The two-faced guilt trap - Page 8

Originally posted by: pamk06

exactly my questions .. when is he going to come out of the guilt to see that he alone was not responsible for this relationship... if he was not in love as he is claiming, didn’t Malini never questioned him about it? I refuse to believe that a woman intuition can be so dormant in someone that she could not sense his aloofness in their relationship.

I think he needs to start seeing the real Malini, the one that we see with all her insecurity and only then he will realize that there relationship was doomed from the beginning. They were equally responsible for its current state...yes he needs atone for the lies but also acknowledge the shortcoming of his current relationship.

I think he has acknowledged that he has been lying to himself about his feeling for Malini but his guilt about this very lie is what is making him blind to everything else.

Word on the bold... that going to be another Oh damn moment 😆

Exactly this! But then they won't be able to make dido mahaan and adi the dhokebaaz of some sort.. didi ke liye uski galtiyan acknowledge karna is too big a deal and adi se karwa dein toh woh paapi kaise banana.. it seems too beyond them to.show.ke.ek relationship ke fail hone main 2 logon ka haath hota hai

Originally posted by: MuteButton

You caught up on the episode?

Abhi toh shuru hui hai Imlie ki mahaanta. If he is even unable to get past his own guilt, there is no way he does justice to Imlie. Toh I’m hoping he does some amount of about turn tomorrow. Lekin whatever dard is coming his way, will be well deserved. Khud ki guilt mein aake, how did he overlook how Malini was treating Imlie in that moment? Until his guilt over Imlie does not come back, he will not be the Aditya we want to see unfortunately.

Today I am going to use your own words... vachan diya hain to atleast try to nibaoe.... he got imlie home after he gave her the vachan and where is the nibana of the vachan.... i can understand first love but being reckless is not an excuse... you knew you have created a mess, you can’t just ignore it in your careless attitude... if you have promised that you would not hurt Malini then it’s his responsibility to do the due diligence to make sure it’s happening. I am not saying ki do the moon jaap but he was being oblivious with everything these past days especially where Malini was concerned.

Malini barsaoed on Imlie because she was scared that Aditya is moving away from her and she is blaming Imlie for it... The best solution for Aditya would be to tell the truth but when you cannot do that because of circumstances, try to do the next best thing. And what’s was result of all this, the very person who he did not want to get hurt was crying because again he messed up. Malini does not deserve his silence and Imlie does not deserve to bear the consequences of that silence😈 I totally blame Aditya for today’s mess.

Hopefully tomm we will get our normal Aditya back like last time who will take action and leave us all in awe that what just happened 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: What does this have to do with Imlie's pride? 😆 Aap bhi nahin samjhi Imlie ko phir toh....ek hi toh dhang ki line boli Adi ne last scene mein to speak up for Imlie and woh bhi aap nahin samjhe?😆.....Imlie isn't doing any of these things as a servant....as Adi said in that last bit, she does all these things out of a sense of apnapan and large-heartedness for everyone, but more than ever at C house also cuz she gives Malini that kind of regard that she even gives Malini ki mom all this regard even though the woman mistreats her. That doesn't make Imlie a "servant"....she is just that good a person and when a person who is that good and selfless - doing things for so many people without any expectations.....how can you not help but feel bad for that person being mistreated as she was by Malini today.

So no, I didn't see any flip in Imlie....she is very much herself even now....the reason she went back to her old self at Adi's house was simply to provide a cover to not have the family suspect anything has changed between her and Adi, lest it cause more questions.

Ek toh waise hi bechaari ke saath aaj itna bura hua, upar se log use galat bhi samajh rahe hain.....sad, man😆

I feel bad for her that’s why I got a little upset with the way AC and Malini treated at their house. At times, I wish she would speak up and that’s what I meant by the flip.I know she is a self-respecting girl but there should be a limit to being self less when someone is disrespecting on purpose like AC and Malini but I think this is all stemming from guilt in hurting Malini and taking someone that belongs to Malini.I guess I’m being harsh because I keep forgetting she is only 19 who is new to all that is happening to her, from falling in love to dealing with the guilt of destroying someone’s seemingly perfect relationship.

Originally posted by: jj0812

I feel bad for her that’s why I got a little upset with the way AC and Malini treated at their house. At times, I wish she would speak up and that’s what I meant by the flip.I know she is a self-respecting girl but there should be a limit to being self less when someone is disrespecting on purpose like AC and Malini but I think this is all stemming from guilt in hurting Malini and taking someone that belongs to Malini.I guess I’m being harsh because I keep forgetting she is only 19 who is new to all that is happening to her, from falling in love to dealing with the guilt of destroying someone’s seemingly perfect relationship.

But what does speaking up have to do with why Imlie does things for everyone? Those are two seperate issues. Your question was about why she's still doing things around Malini's house....and I said that's her basic character trait....she does things out of selflessness for pretty much everyone. That doesn't mean she can't take a stand for her self-respect....if she's making allowances for Malini, it's first cuz she from her side is giving Malini the regard of a sister.....and then yes, her guilt also of supposedly causing any hurt to Malini.

I can't find it in myself to blame her for any of the things that happened today cuz she was simply being herself and trying to stay out of everyone's way.....bechaari was content even eating with the servants and trying to get that bhindi recipe to make for Malini....uske baad badle mein usko yeh sab milaa......so is it her fault that other people are so freakin self-absorbed and don't value her enough? She's not some typical bechaari jo atyachaar sehti hai.....she's this simple, pure, selfless soul jo ki kuch bhi nahin maangti phir bhi uske saath injustices hote rehte hain.

Lol Now Aditya needs to talk to Malini in private🤣

She can make drama every day infront of family Aditya did this and that and what not.

Even for ek chutki Sindhoor🤣

Looks like it's only applicable to Adille only

The reason woh last scene khatak gaya is mainly because it was Aditya in the beginning who told Malini - Humen yeh samajh mein nahin aa raha hai ki aapko kaise koi pareshaani nahin ho rahi hai. He saw her then. He was perplexed then that she was ok with Imlie sitting with the other servants in the house. Especially after he had pointed out specifically that Imlie was coming there as a guest.

But her smallest amount of crying at “you’ve stopped calling me Mun” was enough to stump him into silence throughout that disparagement in the name of conversation that Malini subjected Imlie to? He may very well come around tomorrow for Imlie but this oscillation is going to be unnecessarily detrimental.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

But what does speaking up have to do with why Imlie does things for everyone? Those are two seperate issues. Your question was about why she's still doing things around Malini's house....and I said that's her basic character trait....she does things out of selflessness for pretty much everyone. That doesn't mean she can't take a stand for her self-respect....if she's making allowances for Malini, it's first cuz she from her side is giving Malini the regard of a sister.....and then yes, her guilt also of supposedly causing any hurt to Malini.

I can't find it in myself to blame her for any of the things that happened today cuz she was simply being herself and trying to stay out of everyone's way.....bechaari was content even eating with the servants and trying to get that bhindi recipe to make for Malini....uske baad badle mein usko yeh sab milaa......so is it her fault that other people are so freakin self-absorbed and don't value her enough? She's not some typical bechaari jo atyachaar sehti hai.....she's this simple, pure, selfless soul jo ki kuch bhi nahin maangti phir bhi uske saath injustices hote rehte hain.

I don't blame her for anything because what happens today was not her fault, I was thinking of all instances AC have disrespected her and at times I wish she would say something but then I realized she have said stood her ground or kept quiet because at times the best response is to be quiet.I guess my expectation was she would do something similar to what she would do to her NN😂 AY, thank you for the thread girl! Gosh, I wish I was this consistent when I was in school😂

after reading the whole thread i was nt sure where to start...

Imlie - Well felt sorry for her.. sitting in front of your husband and justifying a normal prediction.. it feels like she is carrying the weight of all the world on her shoulders.. she needs to let go.. also by doing so she is setting up a trap for herself when the real truth will be revealed... she didn't need to do anything but she is doing exactly what a 19 year old will do to hide truth..

She didn't deserve a bit wat Malini said today.. she is responsible for saving Aditya's life but she that should earn her praise not some taunts..

The Lassi scene was such an eye opener... Imlie being all carefree in the house suddenly gets a reality check on not just her duties but her behavior also. same behavior which was not questioned by anyone till now (including Malini) is used to taunt her and show her her place in T's and C's life...

She doesn't deserve this but then she needs to understand that either she has to accept this or stand up... selflessness is not getting her anywhere..

Malini - Her insecurities combined with her mom's venom were on display for entirety of episode. She has been vocal about her mom's behavior previously but now with Aditya firmly panted in imlies corner she cant see right from wrong. She is so oversensitive to what aditya's behavior she is discounting her mom's nasty side.

I understand her remarks to Imlie... I dont agree but i understand... She was trying to put a firm thought in Aditya's mind... imlie... is immature, poor girl who saved your life but that doesnt mean you become what you have become. Only way she saw fitting was to teach a lesson to Imlie which was never required. she tried to lace it with sprinkle of care for imlie by saying dont do anything as I said NO and here also she was implying that by doing small things imlie is not doing any favors to them... thats how world works and that's how we (A+M) should behave with imlie... imlie is outsider not just to their relationship but to family as well.

Her harshness comes from a deep rooted scare of broken home.. somewhere she must have made a promise to self that what happened to my parents will nt happen to me and thats exactly was she is non confronting and emotionally manipulative... and Aditya is not helping her state of mind. I definitely felt her pain when she was begging him to tell the truth an I firmly believe Aditya is not guilt tripping.. his monologues are all over the place. But M has senses everything... i would appreciate if they give her more depth.

Aditya - Well I am confused by whatever he is doing. Sitting and eating with IM will not give her status.. it will only make her target... he should know better... he should do better... if you have guts to get up and go from dinning table and eat food by sitting on floor then have guts to tell the truth to everyone.

His behavior also stems from insecurity of loosing IM but dude.. see the manipulation happening in front of you. also if your relationship is done with malini then what was point of giving VACHAN to IM?? you are just running in circles with your guilt and dragging both Im and M with you... Also in precap he asks should i go ahead and live my life with Malini?? have you met imlie??? she will say go ahead and call me to baby shower for your wife.. i will do it... He is using techniques, that would have worked on Malini, on Imlie who is made of completely different Morals..

I think I ma done with my Rant here.. :D

Originally posted by: jj0812

I don't blame her for anything because what happens today was not her fault, I was thinking of all instances AC have disrespected her and at times I wish she would say something but then I realized she have said stood her ground or kept quiet because at times the best response is to be quiet.I guess my expectation was she would do something similar to what she would do to her NN😂 AY, thank you for the thread girl! Gosh, I wish I was this consistent when I was in school😂

But darling NN ke saath she has a different kind of vibe and haq woh jaisi bhi hai phir bhi iski naani hai iski apni hai..imlie isn't alone when she is at chaturvedis she kinda carries tripathis izzat along. Hence aparna's reminders all the time to her ke she better behave don't matter what others say caz it is expected from others not from her as she is above them .. sure she should speak up but again she mostly keeps Quiet for these reasons and also caz she respects adi and woh adi ka sasural hai.. and didi ka maayaka didi ki Amma hai wih so yeh sirf iss liye laaj rakh leti hai ke she cares for didi but she doesn't deserve it.. imlie yahaan bole bhi toh kya.. she isn't the gaoon ki chori here esp when she gets invited over to chaturvedis.. she still has the carefreeness and bluntness when she is at T's like she can school them in 2 secs about not caring for women and all caz woh rishta bana hai apnaiyaat ka Informality ka haq ka.. she knows that if she will.put her point across it will be understood or even if not she won't be insulted for simply keeping her POV something she cannot do at C's caz way too much superiority they show and formality...

Originally posted by: MuteButton

I still CANNOT get over the fact that Malini has not thanked Imlie. For saving her damn husband’s life! I just cannot......

Imlie don't need her thanks!She was saving her husband not Malini’s😊