Raavi Vs Shiva

After watching today's episode, I am somewhat pissed with Raavi's behavior.

I get it she is hurt, She feel angry, she is being cheated, etc etc. BUT No one in this Earth has right to insult any human being based on their look.

I was not expecting these types of words from "Educated" Mrs. Raavi.

"Gawar", "Tumare me se badbu aa rahi he", "Saabon ko bhi nahi pata hoga tu kab nahya hoga" making eww faces etc etc. its off limit.

I am also not happy Shiva manhandling Raavi but at least he don't put comment on her appearance like this.

Raavi is not leaving single opportunity of making Shiva inferior.Sometimes willingly or unwillingly she cross the limit.

In future, I expect big apology from Raavi to Shiva and Vice versa.

baaki romance toh unka "supperrr se upperrr he"😳❤️

I agree. Her ‘gawar’ comment really hurt him. He doesn’t show it but her words always hurt him 😭

Yes her gawar and idiot words are not good today it hurts shiva I think dhara should take stand and show some right way to raavi

I havent watched the episode yet just only saw the clip and I agree with you all that it is not nice, but then I think in Shivi's case we cant take it seriously. If RIshita would have said something like that I would have felt annoyed and horrified but Shivi are teasing each other.

I can see why gawar would seem hurtful to Shiva and frustrate us viewers. But we must remember that Raavi and Shiv have known each other since childhood. They grew up together. Even if they weren't friends there's a level of comfort between them to speak without thought or consideration. She does not see Shiv in 'that's way yet either. Neither does Shiv.

I also don't like Shiv's mishandling of Raavi. There's lots of childishness between them, which will take some time to mature. Both are going through an acceptance phase of each other, so let's see how things pick up.

Raavi also spent the best part of her youth fantasising about Dev. We can't expect her to forgive and forget so easily, but at least she has come to accept things as they are and escaped her dreamworld of Dev. For now, I see Shivi as 'friends in enemy'.

Overall, I'm liking what I see! The show gives me the laughs, which is always a plus point in my books!

I agree with the "gawar" comment was too much but the rest of it they have always been like that from the beginning. I dont know from when you started watching but one of first scenes that grown up raavi and shiva had after the leap was of her asking when it was the last time that he washed his clothes. They grew up with each other, I'm not saying that it's okay, but it is part of their normal characteristics.

Yes Dhara and Suman should give her some sense. Now Raavi acting like Prafulla.

Ghadhedi, Gadheda, chipkli considered as teasing words but making eww faces , commenting on odor, not putting her clothes with him etc is rude and insulting behavior

If she say these in closed door, its ok but she dont loose single opportunity to expose him in front of Dhara/ everyone.

Today Dhara unwillingly or frustrated way mad at Shiva about his appearance in front of Rishita, that was not right too. That visibly made shiva hurt and hugged Dhara.

He was right when you love someone you have to accept their pluses and minus. Once you in deeply love , you automatically work on your minuses to make other one happy. It has to come from both ways. Why Shiva only change.

After Raavi's mrg with him, It looks like Shiva is making first attempt willingly or with Dhara's order but he is. What Raavi did? She have to come out of her imaginary bubble. She is not "Princess"

The gawar comment is definitely hurtful. Shiva gets affected by that but ig they're building that up for an outburst or vulnerable scene where she understands and becomes more sensitive about the subject. They're making Raavi and other characters repeat it a lot these days, while it's insensitive, it's hinting at something looming up.

The rest of it? I find no issues with any of it, honestly. I would find it problematic had it been said between poeple who are simply acquaintances or distant/new friends, but they're not. They grew up together, calling each other all sorts of names and passing insults. Don't we tease our friends and close relatives mercilessly, comment on anything and everything, call them all sorts of insulting names? Such behaviour might come off as harsh but it's quite normal when there's such a degree of familiarity involved and it's acceptable as long as you're not striking any sensitive cords.

Usually, you would know not to hit sore spots when you're that close, in this case the only sore spot is the jibe about his education. Shiva doesn't mind the rest of it. Even Dhara comments about how smelly his shirt is in the very first epi after leap, and his brothers always used to tease him about not bathing during the preleap episodes... so it's a matter of how comfortable you are and whether you'd take the other person's comments to heart.

Wrt to her saying all that stuff in front of everyone, that's how they've always been. Shiva does the same too. While it's always expected of a married couple to respect each other in public, you need to remember that they're not a couple by complete consent or desire, and their relationship is super new - it will take time to ease into it and take their jibes behind closed doors.

Even then, I think it's okay to banter in front of others as long as they are people you don't mind being vulnerable in front of, in this case Shiva is totally fine listening to her blabber because his family is his bubble. In fact, he's okay listening to anyone in the family say anything as long as the audience is limited to family members, Rishita might not count but I don't think he felt too conscious about her presence today. That's subjective to perception ig.

Similarly, Raavi wouldn't mind Shiva saying some demeaning stuff (given it's not about a touchy topic) in front of the family either. Obviously, if the topic is something serious or sensitive, they should fight it out between themselves... but that's going to take time.

Just my two cents!

Originally posted by: tintin1234

Yes Dhara and Suman should give her some sense. Now Raavi acting like Prafulla.

I do agree with you that gawar is hurtful and she should stop that. But she is not intentionally selfish or evil, she just needs to come out of her self pity zone. Dhara is using the right approach with her, which is to stop encouraging her victimizing herself and trying to get her to move on.. let's see how well that works!

Who knows when that will happen though.. hoping it is soon!