Pity Malini

I really feel sorry for Malini, like really, really sorry.

>>What a sad life it must be to know that there is a raging elephant in the room but she doesn’t want to confront it.

>>What a sad life it must be to have suspicions about her husband but all she can do is to lash out at a 19 year old instead

>>What a sad life it must be to be in a relationship where the spouse has mentally moved on but he is scared to reveal the truth because she is so volatile

>>What a sad life it must be to be in a marriage where relatives ( read in laws) are also terrified of her and her OTT antics of leaving the house and starving and suicide

>>What a sad life it must be to be a person who decides to kill oneself even before hearing the truth! She didn’t have any concrete proof of Aditya-Imlie relationship—-all that she based her self-pity suicide drive on was speculations

>>What a sad life it must be to be back to her husband’s house when there is an irreparable damage to their relationship. Given her track record of leaving the house, shouldn’t she have stayed away from T house at least for some days?

The character of Malini is a good portrayal of what one should not be in a marriage, where your spouse stays in marriage out of pity and fear of the consequences, not love. Life is unpredictable for all if us, but how we choose to react to that is completely in our hands.

It must be indeed sad to find your house help is actually the first wife of your spineless husband and both are having a clandestine affair behind your back. 7 years down the drain and for whom a worthless man....and probably it will take another 7 years to recover from the trauma. While the said husband and housemaid will get their happily ever after. If this was reality its a reality I wont wish on any women.

Originally posted by: rhondasa

It must be indeed sad to find your house help is actually the first wife of your spineless husband and both are having a clandestine affair behind your back. 7 years down the drain and for whom a worthless man....and probably it will take another 7 years to recover from the trauma. While the said husband and housemaid will get their happily ever after. If this was reality its a reality I wont wish on any women.

Since you got personal with the second person “ you”, let me tell you that I would happily walk out of a marriage where my husband stays with me only because he is scared of me😁 🤣🤣🤣

And I would not commit suicide over my suspicions until they are confronted and confirmed 🙏 BTW, I have been through a break up with a cheating partner and I certainly did not behave like Malini! I walked out of the relationship with my head held high! So please do not make assumptions before launching a personal attack🙏The serial is portraying women as weak, moping, and their existence defined by a man. It’s high time we call out on such problematic portrayal.

A few years ago a woman was killed on Karwachauth by her husband over an affair. The husband wanted a divorce, the woman got her in laws and everyone in the family to “fix” her husband. She refused to give divorce and stayed on. Eventually, she was murdered brutally. The husband is in jail and the couple’s six month old and six year old are growing up without parents😢. I wish she had walked out of her marriage and started anew with her kids. We really need to teach our girls to walk out of bad marriages, not mope and try to “fix” irreparable things

Originally posted by: woman11

I really feel sorry for Malini, like really, really sorry.

>>What a sad life it must be to know that there is a raging elephant in the room but she doesn’t want to confront it.

>>What a sad life it must be to have suspicions about her husband but all she can do is to lash out at a 19 year old instead

>>What a sad life it must be to be in a relationship where the spouse has mentally moved on but he is scared to reveal the truth because she is so volatile

>>What a sad life it must be to be in a marriage where relatives ( read in laws) are also terrified of her and her OTT antics of leaving the house and starving and suicide

>>What a sad life it must be to be a person who decides to kill oneself even before hearing the truth! She didn’t have any concrete proof of Aditya-Imlie relationship—-all that she based her self-pity suicide drive on was speculations

>>What a sad life it must be to be back to her husband’s house when there is an irreparable damage to their relationship. Given her track record of leaving the house, shouldn’t she have stayed away from T house at least for some days?

The character of Malini is a good portrayal of what one should not be in a marriage, where your spouse stays in marriage out of pity and fear of the consequences, not love. Life is unpredictable for all if us, but how we choose to react to that is completely in our hands.

Originally posted by: woman11

I really feel sorry for Malini, like really, really sorry.

>>What a sad life it must be to know that there is a raging elephant in the room but she doesn’t want to confront it.

>>What a sad life it must be to have suspicions about her husband but all she can do is to lash out at a 19 year old instead

>>What a sad life it must be to be in a relationship where the spouse has mentally moved on but he is scared to reveal the truth because she is so volatile

>>What a sad life it must be to be in a marriage where relatives ( read in laws) are also terrified of her and her OTT antics of leaving the house and starving and suicide

>>What a sad life it must be to be a person who decides to kill oneself even before hearing the truth! She didn’t have any concrete proof of Aditya-Imlie relationship—-all that she based her self-pity suicide drive on was speculations

>>What a sad life it must be to be back to her husband’s house when there is an irreparable damage to their relationship. Given her track record of leaving the house, shouldn’t she have stayed away from T house at least for some days?

The character of Malini is a good portrayal of what one should not be in a marriage, where your spouse stays in marriage out of pity and fear of the consequences, not love. Life is unpredictable for all if us, but how we choose to react to that is completely in our hands.

What pathetic analysis

How do you find it funny that a women must tolerate and watch her hubby suddenly giving so much importance to a servant. And the 19 year old is btw too smart for her age

How do you find it funny that her spineless spouse is a 2 timing cheat and yet she trusts her 7 years with him and always gives him the benefit of doubt

If she reacts too fast she is piling on..if she reacts too slow she is volatile....anything Malini does is wrong but the Mahaan Imli is a godess

How do you find it funny that her in laws also include morons like Rupi di....who is actually seeking pleasure in Malini's struggle....thanks Anu hi for throwing this on her face today. A much needed reality check for Rupi ji

How do you find it funny that her spouse and her super manipulative step sister literally pushed her to suicide....no sucide is not an option but does Malini need to actually watch adili pukeworth romance - btw in her own bedroom - to confirm her doubts. Dont you think at some levels she already knows about Adile

How do you find it funny that she is back to that horrible mental household with some hope to revive her marriage.....any women would try to save her marriage especially when they bonded in love and commitment..you see Malini didnt know that her asshole hubby will just flip 1 day

And yes.....Imli is equally responsible for miseries in Malini's life....AC is right how many homes will she break?

Originally posted by: gopi2929

What pathetic analysis

How do you find it funny that a women must tolerate and watch her hubby suddenly giving so much importance to a servant. And the 19 year old is btw too smart for her age

How do you find it funny that her spineless spouse is a 2 timing cheat and yet she trusts her 7 years with him and always gives him the benefit of doubt

If she reacts too fast she is piling on..if she reacts too slow she is volatile....anything Malini does is wrong but the Mahaan Imli is a godess

How do you find it funny that her in laws also include morons like Rupi di....who is actually seeking pleasure in Malini's struggle....thanks Anu hi for throwing this on her face today. A much needed reality check for Rupi ji

How do you find it funny that her spouse and her super manipulative step sister literally pushed her to suicide....no sucide is not an option but does Malini need to actually watch adili pukeworth romance - btw in her own bedroom - to confirm her doubts. Dont you think at some levels she already knows about Adile

How do you find it funny that she is back to that horrible mental household with some hope to revive her marriage.....any women would try to save her marriage especially when they bonded in love and commitment..you see Malini didnt know that her asshole hubby will just flip 1 day

And yes.....Imli is equally responsible for miseries in Malini's life....AC is right how many homes will she break?

It’s not funny. It’s pitiable. It’s a terribly tragic state for any woman to be. It is a pathetic representation of a female character.

Originally posted by: woman11

Since you got personal with the second person “ you”, let me tell you that I would happily walk out of a marriage where my husband stays with me only because he is scared of me😁 🤣🤣🤣

And I would not commit suicide over my suspicions until they are confronted and confirmed 🙏 BTW, I have been through a break up with a cheating partner and I certainly did not behave like Malini! I walked out of the relationship with my head held high! So please do not make assumptions before launching a personal attack🙏The serial is portraying women as weak, moping, and their existence defined by a man. It’s high time we call out on such problematic portrayal.

A few years ago a woman was killed on Karwachauth by her husband over an affair. The husband wanted a divorce, the woman got her in laws and everyone in the family to “fix” her husband. She refused to give divorce and stayed on. Eventually, she was murdered brutally. The husband is in jail and the couple’s six month old and six year old are growing up without parents😢. I wish she had walked out of her marriage and started anew with her kids. We really need to teach our girls to walk out of bad marriages, not mope and try to “fix” irreparable things

Great reply!👏👏👏

Good on you for recognising that you have agency as a free human and using your agency in the correct way. Also, kudos for not succumbing to the temptation of victimising yourself to get sympathy from others!

Shit happens in everyone’s life, but we always have a choice in how we deal with it. Moping around in self-pity over ‘phooti kismat’ and expressing self-righteous indignation over not being given love and attention from a man is not a sign of being a dignified and educated woman.😛

In addition to teaching girls not to let their their existence be defined by a man, we must also emphasise the importance of building a strong inner constitution. This consists of a value system, firm moral code (including respecting others from ALL classes, not just your own) and dignity. Girls seldom have an individual identity and therefore feel the need to define themselves by their relationships. Unfortunately, relationships don’t always work out the way we’d like. An individual identity is a necessary safeguard from descent into hopelessness and desperation. Which is not a healthy place for anyone to be.

Will written sis!

I just was thinking, what I will do if I was at Milani's shoe?

After investing 10 years in a marriage and even having a kid together, not really financially independent, what will I do?!

Even the idea is horrible to think about!

But what if?

Your partner choosing someone over you is going to hurt you, no matter how strong a women is!

If I suspect, I will not play mind game! I will not lash on the other women, why lashing on her while my relation is weak we as partners gave her the space to interfere, I will directly asked him, is that true? Is that right?! And WHY?

This why is not to try to fix?! Because him choosing anybody over me that means that I have already loose! But just to know what had gone wrong!

I will definitely step back, ask for separation and divorce, I will take my time to sorrow, then I will try to heal and rise and find another reason to move on! It is not the end of the world

If he really loved me, he will value me after that, he will sense my absence, he will crave my company! He will feel what wrong he did!

But a sorry will not manage, he will have to earn me back, and that will never be an easy task!

But if he don't, if he really find love in other, I have to find peace with it, after all life we spent together and the kid we share worth to forgive him and that for my own peace, and I will find my own happiness!

Originally posted by: Guiltyo0o

Will written sis!

I just was thinking, what I will do if I was at Milani's shoe?

After investing 10 years in a marriage and even having a kid together, not really financially independent, what will I do?!

Even the idea is horrible to think about!

But what if?

Your partner choosing someone over you is going to hurt you, no matter how strong a women is!

If I suspect, I will not play mind game! I will not lash on the other women, why lashing on her while my relation is weak we as partners gave her the space to interfere, I will directly asked him, is that true? Is that right?! And WHY?

This why is not to try to fix?! Because him choosing anybody over me that means that I have already loose! But just to know what had gone wrong!

I will definitely step back, ask for separation and divorce, I will take my time to sorrow, then I will try to heal and rise and find another reason to move on! It is not the end of the world

If he really loved me, he will value me after that, he will sense my absence, he will crave my company! He will feel what wrong he did!

But a sorry will not manage, he will have to earn me back, and that will never be an easy task!

But if he don't, if he really find love in other, I have to find peace with it, after all life we spent together and the kid we share worth to forgive him and that for my own peace, and I will find my own happiness!

I believe a marriage cannot be “saved”. If it needs saving, it has already become toxic. Women often do not find the support to walk of their marriages—in this respect I appreciate how they have etched Anu’s character extending support for her daughter. Malini’s character is perhaps 50% or more women stuck in a bad marriage😢 Emotional blackmailing, guilt tripping, moping doesn’t repair a broken relationship. Is it fair? No. But is it the right way to handle it? Absolutely not. A woman is an individual first, then a role later. If she doesn’t stand up for herself, nobody will. That’s precisely why I like Imlie more as a character. She has never defined herself wrt Aditya. She is tied by circumstances—--going back to the village might bring more trouble for her and Aditya, but she is steadily moving towards her goal. I hope they show Malini as an individual person soon—there’s so much potential for two strong female leads.

Why is all this not applicable to Imlie. Why did she try to stick to this marriage. Is it because she is a ganwaar and keeps taking Sita Maiya’s name in vein.

i am amazed to see that for the sane reason Imlie is praised and Malini is criticized.

Why all the bad marriage and divorce supporters did not say this for Imlie

How blindly biased Imlie supporters are.