder may be this is why they call women an enemy of another women.

❤️

@bold..saas will.be always a saas.

Originally posted by: chinnu_kaku

suman reminds me of my saas..they are so harsh and never regret for the words uttered.

what does petticoat cheap means?

Probably she meant Petticoat Chaap. If she said those words to Gautam, then its an indirect way of telling hen-pecked husband.

must say all your posts are insightful, i admire u for this......

i just made my post and mentioned the same....no one has to be reminded about what they dont have or what they do not wish to have.........its their own choice......

its below the belt and no one should be subjected to such torture, taunt or questions.....

as u mentioned women is seen as baby making machine and thats so true.......if they want kids and cant have den woman is the problem......when she doesnt have den woman is a problem.......y cant woman be free and not be answerable to anyone....m glad things are changing but still it will take a lot of time....but still something is better den nothing..........

DHARA doesnt deserve this......i 2nd that......i want her punished for the beating, being partial but this taunt is uncalled for......one cant just say that she never loved these kids.....she nurtured dem......she was mother to dem.....no doubt about it

i feel here this is being said coz later after revelation all must feel guilty, and seek forgiveness... which will happen.....but they should have handled things differently ......

Originally posted by: Transference

Internalised patriarchy is REAL! I am really miffed by how Suman just brought it up at the drop of a hat!

Honestly, I am all for Dhara Chutney! 🤣 However, I want the Chutney to be authentic, not made with internalized hatred for women kind or disrespecting other women's choices!

I wish the writers would have taken another route...however since this is a problematic track that keeps coming back, I hope to see repentance in the future and further education to avoid women being labelled as barren if they don't decide to have kids! The taunting hurts my heart!

I hate the fact that women's bodies are politicized, treated like a public forum, a birthing machine, something to be debated, something to be given opinions on!

At the end of the day, no vagina, no opinion! However, with women like Suman, education on this topic would be a step in the right direction!

Gonna add more of my 2 cents in because I watched today’s episode where Suman repeated the insults several times.

Now normally, I would be appalled that a woman taunted another woman for her life choices. Especially something as sensitive as children.

But at the same time, & let me play devils advocate here, what else would a mother say in that situation? I’m not saying that it was right of her to say, but what else would she have said ? They kept giving her excuses, not understanding her hurt.

She just heard that her children were beaten by the very person who she trusted to care for them. The first knee jerk reaction is to say against their defense is “you don’t get it because you’re not a mother”.

It’s harsh, mean, & hits below the belt, but have none of us lashed out in anger? Especially when our own are hurt?

Like I understand that two wrongs don’t make a right, but this is just the first discussion of what happened - everything Suman is saying is coming from a place of hurt, anger and disbelief. As someone as temperamental as she is, did any of us really think she wouldn’t say that to Dhara?

Also, all this is being said, IMO, because yeah, until Dhara is in Suman shoes, would she ever fully understand what she did ? Based on how they’re writing her, it doesn’t seem like she really understands the hurt she caused. And I think that’s what Suman is trying to point out. Dhara said they’re like her own children but Suman’s point is that a mother wouldn’t do that to their kids even to teach them a lesson, so how can Dhara say they’re like her own children - how can she call herself their mother?

We can sympathize with people in different situations, but will we truly know what they went through and how they feel until we walk in their shoes? Up for debate I guess. 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I guess I just see Suman as this tough mama bear, she’s gonna come for you if you come for her kids. Idk why Dhara or Gaumbi even thought any different. It’s a low blow, of course, but what else do people say in anger ? Sometimes fights just get nasty 🤷🏽‍♀️ .