Pakhi and Hindu law - Page 3

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

I doubt pakhi had paid attention on d marriage vow or on samrat , her whole attention was on virat , her imagination that virat filling her maang & making her wear mangalsutra , so sub Consiously she had married virat , so deep inside she consider Virat as her husband that's why she tries to impose her rights on virat which is purely wrong & cheating to samrat.

This is just my pov .

She’s so disgusting. Did Virat imagine her when marrying Sai?

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

She’s so disgusting. Did Virat imagine her when marrying Sai?

F.. no. He had just the vaada in his mind and nothing else and he didn't even bother to check on her till he completed all the rituals.

Originally posted by: AninditaB

F.. no. He had just the vaada in his mind and nothing else and he didn't even bother to check on her till he completed all the rituals.

Isn’t it clear? She’s clingy and he was never really that into her. No wonder he moved on so quickly.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

Isn’t it clear? She’s clingy and he was never really that into her. No wonder he moved on so quickly.

He was emotionally attached to Sai from a long period, may be from the day he saw she was getting forcefully married to Jagtap.

Because before that he was in the la la land of Pakhi which broke as soon as she married and he decided to move on from her.

The emotional attachment towards Sai even with the vaada made him fall in love with Sai sooner

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

She’s so disgusting. Did Virat imagine her when marrying Sai?

Hello, new to IF. Been watching the show for a while. I respect Virat for his clarification and for recently drawing a boundary between him and Pakhi. I have no soft corner for Pakhi whatsoever but TBH both Virat and Pakhi made a mockery out of their marriage rituals. Virat also had FB's about Pakhi

They did show Virat having flashbacks about his Vada which was totally unwanted Since Pakhi was already his brother's wife. It's so problematic. He was convinced of keeping the Vada intact at that point. Don't even get me started on how incestuous it is even though I will admit he would have never crossed his limits with her because he's a man of principles. Yes, Pakhi is completely wrong at this point of the story shes possibly a vamp but Virat can't go Scott-free. He had his fair share of responsibility back then. He made the unwanted promise whatsoever of not letting any other girl other than Pakhi in his heart. If we are blaming Pakhi for not upkeeping the sanctity of marriage during the rituals Virat was equally at fault. Worse soon after the marriage he went and clarified to Pakhi that the Vada given to her won't be broken and his marriage with Sai is a deal.

I don't think it's fair to blame Pakhi alone if it comes to marriage rituals. Men are let off the hook easily. It will be unfair to say he was dedicately focused on his marriage with Sai. He wasn't. He had Pakhi on his mind then as well (I don't blame him for feelings but running after Pakhi to explain his marriage status did make me nauseous )Even if the story demanded we can't forget he placed a Vada as to perpetually place Pakhi in his heart. Given Pakhi is his SIL is so problematic. He didn't think through and he's at fault for that.

So for me personally neither of them kept the sanctity of the rituals during that particular point in time. Virat does now and I appreciate that. Pakhi I don't think will ever. I want a Sairat remarriage without the burden of Vada

Originally posted by: Anamika32

Hello, new to IF. Been watching the show for a while. I respect Virat for his clarification and for recently drawing a boundary between him and Pakhi. I have no soft corner for Pakhi whatsoever but TBH both Virat and Pakhi made a mockery out of their marriage rituals. Virat also had FB's about Pakhi

They did show Virat having flashbacks about his Vada which was totally unwanted Since Pakhi was already his brother's wife. It's so problematic. He was convinced of keeping the Vada intact at that point. Don't even get me started on how incestuous it is even though I will admit he would have never crossed his limits with her because he's a man of principles. Yes, Pakhi is completely wrong at this point of the story shes possibly a vamp but Virat can't go Scott-free. He had his fair share of responsibility back then. He made the unwanted promise whatsoever of not letting any other girl other than Pakhi in his heart. If we are blaming Pakhi for not upkeeping the sanctity of marriage during the rituals Virat was equally at fault. Worse soon after the marriage he went and clarified to Pakhi that the Vada given to her won't be broken and his marriage with Sai is a deal.

I don't think it's fair to blame Pakhi alone if it comes to marriage rituals. Men are let off the hook easily. It will be unfair to say he was dedicately focused on his marriage with Sai. He wasn't. He had Pakhi on his mind then as well (I don't blame him for feelings but running after Pakhi to explain his marriage status did make me nauseous )Even if the story demanded we can't forget he placed a Vada as to perpetually place Pakhi in his heart. Given Pakhi is his SIL is so problematic. He didn't think through and he's at fault for that.

So for me personally neither of them kept the sanctity of the rituals during that particular point in time. Virat does now and I appreciate that. Pakhi I don't think will ever. I want a Sairat remarriage without the burden of Vada

I feel nauseous. Ignorance is bliss. Didn’t watch those episodes so I wasn’t aware. Now I’m getting that weird feeling in my stomach

What do you guys have to say about this?

I don’t this assessment is fair to Pakhi. Just because she got married doesn’t mean that she would automatically forget the situation in which she got married to Samrat. Upar se, her husband went missing the very next day! Before she could get to know him, before she could even think of giving their relationship a chance.

For all intents and purposes, Pakhi is stuck in the past. She is still the woman who fell in love with Virat and it burns her to see him move on when she has no one to move onto.

What she is doing, by interfering in SaiRat’s marriage, is wrong. If she was graceful and a less selfish person, she would leave that house and go back to her own home.

But we can’t call her interference as “cheating on Samrat” when he barely became a part of her life 🤷‍♀️ How is that even fair?

A marriage is a sacred bond. It takes two people to form that bond. Pakhi only got a wedding; she never got any marriage from Samrat because he just wasn’t there. She may even think he is dead, considering it’s been a crazy long time.

As for Virat, he was in love or infatuated with Pakhi when he made that vaada. He married Sai out of obligation. Just because he did that, doesn’t mean he cheated when he thought of Pakhi and what they had lost later. Just because he circumambulated around a holy fire doesn’t mean that his feelings for his first love will just vanish.

It’s really unfair to glorify a wedding this way. It may be considered a sacred ritual as per Hindu scriptures. But that is only because it’s the coming together of two consensual adults who promise to love and care for each other for seven lifetimes. If that feeling of togetherness itself is missing, then that ritual alone is not enough.

Originally posted by: gurl-enchanted

I don’t this assessment is fair to Pakhi. Just because she got married doesn’t mean that she would automatically forget the situation in which she got married to Samrat. Upar se, her husband went missing the very next day! Before she could get to know him, before she could even think of giving their relationship a chance.

For all intents and purposes, Pakhi is stuck in the past. She is still the woman who fell in love with Virat and it burns her to see him move on when she has no one to move onto.

What she is doing, by interfering in SaiRat’s marriage, is wrong. If she was graceful and a less selfish person, she would leave that house and go back to her own home.

But we can’t call her interference as “cheating on Samrat” when he barely became a part of her life 🤷‍♀️ How is that even fair?

A marriage is a sacred bond. It takes two people to form that bond. Pakhi only got a wedding; she never got any marriage from Samrat because he just wasn’t there. She may even think he is dead, considering it’s been a crazy long time.

As for Virat, he was in love or infatuated with Pakhi when he made that vaada. He married Sai out of obligation. Just because he did that, doesn’t mean he cheated when he thought of Pakhi and what they had lost later. Just because he circumambulated around a holy fire doesn’t mean that his feelings for his first love will just vanish.

It’s really unfair to glorify a wedding this way. It may be considered a sacred ritual as per Hindu scriptures. But that is only because it’s the coming together of two consensual adults who promise to love and care for each other for seven lifetimes. If that feeling of togetherness itself is missing, then that ritual alone is not enough.

I'm sorry to interfere.. but I disagree with cheating samrat part. The interference of pakhi in sairat life is not just to seperate them..But she is competiting sai for the position of virat's wife. Whether it is coming to virat room at late night, or trying to have personal dinner with him or taking care of him in hospital pakhi's justification is why can't I if sai can have these with virat..??. That's wrong...She want the rights of virats wife when she is married to samrat. and that's exactly considered as cheating.

No matter what, institution of marriage deserve respect. Samrat being MIA or still a stranger for her doesn't give her any right to cross the boundaries. If she want she can simply go back to home , look for a way to end the marriage with samrat legally then do whatever she want...

Originally posted by: gurl-enchanted

I don’t this assessment is fair to Pakhi. Just because she got married doesn’t mean that she would automatically forget the situation in which she got married to Samrat. Upar se, her husband went missing the very next day! Before she could get to know him, before she could even think of giving their relationship a chance.

For all intents and purposes, Pakhi is stuck in the past. She is still the woman who fell in love with Virat and it burns her to see him move on when she has no one to move onto.

What she is doing, by interfering in SaiRat’s marriage, is wrong. If she was graceful and a less selfish person, she would leave that house and go back to her own home.

But we can’t call her interference as “cheating on Samrat” when he barely became a part of her life 🤷‍♀️ How is that even fair?

A marriage is a sacred bond. It takes two people to form that bond. Pakhi only got a wedding; she never got any marriage from Samrat because he just wasn’t there. She may even think he is dead, considering it’s been a crazy long time.

As for Virat, he was in love or infatuated with Pakhi when he made that vaada. He married Sai out of obligation. Just because he did that, doesn’t mean he cheated when he thought of Pakhi and what they had lost later. Just because he circumambulated around a holy fire doesn’t mean that his feelings for his first love will just vanish.

It’s really unfair to glorify a wedding this way. It may be considered a sacred ritual as per Hindu scriptures. But that is only because it’s the coming together of two consensual adults who promise to love and care for each other for seven lifetimes. If that feeling of togetherness itself is missing, then that ritual alone is not enough.

I termed it as cheating with samrat coz it was she who agreed for samrat's alliance , virat only requested her , last decision was her she had chance to backout but she choose to stay close to virat , is it fair with samrat , why she went with d marriage if she was least interested in d marriage.

virat never knew about pakhi's secret mission that she never intend 2 form a relationship with samrat . throughout marriage she dint paid any attention to samrat or marriage vows her sole attention was on virat, she imagined virat making her wear MS & filling her maang , is it fair with samrat .

Feelings I understand it don't have on off button but pakhi don't want to move on only , she always compete with sai thou she herself know she don't have right on virat. Virat's vaada don't give her any right on him .

Rarely is it ever so black and white. Just because one is married, doesn’t mean that they signed away their right to be an individual. She is a horrible person for wanting to break Virat’s marriage with Sai, but that doesn’t make her a cheater. Especially not over an MIA husband that may not even be alive.

Marriage deserves respect, just like other people and institutions deserve respect in life. But just like in the case of the latter, respect is not anyone’s janam sidh adhikaar. You can’t demand respect. It is not unconditional.

I won’t fault her for wanting to be with another man in this kind of a marriage. I won’t even fault her for wanting Virat to be that man. But she is wrong for planning and plotting, and doing her best to separate SaiRat. That’s not love.

Originally posted by: JugniPH

I'm sorry to interfere.. but I disagree with cheating samrat part. The interference of pakhi in sairat life is not just to seperate them..But she is competition sai for the position of virat's wife. Whether it is coming to virat room at late night, or trying to have personal dinner with him or taking care of him in hospital pakhi's justification is why can't I if sai can have these with virat..??. That's wrong...She want the rights of virats wife when she is married to samrat. and that's exactly considered as cheating.

No matter what, institution of marriage deserve respect. Samrat being MIA or still a stranger for her doesn't give her any right to cross the boundaries. If she want she can simply go back to home , look for a way to end the marriage with samrat legally then do whatever she want...