Originally posted by: FingerFetish
Thank you for sharing your own personal experience here. First and foremost, I am so sorry for what you had to go through. I hope you are at a better and happier place in your life right now.
Though, I have never dealt with physical abuse, I have suffered from gaslighting. My friends and family could never comprehend how someone like me was unable to see through it. I’ve always been very assertive about standing up for others and have a strong justice-oriented approach, but when I found myself in the situation, I was the one always apologising, thinking that everything was my fault and that my shortcomings is the reason for all the issues to begin with. My self-esteem hit rock bottom and I truly, truly believed that I was not good enough. It took me years to snap out of it. So I reinforce my point that not everyone reacts the same. I have advised many women against the very same thing that I ended up falling victim too.
In regards to Aishwarya’s case, there was even bystanders who witnessed Salman allegedly pushing Aishwarya to the ground on the sets of Chalte Chalte. Everyone knows that Salman is an alcoholic with major anger management issues. But because the perpetrator in question is a popular actor, fans want to continue passing a blind eye to his shortcomings. Like him all you want, but don’t try to justify his actions when he is wrong.
Thanks darling, and thank you for sharing your story. I feel so sorry for what you went through. You are more than good enough. X
Of course I am safer now, after moving house several times to get away from him and to survive, I also had to change my number several times, and cut acquaintances off because they were close to him, and I've ghosted my own personal social media accounts because he was turning up to places I would be attending... but sadly I also lost contact with my own family in the process. They threw me out because I was still in contact with him.
Basically sending me back to my abuser.
Think Manisha Koirala in Lajja.
And since the pandemic they've been trying to contact me... - but they can kiss my brown back side.
For me it was mental abuse mostly, until the day it got physical and I realised everything that was wrong, much like Taapsee Pannu in Thappad. Then I literally ran away from him, barefoot, without my phone... and by chance I ran into the police nearby. (Yes, I will write a book about it one day).
It's been 2 years THIS WEEK and I finally feel like I can breathe. And almost starting to feel grateful for the experience(s) because I feel so strong now - it would take a lot to break me today. I didn't want to be like this, but I have no choice now but to be powerful and beautiful and gracious and cute as hell.
[might delete this so please don't quote]
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