Originally posted by: rinki_99
hey guys. I am rinki.
just watched yesterday's episode.
up till this point, we have seen three sets of parents. pramod's, the twins' and puttu's. the three are very different in their approach of upbringing their children.
pramod's give him full freedom and he doesn't abuse it. instead uses it to his advantage to better himself as a person. furthermore, the way his parents behave with each other has also impacted him positively in which he believes in giving respect and importance to his significant other. yes, they pester him to get married and have kids but also understand and give him space. a concept that is largely missing in the ruhal's household. his mannerism clearly shows the kind of environment that I would call ideal for a child to be raised. juxtaposed to the ruhal's , it is a paradise.
puttu's father doesn't care about what happens in his own families lives as long as it doesn't bother his brother. this leads to him being an absent parent and at the same time a father figure who isn't concerned about him. that's why he looks for acceptance from the followers on his kit kot. I may be reading too much into it but I think this is his way of gaining appreciation and encouragement. thus, gets excited every time the number of followers increase. he is what I would call a child with emotional neglect from his father.
interestingly DP is a father who is restrictive and shishupal is the father who doesn't show any concern at all. in that aspect, I would say DP at least shows some form of care for his daughters. it could easily be his mentality that the daughters should be kept a tight leash on. but, at least he is present. in puthu's case, his father cannot get any time of spying on his nieces and that is worst then DP in my opinion.
as for his mother, she is there, she cares, she wants to give him a better future. we can see it, appreciate it even. her actions may seem inconsiderate to others but the way I see it, it justified given the house she lives in. she would be damned if she didn't try and do something for her son who I am pretty sure would have led a life he wasn't happy with. but still, there is no balance.
now for the twins. both their parents are failing big time at their jobs. the mother cannot voice or fight for her kids. she sees the wrong but doesn't do anything about it. I know she is helpless but her daughters suffer the consequences. they cant share what's happening in their life because she isn't in a position to help and she will forget. they dont see a point in doing it.
the father is still living in the 19th century. he claims he has given them freedom, but its just a leash with a length limitation. what he does is not even love from where I see it. it's a responsibility he has to fulfil and because of his pride. his children are merely assets for him. sometimes he proves me wrong but then he does things like not listening to them and fixes their alliance and it goes back to the former.
it's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. none of the adults at 'home' can help them. it doesn't help that the third child in the family is male (not blaming him) and every little thing they do is scrutinized under a microscope. out of all this comes a child who has learned the art of manipulation through words and another who can't get a healthy outlet for her emotions.
if there's anything this episode has shown me, its that parents are the vital world builders of a child's world. whatever they do affects them and their lives. the Chautala's are the kind of parents every child needs.