Pandya Store|Episode Discussion Thread #6 - Page 69

It's interesting to note that Gaumbi and Dhara actually understand the importance of proper communication in a relationship, they've had a healthy, happy marriage where neither shy away from broaching subjects or disagreeing with each other.

However, when it comes to the family dynamics, neither of them seem to recognise the same rule applies. Suddenly they're all about sweeping things under the rug and hugging out conflicts without proper resolution. They would never do that between the two of them!

Makes me wonder why they never understood that communication is key to more than an intimate relationship like marriage.

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

I agree! Dhara was amazing in the beginning when she defended Raavi especially when she said this line "Raavi hamesha Shiva ke saath khadi rahegi" That line had a completely different impact. But then she went back to her original rona dhona mode feeling sorry immediately for what she said to Rishita. Also I didnt like when Dhara interrupted Dev when he was blasting Rishita. I was like ladke ne pehli baar life mein muh khola hai please let him vent his frustration! Warna "Chup hojao Rishita" ke aage wo kabhi nahi jata!! 🤔 And the end me gyaan was also not needed when she was telling Dev to give Rishita some time she is new blah blah. I was like, its not about being new or being alien to the concept of joint family, its about having basic manners and decency which Rishita lacks completely! 😡

well said! Dhara should neither have felt guilty, nor interrupted dev when he opened his mouth after a long vow of silence

also, i wish one of these days she or gaumbi or someone also talks some sense into dev's thick skull.. it's the need of the hour

I think we definitely need these three conversations asap!!

1. Raavi and herself : She needs to analyze herself and what has happened to her in the past couple of weeks. She needs to spend some time alone, go over what happened to her in the past, come to terms with her marriage to Shiva and finally accept the marriage whole heartedly. She needs to stop crying over her past and prepare herself for the beautiful future she is going to have with Shiva!

2. Raavi - Dev : We need an apology from this unapologetic person Dev and he needs to apologize to Raavi and accept that it was because of him and only him that her life changed forever.

3. Shiva- Dev : Dev needs to apologize to Shiva! Rather than apologizing to Dhara and Gaumbi every now and then this guy Dev needs to wake up and apologize to the person he hurt the most - his own little brother. And he should stop using this line "Mai tera bada bhai hoon" once and for all. Bade bhai hone ka koi farz nahi nibhaya hai usne

4. Raavi- Shiva: These two need to have a nice long conversation, clear all the misunderstandings that Raavi has about the kidnapping, plan how their relationship is going to be going forward. These two need to have a wholesome conversation without fights once. This will definitely be an eye opener for Raavi and from here her journey of respecting and loving Shiva for who he is will start. Shiva's journey has already started.

Sorry for the long post! Just some random thoughts 😊

Originally posted by: Felicie

It's interesting to note that Gaumbi and Dhara actually understand the importance of proper communication in a relationship, they've had a healthy, happy marriage where neither shy away from broaching subjects or disagreeing with each other.

However, when it comes to the family dynamics, neither of them seem to recognise the same rule applies. Suddenly they're all about sweeping things under the rug and hugging out conflicts without proper resolution. They would never do that between the two of them!

Makes me wonder why they never understood that communication is key to more than an intimate relationship like marriage.

Par family sab different wavelength par hote hai....

Isiliye hug karo aur sab katam kar do ye formula use karate hai..

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

I agree! Dhara was amazing in the beginning when she defended Raavi especially when she said this line "Raavi hamesha Shiva ke saath khadi rahegi" That line had a completely different impact. But then she went back to her original rona dhona mode feeling sorry immediately for what she said to Rishita. Also I didnt like when Dhara interrupted Dev when he was blasting Rishita. I was like ladke ne pehli baar life mein muh khola hai please let him vent his frustration! Warna "Chup hojao Rishita" ke aage wo kabhi nahi jata!! 🤔 And the end me gyaan was also not needed when she was telling Dev to give Rishita some time she is new blah blah. I was like, its not about being new or being alien to the concept of joint family, its about having basic manners and decency which Rishita lacks completely! 😡

@bold - tell me about it yaar, matlab hadd hai...he doesn’t say anything beyond this and kitni baar samjhaya and dhara bhabhi hamari maa hai lines. Aage nahi badtha isse 🤓

Originally posted by: Peanutbolt

@bold - tell me about it yaar, matlab hadd hai...he doesn’t say anything beyond this and kitni baar samjhaya and dhara bhabhi hamari maa hai lines. Aage nahi badtha isse 🤓

Same! I feel Dev ke dialogues abhi repetitive hogaye hai! Or else the writers are so bored when it comes to writing his dialogues ki they cannot think of any new lines 🤣 Because baaki sabke dialogues are amazing especially Shiva-Maami-Suman.

Oh God!

Can someone teach Rishita how to talk. I always think the girl has valid points but she is downright condescending and has no sense of right or wrong.

Mujhe nahi lagta Dev ka kabhi Kuch hoga. I’ve kinda written him off.

Ok I feel raavi is gonna change after this incident she is gonna get out of her self pity and the reason why I feel this way is I think they wanna bring growth in raavis character before maami enters ig... That is why they are delaying mamis entry to the haveli as well... In tamil raavi takes a stand for shiva and dhara when mami accuses them..so I think this sequence is gonna change a lot for raavis charcater and bring the required growth..

Originally posted by: D_e_s_t_i_n_y

kyu Gaumbi aur Dhara dono ek he wavelength par hote hai jab woh communicate karate hai.... Isiliye easily baat karate hai.. Shant personality hai dono ke agar Shiva - Raavi jaise hote toh woh log be problem hote..

Par family sab different wavelength par hote hai....

Isiliye hug karo aur sab katam kar do ye formula use karate hai..

They brought the kids up. 10 years is plenty of time to inculcate healthy conflict resolution into your family regardless of how different the three brothers are. My problem is that they just don't want that happening in fears of the family coming undone, which is stupid. Even now, whenever Shiva broaches the elephant in the room all they do is shut him down. He might be stating stuff in angry outbursts, but letting it out and hearing the other party's side and burying the hatchet once and for all is better than "hug karo, bhool jao" any day, especially now that they're all adults and married.