I am very late to the discussions here, but all of you have beautifully called out every thing that's making almost every relationship in Pandya family toxic and unhealthy.
You know the separation of kitchens and Shiva and Dev to rely on their wives for food is made out to be a punishment by Dhara. And taken so by both of them.
Raavi and Risitha are not affected by it because they are ready to take on new responsibilities.
Everybody has a stage in life where they move away from the comfort of home or start adjusting with their life partner. That's the time when new routines are formed, life skills are learnt and people become confident in their ability to function independently.
How nice and understanding would it have been if she had taken this decision to avoid all the cropping up frictions between the newly married couples and to give them some alone time to figure out their own relationship instead of using this as a tool to show them that they can't exist without the existing family setup with her in the center ( because that's what it feels like with her behaviour irrespective of her explainations to Gaumbi )
And yes, her partiality towards Rishita is very much visible. Just because Raavi has grown up in front of them and was almost part of this family, and Rishita is completely new to this family she is being given all the time to adjust and forgiven for everything she does.
But Raavi and Shiva are not given the same leverage. And Krish and Shiva being forced to respect Risitha irrespective of her behaviour is very irritating. How on earth can good familial bonds be formed like this?
Dhara's headmaster attitude will only achieve temporary peace for her so called happy family. If the family members are not allowed to have their own individual traits and gradually accept others and adjust accordingly it will become suffocating ultimately because nobody can live as per others for a whole lifetime.
And how is hidding anything from Suman justified? She is the head of the house and has every right to know about what's happening in her family. She might have given Dhara full rights over the house and her sons but still it doesn't mean Dhara should misuse her authority.
Dhara herself should have explained everything happened to Suman and also her intent behind it. When Suman trusts Gaumbi and Dhara to take care of everyone in the family, they should act upon that trust.
On another note , the family does not seem to have been ready for the changes the new bride ( brides - as how it ultimately turned out) will bring to their household. GauRa have not had any talk with boys explaining the changes which comes with marriage, how there would be expectations from both end and how adjustments are required.
Atleast if Suman is aware about the frictions between everyone she would be able to help solve it with her advice through her years of experience. Because Dhara and Gaumbi have failed spectacularly in this.
Seems it became too a long a post. Will wrap it up here đ
Edited by bluecool - 4 years ago
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