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What Raavi-Shiva-Dev-Krish share is exceptional because they have grown up together. The way she talks or behaves with them is so real. Even after reaching the age of maturity and till date, we often tend to speak with no inhibitions with our cousins or distant relatives like that which can include giving galis too. Their comfort and camaraderie is different which is evident in the way they talk to each other.

That’s the bond you share with family members.
These kids have fought together and grew up together. I don’t see anything wrong in Raavi’s behaviour. She is the same. Disappointed by Shiva not being beaten up.

That’s why I said, it’s unfair to expect her to see Shiva as a husband and start that sensitivity. Trust me, even if love happens, they will continually bicker and call each other names. Will that mean that they are humiliating each other? No, it’s their natural relationship. Simple.

Tomorrow Krish may get married but everyone gives a Tapli to him! Will that mean Krish isn’t loved or respected. No right?
Shiva’s hurt is deeper:

A. Because his brain has registered the marriage and subconsciously finds himself not adequate enough. Imagine his condition, he practically married a girl who dreams about another man that too his brother. Enough to bruise anyone for life.

B. He still is not over the sudden change of events.

So, for Raavi, she is under a strange adrenaline high. It happens with people with PTSD. They try to latch on to an emotion that gives them a firmament of belief, strength and entitlement. For her, it’s become Shiva, her latching onto him as well as lashing at him. Both have humongous issues to resolve. I wish these Mummy Papa mode of Gaumbi and Dhara ends a bit. They aren’t helping but they are suppressing a problematic situation.


Tid-Bits-On a side note, I loved how Raavi genuinely said Sorry to Rishita when she chided her for singing the wrong song 🤪That’s how pure Raavi is.

I bet the moment she realises the angst of Shiva, she will be the best one to take him 😆

Originally posted by: Grey-licious

Ulta kiya na to hurt dhara n shiva she started taking Rishita side

True but Dhara, shouldn't have spoken about the sandwich that way. It's a vicious circle.

I found everyone lacking in the episode. Emotional outburst but no solution. Let's hug so Bhaiya Bhabhi aren't hurt. Everyone compromises in a family but it's also just as important to talk to each other. Not talk at each other!

Raavi needs to grow up, pronto. I am actually surprised at her. She almost committed suicide and now she's being weirdly happy! 😆

Guess, it might be her coping mechanism!! Rishita actually tried today, she didn't think of making the sandwiches herself but Dev said and she did it. That should have counted. Dhara said it might be bad and Shiva followed Bhabhi and was done.

There was no give in anyone. I did like Rishita-Raavi bonding. Hoping that it's not just teaming up again Dhara but actually develop a friendship.

Originally posted by: Transference

What Raavi-Shiva-Dev-Krish share is exceptional because they have grown up together. The way she talks or behaves with them is so real. Even after reaching the age of maturity and till date, we often tend to speak with no inhibitions with our cousins or distant relatives like that which can include giving galis too. Their comfort and camaraderie is different which is evident in the way they talk to each other.

That’s the bond you share with family members.
These kids have fought together and grew up together. I don’t see anything wrong in Raavi’s behaviour. She is the same. Disappointed by Shiva not being beaten up.

That’s why I said, it’s unfair to expect her to see Shiva as a husband and start that sensitivity. Trust me, even if love happens, they will continually bicker and call each other names. Will that mean that they are humiliating each other? No, it’s their natural relationship. Simple.

Tomorrow Krish may get married but everyone gives a Tapli to him! Will that mean Krish isn’t loved or respected. No right?
Shiva’s hurt is deeper:

A. Because his brain has registered the marriage and subconsciously finds himself not adequate enough. Imagine his condition, he practically married a girl who dreams about another man that too his brother. Enough to bruise anyone for life.

B. He still is not over the sudden change of events.

So, for Raavi, she is under a strange adrenaline high. It happens with people with PTSD. They try to latch on to an emotion that gives them a firmament of belief, strength and entitlement. For her, it’s become Shiva, her latching onto him as well as lashing at him. Both have humongous issues to resolve. I wish these Mummy Papa mode of Gaumbi and Dhara ends a bit. They aren’t helping but they are suppressing a problematic situation.


Tid-Bits-On a side note, I loved how Raavi genuinely said Sorry to Rishita when she chided her for singing the wrong song 🤪That’s how pure Raavi is.

I bet the moment she realises the angst of Shiva, she will be the best one to take him 😆

Raavi is very much a good person. ShiVi have a lot to deal with and you are right, the Mommy & Daddy should back off a bit. 😆

As soon as Raavi realizes how hurt Shiva is, she is going to apologize, no doubt there. It's just getting to that phase is going to take time and I feel we fans are getting a bit impatient.

I honestly feel very bad for Shiva. He married a girl he doesn't even like and the girl was in love with his brother. Dev needs to talk to him. Shiva is going to explode, Dhara can't expect him to keep things bottled up. That's not healthy!! Shiva is hurting really bad and anything and everything triggers him. That's normal too when you are bottling things inside you will lash out. It needs an outlet.

I can't wait to see Shiva having a breakdown so we can see what he's feeling. The poor guy, he needs a hug!!

Originally posted by: Grey-licious

Well that's true

Wives get frustrated when the mother fondle their son all the time ...and dhara is not even their mother

But she's like their mother right and I think she's little possessive for them as she didn't plan her own baby because of the brothers

Its not only the fondling but how sons would put them on a Demi-goddess pedestal. I was so irked by Dhara today. Yeh nahi kiya woh nahi Kya. Arey nahi let people breathe.🤪

Originally posted by: Namita-M

Like kuch ulta karne ke baare mein soch rahi hai 😆

Gadhedi toh hai hi 🤣

kahi shiva ke saare kapde chura ke to nahi bhaag gayi?🤣

Originally posted by: livepraylaugh

Watched the episode. I didn't find anything odd in Raavi behavior nor Rishita's. If someone is inquiring many stuffs in our household, we just gets irritated and Rishita and Raavi reaction is somewhat relatable and Rishita just comment in a funny way as she had used more harsh words in the beginning, yesterday she is normal lol.

The sandwich thing does tell that Dhara kind of comment about everything lol. I get it that Rishita might have made a mistake and Dhara too made an issue. If Rishita makes a small issue and comment about anything, all family members are making faces which is also wrong. Raavi supported Rishita as she was giving sandwiches to Shiva which he refused in a demeaning manner so Shiva enemy becomes Raavi best friend lol. She started being friends with Rishita in next second without having any second thoughts. Krish is right that they are like in childhood days and didn't grown up lol.

I understand that Shiva supports Dhara for everything but doesn't mean Rishita and Raavi are making a plan against Dhara lol. People interacts and some kind of disagreement might happen and they can resolve with healthy conversation. Dhara, Rishita and Raavi are old enough to handle their own arguments especially a simple matter like yesterday episode but Shiva kind of makes it into big or someone is plotting against Dhara. He does manhandles ppl without thinking which is absolutely wrong.

Dev and Shiva fight due to the past incident remembrance rather than Dev calling him fool. Shiva kind of kept every angst inside him and it opened up as anger. He needs to talk it out with Dev. I miss a important thing in Hindi version compared to regional version is the bond between the brothers. Dev and Shiva have an amazing bond in original version where both understand each other problem without even telling each other. Hope they try to build it here as its good to watch

Very aptly put. 🙌Shiva needs to get out of his mode that there’s a conspiracy against Dhara Lol 😆

Does anyone know how old are Raavi and Rishita? I thought maybe they were around 19-21? The way they behave makes sense if they are. Personally I wasn’t irritated at all with anyone. Dhara is a experienced adult who knows responsibilities in living with all the members of the family but I feel like Raavi and Rishita just started so it’ll take time for them to adjust with all of them. Raavi needs to let go of her anger but that to will take time. At this point everyone needs a little bit time for all of the new changes in their lives.

On that note, I think the biggest issue everyone has is miscommunication. No one is really talking to anyone in full details. We as a viewer know everyone’s point of view but obviously they don’t and it can be so frustrating!

Originally posted by: Namita-M

True but Dhara, shouldn't have spoken about the sandwich that way. It's a vicious circle.

I found everyone lacking in the episode. Emotional outburst but no solution. Let's hug so Bhaiya Bhabhi aren't hurt. Everyone compromises in a family but it's also just as important to talk to each other. Not talk at each other!

Raavi needs to grow up, pronto. I am actually surprised at her. She almost committed suicide and now she's being weirdly happy! 😆

Guess, it might be her coping mechanism!! Rishita actually tried today, she didn't think of making the sandwiches herself but Dev said and she did it. That should have counted. Dhara said it might be bad and Shiva followed Bhabhi and was done.

There was no give in anyone. I did like Rishita-Raavi bonding. Hoping that it's not just teaming up again Dhara but actually develop a friendship.

Rishita and Raavi can be good friends as they can bring best out of each other.

Rishita is scared and telling that Raavi that Gaumbi might hit with slippers and Raavi is commenting that he should hit Shiva with slippers lol. Rishita was looking like what the hell? That scene is so funny lol.

Raavi loved when Rishita caught the wrong lyrics of Shiva lol. She was so happy and praising Rishita.

These two can support each other as others are expecting too much from both of them lol. They should be given some space to settle and then everything will fall in place instead expecting a lot from them especially from Raavi as she does need time to understand Shiva instead pushing them to make it work.

Originally posted by: Transference

Its not only the fondling but how sons would put them on a Demi-goddess pedestal. I was so irked by Dhara today. Yeh nahi kiya woh nahi Kya. Arey nahi let people breathe.🤪

Yes, step back and let everyone breathe. She's a great woman, no doubt but giving space is a good thing.

Originally posted by: Namita-M

Raavi is very much a good person. ShiVi have a lot to deal with and you are right, the Mommy & Daddy should back off a bit. 😆

Seriously her sandwich comment and Yadon ki Baraat song pissed me off so badly. Eat the sandwich girl and cut everyone some slack. These are newly married couples and not your babies anymore I like Gaumbi more. He is very sensible and says the right things. I like Raavi-Gaumbi camaraderie too. The clear difference between Raavi calling Gautam Gaumbi and Rishita Bhaiyya shows how close they are.

As soon as Raavi realizes how hurt Shiva is, she is going to apologize, no doubt there. It's just getting to that phase is going to take time and I feel we fans are getting a bit impatient.

This silly gal probably doesn’t even realise what he means to her. He whole life has revolved around pleasing him. She gets a T-shirt for Dev, she gets it for him too. Fans are getting impatient for sure 🤪given all the offscreen bits 😆

I honestly feel very bad for Shiva. He married a girl he doesn't even like and the girl was in love with his brother. Dev needs to talk to him. Shiva is going to explode, Dhara can't expect him to keep things bottled up. That's not healthy!! Shiva is hurting really bad and anything and everything triggers him. That's normal too when you are bottling things inside you will lash out. It needs an outlet.

I can't wait to see Shiva having a breakdown so we can see what he's feeling. The poor guy, he needs a hug!!

I am waiting for slow turn of events. I kinda like how they are progressing with Shivi.