Barrister Babu Episode Discussion Thread - Page 106

Anirudh and Bondita getting divorced is so ridiculous because they both want to stay married to each other,..that’s what’s coming across.. Bondita may be 12 or 13...but she’s attached to Anirudh, his family and his house...she was very upset about the whole manorama story...showing that she is possessive about her pati babu...and I think like binoy said ,.you should not destroy your home and family to set an example for society is correct...divorce is going to cause unhappiness to Anirudh and Bondita so why should it happen...Anirudh keeps on saying that Bondita doesn’t know what marriage is ...yes she may not know about the sexual relationship between a husband and wife,..but she clearly knows about all other aspects of marriage ...e.g. family relationships, taking care of your family, supporting your husband emotionally, and like every married woman Bondita regards her husbands home as her own..and she loves doing things in her home,..which is Normal...all us married women..even though we have degrees, careers and jobs ....still take care of our homes, husband and children..that’s how it happens in today’s world,.. The banning of child marriages was enough to come across to the viewers that child marriages are not acceptable and should not be supported..but I think the divorce of Anirudh and Bondita is more for the story of the show to continue ...the makers and writers want to separate them so they can show a long elaborate love story after the leap , with all the rituals and festivities probably...these itv shows often don’t care that they destroy the personalities and principles of characters in the process of writing a track to just continue the drama flowing ...e.g. the whole marriage to manorama put Anirudh in such a bad light...he even professed to love her..and now it’s like all forgotten ...🤦🏻‍♀️..these itv shows are extremely disappointing

So the thing here is, Bhale hi Bondita Haan bole yaa Na bole child marriage annulment ke liye, haarne wala Anirudh hi hai

Originally posted by: NoraSM

It's upto the makers, divorce or annulment, they are talking about divorce in the show, thats all I can say on this issue.

You are saying Sumati has self respect for 3 posts now she is submissive, I am sorry but Sumati is just a character, she helped Anirudh in last track, there's no reason why she wouldn't help him now, it's just an excuse

Bondita is young and Anirudh should ask her opinion, I already stated this in my post, But Anirudh should take responsibility of the decision, every decision comes with consequences Bondita being a young girl, should be protected from these consequences, is what I am saying, Anirudh didn't ask her in private or in an unbiased setting where she can think and tell him what she wants, he put her in spotlight where it's not her opinion which matters but she is solely responsible for the decision

The girl doesn't understand marriage and implications of marriage, again whole point of child marriage being illegal is that children are not considered mature enough to take this decision

Society and Sumati's unwillingness to do anything to help her child just seems like an excuse now, it is a story, When Bondita can go to school against wishes of society then there are thousand of ways for Anirudh to offer his protection to her and first step for anyone would be taking her legal guardian in confidence and sending her to Dalhousie for further studies

By submissive I meant unable to take strong decisions and do something daring for Bondita. I agree she is a character, so she can change over night. It is up to the makers. They already did it once. Till the last track she was shown as a sensible person but in last track surprisingly she supported Anirudh's stupid plan without even a single question. In itv anything can happen to character without logic; one can even turn into a fly in a moment

But what I wrote about society is a fact. We cannot completely ignore society simply because human being is a social animal who needs societal support for survival. This is the exact reason why we will not do certain things or atleast will think a lot before doing it eventhough it is legally valid and right.

You were saying Anirudh and Bondita should set an example. Then that example should be ideal because others will look at it as a model and will follow. In this sense asking Bondita's opinion is very important. Because every child bride's condition is not like Bondita's. And every husband's attitude is not like Anirudh's. Many husband's can use this as a means to get rid of their wives just like that. What if the girl's parents will not accept her if she comes back; where will such girls go? Becoming a mother before 14 years was not rare at that time; it was very common. What will happen to such child brides if husband's alone take decision without asking them? So it is very important to ask the girl what does she want to do.

About taking responsibility I prefer both of them having responsibility than Anirudh alone being responsible. It is a relation between two people. It affects both of their lives. So ideally both of them should have responsibility.

We didn't see the episode yet. So cannot actually comment whether Anirudh asked Bondita to take decision immediately or he gave her time. It will be better to wait for the full episode to comment

Anirudh can easily give material and monitory protection to Bondita. Sending her to a boarding school and paying fees will be enough for that. But what about the emotional support an adolescent needs in this crucial phase of life? Anirudh and Bondita's relation is emotionally very deep. It doesn't have place for even an ounce of ego. Anirudh made her literally walk through hell; but still she easily without any grudge forgave him. Anirudh didn't have any hesitation to touch the feet of a person who is so much younger to him to show respect. This shows the amount of emotional attachment and the place of the other person in their lives. If such a relation breaks forever, how or who can fill that emotional void in their lives?

The main reason behind the difference in our opinions is that you are thinking about child marriage in general and most of the people here , including me, just think about the Anirudh and Bondita's relation which is no where near to a real child marriage. You must have noticed the words used in the promo to describe child marriage in general and Ani-Bon relation. They called child marriage a 'kupradha' and called Anirudh-Bonditha's relation as"khoobsoorat". These two words shows the difference between common child marriages and Ani-Bon relation. This is the exact reason why most of the viewers find it difficult to support the breaking of such a beautiful relation. We are not supporting or glorifying child marriages. Every one knows how bad it is. I personally believe the present day legal age 18 is also less. Government should raise it to 21, then girls will atleast get an opportunity to finish their graduation.

Originally posted by: Indira1211

Anirudh and Bondita getting divorced is so ridiculous because they both want to stay married to each other,..that’s what’s coming across.. Bondita may be 12 or 13...but she’s attached to Anirudh, his family and his house...she was very upset about the whole manorama story...showing that she is possessive about her pati babu...and I think like binoy said ,.you should not destroy your home and family to set an example for society is correct...divorce is going to cause unhappiness to Anirudh and Bondita so why should it happen...Anirudh keeps on saying that Bondita doesn’t know what marriage is ...yes she may not know about the sexual relationship between a husband and wife,..but she clearly knows about all other aspects of marriage ...e.g. family relationships, taking care of your family, supporting your husband emotionally, and like every married woman Bondita regards her husbands home as her own..and she loves doing things in her home,..which is Normal...all us married women..even though we have degrees, careers and jobs ....still take care of our homes, husband and children..that’s how it happens in today’s world,.. The banning of child marriages was enough to come across to the viewers that child marriages are not acceptable and should not be supported..but I think the divorce of Anirudh and Bondita is more for the story of the show to continue ...the makers and writers want to separate them so they can show a long elaborate love story after the leap , with all the rituals and festivities probably...these itv shows often don’t care that they destroy the personalities and principles of characters in the process of writing a track to just continue the drama flowing ...e.g. the whole marriage to manorama put Anirudh in such a bad light...he even professed to love her..and now it’s like all forgotten ...🤦🏻‍♀️..these itv shows are extremely disappointing

@bold, I agree to it Indira,

but there is more to it. The petitioner himself cannot be shown violating it right. He is bound to be a role model for society. As Brahmosamaj representative said, society goes in its way and law in its.

No matter how much ever Rudhita is attached and we are attached to them, when we think logically Anirudh being the petitioner and a social reformer is still answerable to it.

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Barrister Babu Episode Discussion Thread

Originally posted by: faja

ul:my point too.. which is something that is of greatest concern even the day.

@bold: agree there is drama angle too mixing up and sometimes messing up the facts.. after all its a show not a documentary, to not bring any drama in.. Sometimes when they go overboard, we react.. else accept its so and take the good from it.. troll or neglect the rest for our own peace of mind.

As far as Ani is considered on many instant, he has seen Bon as an adult or just his wife not a chila even unknowingly, right from stopping her touching his foot to HM accusation. So its just not totally and out of ARC thing.. we know he oscillates

Now coming to rishta ka kya mod dega depends on Bon.. ARC to bas mahan ban rahe the, washing his hands from the social expectation.On the other side, considering the society where everthing functioned on men's final word, taking the final word of a women is a progressive thought, but here she is a child. But in BB land as u said when the matter of reforms it was always 'aurat' Bon bhi..

Also all we say about legal formalities has a present base, I dont know how divorce was legally conceived then.. If its now either with mutual consent file it, or on opposition fight for it to see who won over whom..

So if this was true then, Bon simple consent wont make the marriage valid, but it is for the society that she has a major voice. from the point of drama it connects too because that was ARC's way of coming out of duwitha.. kill the snake but noy break the pole.. I wont say again bringing the child in the centre spot is right or wrong. But all I say is Indu what he said about in the perspective of woman, taking out the drama.. his words had a positive impact on me as a woman..

Yes, yes. For BB land it was never Bondita, a child but Bondita, a woman. That's why those tracks of chodi-huyi aurat and HM, Chodi-huyi aurat was overboard if we consider her a child, but that's how women/child were treated when husbands left them that time.

@UL - Me too Faja. And that concern of Bon as a child gets overtaken by the importance of opinion of a woman. The show wanted to focus on that only and it's successful to some extent.

Originally posted by: Itsmesabah

Mohbbat ki giraft baap re meri mummy ne yeh dekh liya toh tabiyat se kutai honi hai meri😝

Originally posted by: jdr_26

Anirudh Roy Choudhary is an entirely different species of Barrister all together who manages to pass a law annulling past child marriages as well as preventing future ones too

Arre nahi nahi. Pehle hum sab vahi samjhe the. 🤪 Par chalo kuch sense hai makers ke paas. Law cannot annul past child marriages but the reformers wanted Anirudh to end his still legal marriage to set an example for the society (for future child marriages). Like agar Anirudh kabhi koi future baal-vivah rokne jata hai, to sab usse puchenga na ke tumne kya kiya hai. Isiliye ARC is making his own marriage avaidh. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: Rudhita18

are nhi nhi ........aunty ko hm mana lenge 😅😅........jija ji me problem hi kya hai😜😜 .....haan bs Bechare ko 15-20 baar zindagi bhar ka pyar ho jayega aur 10-15 baar shaadi oops " jhoothi shaadi " kr lenge ...bs n .......baaki to perfect husband aur jamai material hai jija ji😁😁😁

Itna sab ke baad woh perfect dhulai material ban jayega 😜

Originally posted by: Itsmesabah

Itna sab ke baad woh perfect dhulai material ban jayega 😜

Ha dhulai number one🤣🤣🤣