Whatever happens in Ghum is reality - Page 4

Originally posted by: msin

Truth is bitter .. the popularity of ghum is because it shows the ugly mirror to society..

Whatever happened to Devyani pulkit .. and how her mother handled harini is not far fetched .. look around you .. you will see such uncomfortable skeletons coming out

and virat being outraged but unable to have guts .. to prosecute his elder is also reality .. humans have feet of clay .. Sai is young .. so she’s idealistic .. as she becomes more mature .. shades of grey will be added in her persona ..

I can clearly recollect .. I have seen an exact case happening like pulkit devi and harini happening with a family friend .. where the lovers who were married for a short period separated.. I don’t know whether the foetus was aborted or child given away ..

and the girls parents not having an iota of guilt .. after 2-3 years we got invite for the second wedding of the girl .. so it happens ..

Absolutely agree with you dear❤️

I know this reality is harsh, but it is the truth.

Regressive thinking, societal norms ,maybe in small amount compared to good, but do exist in society still.

Where name becomes more than life and where people tend to forget they are human beings😭

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

I am not sure seems there is party that everyone has dresses up for the next day/same day not sure....dont want to comment on future episodes..

His extreme need to punish Sai when she goes wrong and let go the crimes like these just with a disappointment and be back to his normal..Kaka, Kaku..Baba stuff is something I am not able to understand.. He loves his family, he biased when it comes to farz..He loves Sai..he goes extreme. Now we may say he felt cheated and betrayed , because he was insecure and give various other reasons..But are you able to relate with this man at all? What the hell have writers done to this character? I cant relate to it all..

Virat trying to punish Sai .. is his on off tussle with his emotions.. he wants too many things from her but since he hasn’t expressed clearly .. gets disappointed when she does not appreciate.. these days he is in a happy zone because Sai is his full time wife plus bahu of the house .. doing everything as a righteous bahu should .. in the last few days when have u seen her picking books to study .. she told everybody she called pulkit devi so that virat her husband feels less guilty ..

then at his saying she is hosting the birthday party ..

Now regarding why he did not punish Kaku , omi .. well he has met pulkit 3-4 times after shadi .. did pulkit ever lodge complaint..

The victim or his family have to file an FIR

Infact pulkit was more than happy to be standing infront of Kaku and accepted her cold rebuff ..

He even told harini .. we are a part of this famiky

did virat even get a whiff .. that pulkit wants his issues to be sorted .. the letter issue was a criminal offence if pulkit had complained.. he never did.

Devi Tai getting wrong medicines is all conjecture not proven

pulkit getting kidnapped is something he is not aware of

today he himself came to know that harini was given in an orphanage.. but he has met harini n pulkit .. they seem ok and were happy to meet Chavans and include them in birthday party .. then why should he put his relatives in jail

Originally posted by: msin

Virat trying to punish Sai .. is his on off tussle with his emotions.. he wants too many things from her but since he hasn’t expressed clearly .. gets disappointed when she does not appreciate.. these days he is in a happy zone because Sai is his full time wife plus bahu of the house .. doing everything as a righteous bahu should .. in the last few days when have u seen her picking books to study .. she told everybody she called pulkit devi so that virat her husband feels less guilty ..

then at his saying she is hosting the birthday party ..

Now regarding why he did not punish Kaku , omi .. well he has met pulkit 3-4 times after shadi .. did pulkit ever lodge complaint..

The victim or his family have to file an FIR

Infact pulkit was more than happy to be standing infront of Kaku and accepted her cold rebuff ..

He even told harini .. we are a part of this famiky

did virat even get a whiff .. that pulkit wants his issues to be sorted .. the letter issue was a criminal offence if pulkit had complained.. he never did.

Devi Tai getting wrong medicines is all conjecture not proven

pulkit getting kidnapped is something he is not aware of

today he himself came to know that harini was given in an orphanage.. but he has met harini n pulkit .. they seem ok and were happy to meet Chavans and include them in birthday party .. then why should he put his relatives in jail

Errmm because he is righteous and his family is a self confessed criminal...Leave that that

He might not go with all that..atleast don't be happy pally pally with them within days..like he is with Omi who gets away insulting his wife and DevKit both, who was spared on that note that he is not allowed to do that.... Since they are not what they portrayed to be all along.. They spoilt their daughter's life..turned her into what she is today.. destroyed the child's life and also also did not reveal anything..when Sai was being thrown out.. They cannot be called ghar ka acha karne/sochne wale bade anymore right ??

Infact Patralekha she was a part of it.. was filling his ears and participated in Sai being thrown out.. the family after doing all this..till date Calls..Sai names.. insults her..abuses her..so am I wrong in expecting a certain degree of anger from him...from not wanting to talk to them..see them for few days.. For stopping everyone to stop calling Sai ye ladki..ae ladki.. To tell PP she is not what he though she is..if she participated in all this and still justifies it??

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Errmm because he is righteous and his family is a self confessed criminal...Leave that that

He might not go with all that..atleast don't be happy pally pally with them within days..like he is with Omi who gets away insulting his wife and DevKit both, who was spared on that note that he is not allowed to do that.... Since they are not what they portrayed to be all along.. They spoilt their daughter's life..turned her into what she is today.. destroyed the child's life and also also did not reveal anything..when Sai was being thrown out.. They cannot be called ghar ka acha karne/sochne wale bade anymore right ??

Infact Patralekha she was a part of it.. was filling his ears and participated in Sai being thrown out.. the family after doing all this..till date Calls..Sai names.. insults her..abuses her..so am I wrong in expecting a certain degree of anger from him...from not wanting to talk to them..see them for few days.. For stopping everyone to stop calling Sai ye ladki..ae ladki.. To tell PP she is not what he though she is..if she participated in all this and still justifies it??

I don't want his typically shocked, pained look. I hope he has some good dialogues and I hope he threatens legal action. Note that I'm reducing my expectation with every comment I make.

This is a chance for the makers...to show society a mirror, even if its for one episode. They are a mass medium of entertainment, someone somewhere should feel ashamed. That's how strong Virat needs to them.

Moving on is understood. This is a daily soap, and supposed to move on.

But some level of responsibility towards this social crime can be taken up.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

I am not sure seems there is party that everyone has dresses up for the next day/same day not sure....dont want to comment on future episodes..

His extreme need to punish Sai when she goes wrong and let go the crimes like these just with a disappointment and be back to his normal..Kaka, Kaku..Baba stuff is something I am not able to understand.. He loves his family, he biased when it comes to farz..He loves Sai..he goes extreme. Now we may say he felt cheated and betrayed , because he was insecure and give various other reasons..But are you able to relate with this man at all? What the hell have writers done to this character? I cant relate to it all..

All I can say is that I have seen men like Virat (minus the abuse) brought up by a narcissistic parent. They will be in denial about the parent's actions but shout at/ fight/hurt their spouse for much smaller issues. Even if they do realise some of the parent's wrong actions, they are too weak to put up a stand. I guess deep inside, their relationship with the spouse, however strained, is more real than what they ever had with the narcissistic parent. The relationship with the narcissistic parent is conditional and based on emotional manipulation masquerading as love.

Coming to Virat, I don't think anyone of us can relate to his abusive behaviour. We can try to explain it, interpret it in our own ways. On my part, I tend to extrapolate the behaviour of the men I just described and try to fit it to Virat. In addition, Virat is brought up in a patriarchal family in which punishment is frequently used as a valid form of discipline, even among adults. So his actions during his rage reflects the abusive pattern he has subconsciously imbibed.

No matter how much Virat claims to love them, they are/always have been 'paraaya'. His relationship with them is everything toxic - where there is no honesty and is only based in emotional manipulation. His relationship with Sai and Ashwini is the only true relationship he has got and somewhere in his heart he knows that.

Having said that, I'm totally disappointed with today's episode. The crimes of his family are too huge for even men like him to ignore. Virat is intelligent and morally sound enough to be disgusted and disillusioned with everything he heard. Unfortunately, he may not be strong enough to take a drastic action. But there will definitely be a huge chasm in the Virat-Chavans relationship. But in the show, everything will be forgotten and he will be normal after two days. There will be no moral dilemma, no breakdown, no cutting of ties.

Originally posted by: scarlett22

I don't want his typically shocked, pained look. I hope he has some good dialogues and I hope he threatens legal action. Note that I'm reducing my expectation with every comment I make.

This is a chance for the makers...to show society a mirror, even if its for one episode. They are a mass medium of entertainment, someone somewhere should feel ashamed. That's how strong Virat needs to them.

Moving on is understood. This is a daily soap, and supposed to move on.

But some level of responsibility towards this social crime can be taken up.

Or atleast cutting of all ties , at least that.. Am in expecting too much?

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Or atleast cutting of all ties , at least that.. Am in expecting too much?

Too much😆

Though he did do it with Sai...😔

Originally posted by: scarlett22

Too much😆

Though he did do it with Sai...😔

Sai se pyaar karta hai na.. wo ..so it's okay 🤣if he doesn't oust didi..that means he doesn't love didi.. Hence proved..

Do not get me startted on the whole Pulkit character because that is such a poorly written character nothing can redeem it. Am a parent and if anyone did anything to my child even look at them sideways I would be in mama mode and you would get told. I can never smile and be all buddy buddy qith anyone ( be it my own family) if they did anything to my child and if I had a Kaku in my life and they did that to me no way in hell would I ever assosiate with them...putting them in jail would be a nicer thing than what I would do.

And the rest of the comment just because everyone has come out resigned to the outcome does not make it right. What the writers are failing to do is show even a small, tinny tiny bit of real reactions and emotions from all these people. Someone gives away their grandbaby to an orphanage with no second thoughts literally drives thier own child mad but some how it is everyone elses fault and Virat and Sai expects that Kaku attending a BD party makes up for all of it. This is not about Virat alone even the Sai chsracter has been butchered. This self proclaimed protector of all wronged ( we are expected to believe by the writters) also believes that Kaku attending a BD party will solve all the Harini issues?

Are these people human beings, Sonali Karishma and Mohit reactions are also lacking they just found out the biggest shocker but react to it like it's a by the way.

Parkhi .. that one is in a different world. They have decided to potray her as a crazy person with only one (well two) thoughts on her mind...her true loves Kaku and Virat...she has become a cartoon character, just there for effect and to add more drama but no real substance to add to the story