Sai loves Virat's Aai and Devi Tai, then why not Virat? Well, quite a lot of us know the reason but what about after that reason is also addressed, resolved?
Only difference between Aai, Tai and Virat are that they are not her spouse.
When it comes to spousal relationships, there are a lot of things that come into picture, trust, confidence, transparency. The message that they send across to each other plays an important role in their lives, not just their feelings. Both should be in the same page to have confidence in their relationship. Love can be selfless. They will continue to love each other even if they are not together.
Sai's character is such that, her love is not going to be visible to all, she will be on her guards anytime she feels challenged as a lover, everytime her trust is broken.
She has lived with a single parent, lost her Dad at a very early age, she will use her survival instincts while living.
It gets so much deep rooted in her that she will look like a thick skin. She never hesitates to behave like one when needed too.
She is a very complex character, nothing on the surface, hard to read, hard to predict.
Her actions have to be taken into account, because her actions are going to speak than her words. She has many flaws, have to see how she grows as a person. Her Dad was her guide, teacher and when he is not around, she doesn't trust anyone with that job other than Aai. Her self worth, capability was challenged by Virat as soon they entered his house when he wanted his friend whom he hardly knew to guide her. It was ab ego clash too, she was asked to learn from a lady who had asked her husband what place she holds in his life. How is she a person suitable for this job? Why would she let a lady who feels challenged by Sai, who is feeling insecured guide her?
If Virat had taken this responsibility from the beginning, him teaching her now or correcting would have been set in place and it would have been a natural process.
When time and again she is being compared to someone who is very shallow, how will she be able to trust his judgement, his advice?
He looked to her as a judgemental person, who has no trust in her in first place, who mainly chose a wrong person. It was at this point of time, she lost all faith in the man and ensures she always doesn't trust his instincts or his advice. It is the man who gets clouded by emotions and lose the sense of right and wrong at times, it is the man who misunderstands his own Aai time and again, the man who lets himself get manipulated or influenced by others sometimes.
She would have fallen in love with Virat she knew at GC if there was no talks of deal. But right now, she is confused with the man in front her, there is a lot of fluctuations in his behavior, he has become very unpredictable, she knows that he loves his family but sometimes fails to understand his unfair acts. He is the guy who supports her always, who is helping her, she knows that if not for him she wouldn't be able to become a doctor.
She knows him, infact subconsciously like him him at GC too towards the end, who he is now is not whom she met or her Dad too knows. Virat cannot be blamed entirely, he has a family and a family like this who can play games, and even mind games.
Virat had his own reasons for his behavior but to a girl who has started to know him only now after 18 years of her life, it is going to be difficult to trust him blindly. He has a past which was also was told as going to be his future too. How is she supposed to break the wall built around her and give into her new found feelings? If Virat's pov can be understood, why not hers?
Will Virat be the only one she is going to love?
Her agenda is different from others. Where some will only be interested in their spouse and don't care about other things as long as they as a couple are happy, they don't get involved in anything that is going to jeopardize their relationship with their spouse, Sai is not like that.
She will love her spouse, her love for the spouse doesn't mean she is only bound to her spouse. She will love others too, do things for others too.
She won't allow herself to be chained by emotions. Emotions are supposed to enhance you, make you a better person, not restrict your thoughts or actions. This is where it is difficult for many to understand her need to do things which are not of her concern.
Her impulsive nature is what is going to cost her, not her care or concern for others.
There is a saying, one shouldn't live a life like, all I am only bothered is my house, my family, you have a duty and responsibility towards others too since you are part of a society; a crowd and the most important of all, think beyond you and your family too. Cannot live for only oneself, one should not be like not bothered when someone else in pain, not offering help to others since that's not your business, act deaf and blind to what's happening around you. That is not social service, it is just that you shouldn't act blind and deaf when you witness someone in pain.
Biggest challenge for a spouse
In addition to such character traits which will turn into a barrier between her and her loved ones most importantly Virat, there are going to be other hurdles too that she is going to face as a woman. Jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, feelings that almost all couples go through. How they are going to be addressed is something we have to witness.
It could be her failure or their failure as a couple. These feelings when they are strong can destroy a beautiful relationship. Couple as a whole will be responsible for such feelings to have cropped up in first place, when not addressed or not enough efforts taken to remove them forever, will add cracks to their relationship. Fixing cracks is the toughest job, needs to be done carefully.
What we need to see is how the story unfolds, how the circumstances are going to create distance between them, how they are going to handle it as a couple. If both put the same amount of efforts in trying to make their marriage work, if they invest their energy in building an understanding, earn each other's trust, respect and value each other, they will be living together happily.
What always happens is after one falls in love, they are put to test by time. One fails to nurture the feelings, continue to hold the feelings when the situation forces them to withdraw, they start to guard themselves when they think the other person actually doesn't love them.
What is stopping her from loving Virat?
The answer to which many of us know. For Virat it has always been easy to like her, get attracted to her, fall in love with her, he is free to feel that way, has got the freedom. Sai is bound by the promise he has made to someone else. Hence I can see her hesitation to allow herself to feel anything for him. How is Sai able to love Aai or Devi Tai, only because they love her? No, it is because there is no stopping to love them.
At this point of time, I can say when she starts loving Virat, she will love him as much as how she loves her Dad or Aai or nay be even more than that.
I am not aware of the tests she is going to go through, if she is then it is the responsibility of both Sai and Virat to go through the test together hand in hand. Same goes true for Sai too, to be hand in hand with Virat when he goes through tough times.
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