Be careful what you wish for - Page 13

Originally posted by: PPak

Right - but I don't think that even Imlie wants status quo no? She cannot deal with the situation any more than he can. It's reached a point where they just cannot all happily live under the same roof - not with AC not giving it a moments rest.

What a mess our BS has made. Looking forward to next week's episodes.

I think all she wants is for him to not treat her like some charity case, question her belief/faith and for him to stop thinking that only he has been impacted by the trauma of a marriage under duress. I still think he goes to PD to apologize for asking her to marry someone else. Feelings will continue to change but it is not happening in the next 3 episodes. Zimmedari is what is going to get erased from their equation this time around.

As for Aditya, I think once he realizes what Imlie is to him (which is probably very far off) he will not want to straddle two lives unlike what he has been doing so far.

Finally Anu ne apne damad ki jodi bana di 🤣her taunts motivated adi to confront imlie.

Par adi ne apne hi pair pe kullhadi maari ...bahut gussa ayega usse anu pe because of u my imlie went🤣

Originally posted by: jhankarbeats87

Here all are rambling abt realtionship status of Addi n Imli. Poor me still stuck on hw does Imli knw how to repair a bus???🤪😆

I know!She probably learned from Satyakam 🤷🏽‍♀️Imlie is an all-rounder , she can cook to fix cars. look what BS lost, a jack of all trades biwi😂😂

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: LOL I disagree. I don't think she needs an acceptance of him as her husband to come back😆.....they are not at that stage yet. As usual, destiny will intervene with some twist/excuse to bring her back.....my guess is it will likely be her exams/education. Adi will take back his suggestion of "please find another husband"😆 and that will be it for now....they will find another way of calling truce and she will come back.😆

The story moved a bit in these epis but it hasn't moved to that level to bring such a sea change in the equations....Adi is only just beginning to recognize that he feels restless if Imlie leaves.....so his focus will be on bringing her back for now......and after that we will get a sense of how he feels torn between Imlie and Malini.

Next phase will be the development of feelings I think.....both Imlie's and Adi's.....it won't be about acceptance of two biwis....it will be a recognition that figuring out Imlie's future/place in his life is a work in progress but he can't let her leave also.....iske aage detail mein itna nahin sochega yeh😆......the guilt thrall of Malini hasn't really started to fade yet so that will continue in parallel.

So the whole point of her dramatic exit was him asking her to eventually find another husband?? I certainly hope not. I like to believe that it was a culmination of everything that was building up this last week and more the realization that he himself had nothing to give her now or ever. If she comes back without any commitment from him - what was the point in leaving admist all this drama?

For me her leaving was not just because of his ask of her to get a husband eventually - its also his inability to ever offer her anything in his life. If she comes back without him acknowledging a relationship of some kind then - for me - the story loses its charm - its like she will be willing to accept his crumbs again and come back with no equartion change.

I would like her to fb to all the taunts he doled out - for no mistake of hers - the ring incident was the worst - completely uncalled for with the..chandan mitti comparison, stone in shoe...insult...so many to name? Adi has to do some serious recompense. If Adi comes up with another excuse to bring her back and she goes with no commitment from him - its not destiny this time - it's their inability to stick to their decisions or stands because of their emotions.

What I mean to say here - is if he let her be and some other issue came up - that made her return - that has not been in play till now - then ok to say destiny is playing a game. If he misses her and wants her back at any cost or her exams dictate she get back - that is not destiny playing a hand...and further him being even more unreasonable than before. Putting her in a awkward spot again - just for his own selfish reasons...even after she gave him an out. Now if the T's did something to force her get back and Adi had no role to play - that may give him an out from any commitment. But otherwise Imli should not return without some admission of what she is to him.

Originally posted by: jj0812

I know!She probably learned from Satyakam 🤷🏽‍♀️Imlie is an all-rounder , she can cook to fix cars. look what BS lost, a jack of all trades biwi😂😂

She can do all that - but climb on a bike - she needs a full blown session from BS to do that. ITV - I tell you :)

Originally posted by: PPak

So the whole point of her dramatic exit was him asking her to eventually find another husband?? I certainly hope not. I like to believe that it was a culmination of everything that was building up this last week and more the realization that he himself had nothing to give her now or ever. If she comes back without any commitment from him - what was the point in leaving admist all this drama?

For me her leaving was not just because of his ask of her to get a husband eventually - its also his inability to ever offer her anything in his life. If she comes back without him acknowledging a relationship of some kind then - for me - the story loses its charm - its like she will be willing to accept his crumbs again and come back with no equartion change.

I would like her to fb to all the taunts he doled out - for no mistake of hers - the ring incident was the worst - completely uncalled for with the..chandan mitti comparison, stone in shoe...insult...so many to name? Adi has to do some serious recompense. If Adi comes up with another excuse to bring her back and she goes with no commitment from him - its not destiny this time - it's their inability to stick to their decisions or stands because of their emotions.

What I mean to say here - is if he let her be and some other issue came up - that made her return - that has not been in play till now - then ok to say destiny is playing a game. If he misses her and wants her back at any cost or her exams dictate she get back - that is not destiny playing a hand...and further him being even more unreasonable than before. Putting her in a awkward spot again - just for his own selfish reasons...even after she gave him an out. Now if the T's did something to force her get back and Adi had no role to play - that may give him an out from any commitment. But otherwise Imli should not return without some admission of what she is to him.

I think you viewed that scene with more expectation than what actually happened in the scene😆.....the only new thing Adi said in that scene was to ask Imlie to marry someone else....if she was really so bothered by all the other things he's said before this, she'd have long left him.....but she never did....until this particular moment in time. So it's important to remember what particularly hurt her in that scene rather than thinking that she took some grand all-encompassing stance against Adi's injustices towards her.😆.....she was hurt that he didn't understand her viewpoint that she only considers him her husband and won't marry someone else.

As for expecting Adi to give her some kind of commitment at THIS stage in the story😆......again, please rewind and remember where he is mentally right now.....he is in a very confused state and nowhere close to understanding the connection he feels with Imlie.....For Adi to give any commitment to Imlie would involve him stepping back from Malini.....he isn't CONSCIOUSLY going to say, "Oh it's cool, I'll just juggle two wives in the same house"😆 right now.....so he is definitely not going to bring Imlie back by saying, "Yep, you're my wife too, come join the family and live there as a bahu"😆.....he is not in a state to make any commitment to her in that sense until he starts to realize what he feels for her.....and that will also take a while given his current state and the kind of person he is.....which is why I said that all he can offer to her at this point is an apology, regret, and another variation of responsibility that he wants to take care of her/help her.

Worth noting that whenever he is in PD, he ends up calling her his wife in front of some person or the other.....lol maybe that will be enough to melt Imlie again temporarily. We have to understand how the story functions....at a very slow place.....the last three epis implied a shift to some extent but the things you are expecting aren't possible right now.

The whole basis of Adi-Imlie's relationship currently isn't that she is expecting/waiting for him to declare her his wife....she is quite cognizant of his conundrum too....so she isn't waiting on that....this decision to leave is an emotional decision she's taken in a lot of hurt....the helplessness of her situation is bound to get to her from time to time....but at the end of the day, her coming back will also be an emotional decision cuz she feels emotionally bound to him....he does too but they both don't yet know how to label it/navigate it.....she calls it an emotion sickness....he calls it bechaini😆....they are both yet to understand the true depths of this visceral connection between them.....and until they do, they will keep going back and forth like this....tadpoing for each other without really knowing how to manage it.

It's possible she comes back for the Tripathis after they fake some lame excuse....but for that, Tripathis will have to know where she is😆....and right now it seems only Adi knows where she is....he is the only one who saw her getting on the bus to PD....so ideally he should make the trip to PD to talk to her.....and I personally feel the story needs a round of Adi making efforts to talk to her beyond this one bus convo where he failed to stop her.....it's possible she may also come back for Nishant....maybe he will have one of his leukemia fainting spells in her presence and she will come back to tend to him. But all in all, the guilt that Adi is in right now makes it likely he will make the effort to go to her.....and then other incidents may converge to bring her back somehow again.

Originally posted by: MuteButton

I think all she wants is for him to not treat her like some charity case, question her belief/faith and for him to stop thinking that only he has been impacted by the trauma of a marriage under duress. I still think he goes to PD to apologize for asking her to marry someone else. Feelings will continue to change but it is not happening in the next 3 episodes. Zimmedari is what is going to get erased from their equation this time around.

As for Aditya, I think once he realizes what Imlie is to him (which is probably very far off) he will not want to straddle two lives unlike what he has been doing so far.

@bold: I agree. Adi will only take a definitive stand once he realizes what Imlie has come to mean to him.....as is usually the case with Adi, that moment will come when everything has reached the brink/breaking point.....and we aren't there yet. Right now he's only begun to experience his first jhatka of Imlie leaving him and the experience of feeling her absence.....so this will take time.

Given the tricky nature of the story, they will never show Adi consciously being comfortable juggling the two women/wives in his life.....right now the only reason he is able to do it is cuz he has compartmentalized many things....he's denied any standing to his marriage with Imlie and he's convinced Malini is his one true love/only wife.....when this belief system starts getting shaken up by various events/realizations is when Adi's real struggle will start....and ultimately if he remains true to the character they've established....he won't be comfortable straddling two lives as you said.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I’m wondering now if the segment which showed Imlie without sindoor means that Adi might be imagining her around the house after she leaves 😳🤣.....cuz that is why she wouldn’t have sindoor on there, right? 😆

Maybe it’s a separate set of scenes they shot from her scenes in PD with Mithi and SK.

Oh that would be too cute I hope it is small things like her bringing the chai.. bantering her Sita Maiyya gyaan type things... he needs to.fill the void and itni jaldi he will not go unless he misses her presence more ..

All I could think about after the episode was "What a Bailbuddhi". OMG, yeah bandhe ka kuch nahi ho sakta. He was happily living with his two wives with nary a worry but with one impulsive decision, he gave an invitation to a storm that’s going to turn his wish of living a simple life into a complicated field of emotions and questions.

Coming to the episode, it was a treat but what was amazing was how Imlie matched him step by step and brought him to the point where he was left reeling with questions that he had no answers for. He came to her with his usual swagger and firmness, expecting her to follow him but this time she was as firm and stubborn as he was in her answer that she does not want to go back. Then came reasoning, that this was not his intention and she answered with reasoning that fear was not only his but hers too, hurt was not only his but hers too and now she is scared that she will break his trust by speaking the truth by mistake. Then came desperation, and she understood that the desperation was because of the guilt that Imlie saved his life. She was halfway correct and Imlie negated that too with her stance that she had just replayed the loan of him saving her. They are equal now and he does not need to feel any obligation. In the end, BS was reduced to pleading and that's where he gave rise to the storm because Imlie came back with the most important question of why is he stopping her as he always wanted her to go away, forget her and now he can and he should. Stumped is the right word to what he felt at that moment nd he could not answer, in fact he had no answer. He had to let go and all he was left was with a storm brewing within him and a simple question of "Why is there sadness when there should be happiness?. Yes, BS even we want you to find the answer to his question also and as soon as possible.😆

The thing is he could have still avoided it or got her back if he could have just been able to understand and answer the meaning behind her sentence "Ab bi kuch nahi badla".Nothing has changed. This statement itself is the root cause of their strife right now and Aditya has no clue why. See, as she said, she has never wished, nor demanded to bind him in their marriage. She had left him free to make his choice and supported him too in all of it. All she had asked was that he never ask or demand her to unbind herself from this relationship. This is her choice and she expected him to support her in it. But when Aditya made that statement that she should find another man to marry, that was the turning point. Imlie knew that she was not important for Aditya but if he cannot even respect her for her belief, nor understand where she is coming from, after knowing her from so many days then nothing is left between them, nothing has changed. If Aditya would have realised this and accepted her this belief wholeheartedly, she would have come back but alas!! Bailbuddhi babusaheb jo hain. He's still stuck on the fact that she is leaving because of the bike conversation which is true but she would have still not left if he would not have asked to give up on her suhaag. All she requires is his understanding of this simple fact that she cannot unbind herself from this bond that he has not given a name to but she has given full respect to. Nothing less nothing more.

Though, for me the whole conversation started and ended with Imlie's simple statement of "Ab bhi kuch nahi badla", things have changed. , Aditya could never believe and always doubted that Imlie would spill the beans and would not be able to keep a secret and now he is 101percent sure that she will never spill the beans nor share her problems with anyone, not even her mother. That there is called "TRUST".

Lastly, I think , Aditya will get her back with the reasoning that its his values and the sindoor conversation he had with his father. Imlie will come back because of her mother and Satyakam (warna BS ki to phir pitai) and also a promise from him that he will never ask her to give upon her belief again. Hopefully this time he stays firm on his promises.😊

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: I agree. Adi will only take a definitive stand once he realizes what Imlie has come to mean to him.....as is usually the case with Adi, that moment will come when everything has reached the brink/breaking point.....and we aren't there yet. Right now he's only begun to experience his first jhatka of Imlie leaving him and the experience of feeling her absence.....so this will take time.

Given the tricky nature of the story, they will never show Adi consciously being comfortable juggling the two women/wives in his life.....right now the only reason he is able to do it is cuz he has compartmentalized many things....he's denied any standing to his marriage with Imlie and he's convinced Malini is his one true love/only wife.....when this belief system starts getting shaken up by various events/realizations is when Adi's real struggle will start....and ultimately if he remains true to the character they've established....he won't be comfortable straddling two lives as you said.

@brink - which should ideally be the next NDE coming after there is some progress on the college front.

I do hope the reason for her returning is her education. What we might end up getting though is something to do with the Tripathis. Anything as long as it is not Malini didi. I do not know if they wanted to show Malini unaffected to that extent or it is just us viewers who think everything she emotes is lacking in some way. Even Sunder conveyed being more disturbed than the 100 calls she made to her papa.

@compartmentalization - it is amazing how complacent Aditya had grown with doing things that were in direct contrast to his principles by letting Imlie stay at home. The process of Aditya realizing Malini’s and Imlie’s real place in his life is going to be a shock to his system. But most importantly, it will be a decisive revelation. He will have no doubts.

The part where these beliefs unravel will need to be treated delicately. Hopefully the treatment to the story and characters will not end up leaving a bad taste.