Good morning fellow Immatures!
Mubarak ho! Dinner ho Gaya hai 😂😂😂
Chalo, it doesn't matter we didn't get to see but thode bohat 'pyaar se' ho gaya hoga because finally the man went to fetch dinner himself after saying "Mere Saath dinner Kar lo" twice 😅😅
Wahan, downstairs at their blessed dining table, feeding anyone a morsel of love is seen as a sign of "immaturity and retarded growth" so now kisne kisko khilaya is left to imagination but navra-baiko at least had their meal after tasting the delicious hawa through the day.
If spoon feeding Sai was so vehemently objected, what would BA-MA-Kakus have said about Chavan Saheb not letting go of the thermometer even after Baiko's 'hmm...hmmmmm..' 😂😂😂😂 itni der tak toh even a child doesn't need someone to hold the thermometer 😝😉 BA-MA Kakus need to install live streaming camera to check on those trying to interfere in "independence and maturity" growth chart of the least favourite bahu.
Okay, so I would have liked Virat to play that 'doosra' (the tricky offspin cricket delivery) Sai bowled with 'Aap Kisi ladki se flirt Karna Chahe toh Kar Sakte Hain mujhe Bura Nahi lagega'... But what an anti-climax with Sai walking away with "Main is Ghar me Kahan hamesha ke liye hoon" even before Virat could judge the ball she had bowled.
The navra Baiko continued their cricket net practice with husband's clear farz-zimmedari shot, followed by the wife's high speed samjhauta-deal-marriage half volley and then a 'your-best friend' yorker to test his ability to hit the ball... But, well, he just jammed the bat to the ground and let the Yorker go, without pulling a shot. Also, was reluctance the mood of the day -- why didn't they play the song after playing that teaser music of 'Kaise mujhe tum mil gayi/gaye? 😑 Kam se Kam gaana hi suna dete Yaar 😅
Now it was a trap that you walked into right from the moment you entered the room, ACP. Biwi dressed up like a Nagpur orange 🍊 all ready to squeeze some citrus juice in your eyes to give you hands down lessons in "Acche se manana". You didn't even realise that you're in the class 😅 so finally Baiko was left seeking a course to understand you. 😂
It was a moment where he could have answered those questions and given her the assurance she was so visibly seeking. But Virat looked disconnected from the situation -- it seemed as if he deliberately did not take the opportunity to say something to change the mood. [The scene was changed from the original and since I just go by the face value without ascribing any motives, I am doing with my feeling that they were trying to convey his mood without measuring it in terms of what we were anticipating or expecting and thus, felt off. I went back to re-watch the scene before deciding if I was indeed disappointed. And then, I didn't feel the disappointment that much.]
The only logical reason I can think of is that he can't go from the overwhelming emotion that he felt for 48 hours to a lover boy in a fleeting moment. There is so much of the fight still unresolved between them, the new feelings --at least he's-- yet to come to terms with. He has not been able to wrap his head around the jealousy he's still feeling at the mere mention of the guy who means nothing to anyone -- and he had just walked into the room after seeing the faces of the two people he didn't want to meet the first thing. He learns that his wife has been starving because his family did not allow her to eat a meal in peace and has fallen sick from the anger she felt after her humiliation. The guilt of realising that his family did not have 'good-hearted, justifiable' intentions behind that act must be heavy for someone who actually believes they are "Dil Ke acche". His dialogue at the table "Mujhe yakeen Nahi aa Raha hai..." it had conveyed a very powerful sense of mortification that he felt on behalf of his unapologetic family.
To be honest, "Lekin jab tak tum yahan ho, tumhe meri baat maan ni padegi" was coldly served but it made me feel for a fleeting moment that he was so put off by the inhospitable behaviour of his family that he perhaps spent his whole day thinking about how his wife is being treated -- does she deserve to bear this every single day. May be he had his moment of reflection of whether she is in a conducive environment to grow, not just study. Has he been right in throwing that challenge at her the last time to make her win his undeserving elders? Today, he didn't seem to be surprised but more defeated when she said she would leave. I actually like it if he's reflecting because he needs to. He has to close the old chapter completely before writing a new one -- he cannot begin writing a new chapter in a rushed manner while still holding the page of the last one.
Although Bhavani and her venomous spokesperson tried their best to cover up with the lame 'why should she be fed', Omkar had unwittingly given away the reason for the drama -- Ghar Ka kaam Nahi Karti. And Virat had understood in the moment... So, he also processed the situation and said, "Tum Rasoi Ka kaam Nahi karogi... Main Baat karunga". (Chavan Saheb, please fill up that blessed requisition for the help you are entitled to)
Sai's confused why he is going back on his advise of 'taal mel banana'. But he's not going back, dew-drop. He's going forward because he's now found the missing piece of the sil-batta jigsaw puzzle. He has gauged that his family is indeed ganging up on Sai. So, his perception has cleared and he is correcting his advise that came from his misjudgment. He wants to say, "You don't need to earn that Breakfast in the kitchen every morning." It has broken his heart because your humiliation is his, in every way, even if you don't hear it and even when he's screaming at you to end a verbal match.
In the middle of it, the final spashth sentence came - I didn't like your flirting with the guy and calling him home. And, of course, Sai knew why he supported her at the breakfast but she wanted a reassurance if he's returning back to the team that he was evidently walking out of for the last two days... And for the first time she wanted to hear a word about why he chose her over the "best friend".
But Chavan Saheb gives the response only from the point of view of "Sahi and Galat".
Sai's "Aapka Sahi aur Galat waqt ke saath badalta hai..." was a direct question, arising from the unpredictable reactions she's been getting from him -- it's difficult for her to tell which team he will play for. Because, at some level, she knows that to win a war she wages in the house, she needs him by her side. When he's not in her side, she is left defeated even before the war ends.
But I don't think there is much doubt about which team he is on. It is about the difference of opinion on tactical approach. Virat will side with Sai, because he knows she's right most of the times but he will still restrain her from giving away an opportunity for the counter attack. They are in one team but playing different strokes in some situations. Until they establish a tandem between them, the inconsistencies will continue.
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So I guess we are going to get sucked into a hurricane of stories within the story. Ye Chakram niwas ke talatum mein boat utarna hai kya? There is Devi, the new guy in college and also Ashwini and Ninad's story slowly getting mention.
So Ninad married Ashwini at Bhavani's insistence because her parents were "gidgidaoing" at her feet in that zamaana?😮 Ye bhi majboori wali Shaadi thi but obviously isme pyaar Nahi tha.
So Kaku has experience in measuring the 'love' in majboori wali shaadi. Aata samajhle 🤣 wo picchle Saal chaheete bete ko taunt Kyun maara tha... It also explains why there is this urge for treating Sai like Ashwini, who can be called 'naukrani' by everyone.
But in her moment of regret at getting Ashwini and Ninad married, didn't Bhavani express her regret for having Virat as the 'crown prince'.
The zillat arena scene was such a drag with Yog-nagini getting to fully display her comical Machiavellianism (Thanks Bluegrass👍). I mean what an exotic breakfast recipe of toasting bread that Sonali can't even do that. Bechara Ninad was almost sent to death without something to accompany his tea because the naukranis -- crown prince ki Aai and Saibai were not available and Susheel bahu overslept? 😂😂😂😂 Poori raat Virat ka turn maarke chale jaana replay kiya hoga and may be she was in the kitchen when he went to fetch dinner for himself and biwi. So imaginary cheated-upon wife ko neend kaise aati 🥺
And wait, kitna hawrat (greed) khaandan hai. Crowned prince ki wife is ready to cook so poore mahine ka ration khatam Karne ke liye list de Diya 😂🤣
And Ninad ji, who eats Kothimbir Vadi for lunch with bharleli vangi? 😐 And Kaku wants masoor dal with pithla?! Kya combination hai? No wonder they can never have the meal 🤣😂🤣
Anyhow, I loved Sai's good mood jovial take down in normal decibel levels. I think Virat will come in and ask for the Sil-batta to be brought out --- it's just my hunch. And so he's standing there to see how maturely it can be used by trained professionals 😂 who judge nazuk hands of others. Nahi toh Kisi ki himmat Nahi Hoti Mallika-e-Maturity se mirchi piswane ki😝 I don't want to comment on the dialogue 'ek shabd nahi' because aadha sach dekh kar judgement dena is against the principles of natural justice. But yes, when dealing with laaton ke bhoot, police wale torture bhi sambhal kar ke karte Hain, utna hi Jo medical report me prove na ho paye 😎😆. So I will wait for tomorrow 😅. Waise bhi guns and chappals are always ready for this Marathi chhava (not a spelling mistake) in khaki. Watching you, ACP🧐
Just one serious note: Usha maushi doesn't deserve this humiliation. She needs to be sent back to Gadchiroli or any where else and be taken care of by Sai and Virat. It is tough but she will perhaps never earn the respect here that she must get. It makes no sense to pin her up against a wall in that mansion.
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From the face of it, Virat and Sai have decided to let their vulnerabilities out to each other but for it to lead to the emotional intimacy, it needs spashth words and bring about the encouragement to correct the misconceptions they have created for each other through action and words. The ummeed mat rakhna instigated by him, which makes her believe he's in love with his Yog-nagini (see Priya, Maine apna vaada nibhaya 🤣) and his supplementary actions and silence for Sarpakhi. And her constant reminders about how she's waiting to leave, which he thinks is because she doesn't like him. Frankly, Sai hasn't really wavered as much as Virat yet and so he continues to believe that she's speaking from her 'pyaar nahi karti' for him even though he's clearly changed the definition of zimmedari-farz to parivaar-pyaar. But he needs to brush up his emotional vocabulary, not the quantity of jalebis served at every opportunity 😑
For Sai, they are not small matters that come in the way of letting her belong entirely to 'my husband'. She will cling to wounds received and inflicted by his past 'relationship' -- not from the knowledge that there was one, but because he doesn't realise that it still exists around them and is wounding her directly and deliberately. How can she move on from his silence to "Sai ko iss shaadi se kya kuch nahi mila, par tumhe kya mila, Virat?"
She wants to hear the answer tied on Virat's tongue because the question has been asked by a third person, right after his "Tumne kya kiya mere liye?" It is also because she was the first one to ask him, "Aap Kyun mujhse Shaadi Karna Chahte Hain?" He had said, "Har sawaal Ka jawab dena zaroori nahin"... But no Chavan Saheb, you should have said, "Har sawaal Ka jawab Sahi waqt aane par mil jaata hai..."
And may be that waqt is fast approaching now or you'll reach the end of the flowing river and watch the river helplessly as she meets a larger ocean and becomes invisible.
But more than that, she FIRST needs to hear in spashth words Virat telling every outsider 'ye mere aur Sai ke beech ki baat hai'... She has only just fully waded into this pain and embarrassment of realising and acknowledging 'Main Patni hoon aapki' and then being ridiculed for it by a woman who has no business to crowd into her personal space with her husband. The unrest in her mind will obviously surface unless Virat self-examines the cause of the "disconnection".
Sai and Virat are united in a sacred pledge of marriage -- and it should give them the right to get rid of the humiliation their mind holds. Unless they allow each other to erase the humiliation, they will take turns to retreat inward -- embarrassed and scared of moving over the vulnerability-- tempted to keep mistakes to self out of the fear of rejection or being judged. Being seen in the fullness of who you really are when you're raw is as fascinating as frightening. "Will I be loved in my moment of shame? Or when I admit my regrets, bad judgments and choices?"
So far, Virat has been the more patient, gentle and forgiving one of the two. Yet both of them firmly have their masks in place -- one calls it farz and the other calls it a deal. When will they accept each other's invitation to take off their masks and reveal their willingness to reconcile -- to be seen, to be loved, to belong and to be tenderly embraced in their brokenness?
It is a work in progress and the small cracks and nagging divisions are tugging on their heart. They must cement those cracks with gold so that their relationship can grow in total honesty, trust, and intimacy. 💓
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If you find yourself questioning your own sense of belonging entirely to someone you are attached to, I encourage you must enter into them, even if you think it would be better to run away. Sit with your mess and their's -- filled with shortcomings and pain. When you finally move towards the beautiful pursuit of the love you can share, it will not just be moving ahead for the sake of covering the distance but to blend in the journey of love 💕
Tab tak, if my hugs help, here they are 🤗🤗🤗🤗 and pyaar ki toh koi kami hai hi nahi ❤️💓❤️💓
Thank you for this wonderful getaway from boring days at times. I can't tell you lovelies how much I laughed throughout the day yesterday reading all those witty comments. Bappa hamare pyaar ko Kabhi ghum na hone de 😅🙏
Coffee ☕☕☕ tea 🍵🍵🍵 and aaj toh thoda meetha bhi 🍫🍫🍫 kyunki kal to mirchi lagne wali hai doston!
Khush raho, haste raho aur apni jalebiyaan count karte raho 😀
Love 💞❤️
J
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