Aniruddh's obsession with Bondita's education has a deeper layer to it

My mother often comments how it looks so amusing that Aniruddh is so obsessed with Bondita's education (throwback to his paranoid show in the marketplace when she recites the alphabet).

How can he be so attached to her when there is no romance there, yet?

Ofcourse, he loves Bondita, but he is not "in love" with her, the romantic love, the lustful love is yet to come, still far fetched.

So why does he care so deeply about her education and emancipation, more than someone would who has just a feeling of responsibility towards her. To understand that we need to remember how much he has put on stake to save her. Ofcourse, it was just a moral decision to stop the Sati, which was on the same level as saving the prostitutes from Hira Mandi. 🤔

But the one-thing-led-to-another butterfly effect led him to marrying her, sacrificing his first romance, putting his relationships with his father and uncle at stake, being at the brink of depression and addiction, risking his life for her and above all, trusting her so many times inspite of her apparent inexperience.

If I were in Aniruddh's place, I would want my efforts to amount to something. Something substantial.

Like an educated and established woman in times when this was taboo. 👏

I am now liking the way how the show is progressing, with the focus mainly being on Bondita's education, while also showing other stuff. As long as the leap doesn't happen, I am happy with romance or possessiveness being far far away from this picture but also with us seeing Aniruddh being in awe of Bondita's intelligent innocence.

But I wish makers also show Bondita being more receptive and understanding to Aniruddh's thought processes, rather than just memorizing his words and seeing education as only means of pleasing him, or just to be able to write letters or having fun like Batuk at school.

PS about the last paragraph, I say that because I find the idea of the show to be loosely based on Dr. Anandi Gopal and her husband Gopalrao's love story, where Gopalrao had always been insistent on educating Anandi, but she only got serious about becoming a doctor when she lost her first child. I wish Bondita's similar realization is less harsh than something like this, but I am expecting it will be something like losing a loved one to English cruel punishments due to lack of a fair trial, maybe.

I see the point but seems a little off. Yes, his obsession with her studies does have something more to it. But I would like to wait some more and watch before commenting on that aspect. He is fond of her and is definitely accepted her and is starting to understand her deeply. That is a lot, yes, it is love. But it's apnapan wala love, not romantic. In real life as well, we love people but that is not romantic every time for every person.

I feel that somewhere or the other, Bon does understand the importance of education, especially after separation and HM she has taken interest. More over, she is not a people pleasing person at all. Bon has never tried to please anyone as of now. She is all innocent and curious and never hesitates to ask questions when she finds something unacceptable. That is not people pleasing at all.

Bon genuinely picks up on what her Pati Babu teaches her, implies those lessons in reality (HM track) and learns some more from the situation. So, I would say I am very happy with the track because it is finally focusing on the part that actually matters. Rudhita's struggle to make her a BARRISTER. This show is beyond romance and possessiveness. Its about mutual growth in an era where traditions and taboos were used as a weapon to suppress growth. I don't want this show to just revolve around Romance and typical milna-bichadna and tesra admi/aurat show.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

My mother often comments how it looks so amusing that Aniruddh is so obsessed with Bondita's education (throwback to his paranoid show in the marketplace when she recites the alphabet).

How can he be so attached to her when there is no romance there, yet?

Ofcourse, he loves Bondita, but he is not "in love" with her, the romantic love, the lustful love is yet to come, still far fetched.

So why does he care so deeply about her education and emancipation, more than someone would who has just a feeling of responsibility towards her. To understand that we need to remember how much he has put on stake to save her. Ofcourse, it was just a moral decision to stop the Sati, which was on the same level as saving the prostitutes from Hira Mandi. 🤔

But the one-thing-led-to-another butterfly effect led him to marrying her, sacrificing his first romance, putting his relationships with his father and uncle at stake, being at the brink of depression and addiction, risking his life for her and above all, trusting her so many times inspite of her apparent inexperience.

If I were in Aniruddh's place, I would want my efforts to amount to something. Something substantial.

Like an educated and established woman in times when this was taboo. 👏

I am now liking the way how the show is progressing, with the focus mainly being on Bondita's education, while also showing other stuff. As long as the leap doesn't happen, I am happy with romance or possessiveness being far far away from this picture but also with us seeing Aniruddh being in awe of Bondita's intelligent innocence.

But I wish makers also show Bondita being more receptive and understanding to Aniruddh's thought processes, rather than just memorizing his words and seeing education as only means of pleasing him, or just to be able to write letters or having fun like Batuk at school.

PS about the last paragraph, I say that because I find the idea of the show to be loosely based on Dr. Anandi Gopal and her husband Gopalrao's love story, where Gopalrao had always been insistent on educating Anandi, but she only got serious about becoming a doctor when she lost her first child. I wish Bondita's similar realization is less harsh than something like this, but I am expecting it will be something like losing a loved one to English cruel punishments due to lack of a fair trial, maybe.

wow, couldn't agree more...😳

each of your word resonants my thought🤗

anirudh has invested so much in bondita, be it his time, his emotions, his relationships, his dreams actually his whole life. He has only given efforts in her education single handedly, and when she reciprocates even a little the joh he feels is immense. i can understand his obsession with her. He has the most healthy obsession in the world🤣

ps- hello and welcome to the forum. i never came across you so assuming you are new.

keep posting beautiful thoughts like this ❤️

Originally posted by: mnm13

wow, couldn't agree more...😳

each of your word resonants my thought🤗

anirudh has invested so much in bondita, be it his time, his emotions, his relationships, his dreams actually his whole life. He has only given efforts in her education single handedly, and when she reciprocates even a little the joh he feels is immense. i can understand his obsession with her. He has the most healthy obsession in the world🤣

ps- hello and welcome to the forum. i never came across you so assuming you are new.

keep posting beautiful thoughts like this ❤️

Thanks, I am a fairly old member, but have returned after 4 years. Watching Barrister Babu, Anupamaa and Shaadi Mubarak for now.

I have studied and worked in Maharashtra and have read about iconic females here in pre-independence era like Savitribai Phule and Anandi Gopal, hence the theme of the show seems so relevant to me. Except for the irritating conspiracy subplots the show is kinda perfect.

I think men today should learn from Aniruddh as well and support education and careers of their wives post marriage, which women are expected to forget.

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Agreed all way dear

As for the last part,i thought rasiya's death would trigger bon someway.i am still expecting

They can't just forget the whole impact it should create on a 11 years old.

Let's wait & watch

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

Thanks, I am a fairly old member, but have returned after 4 years. Watching Barrister Babu, Anupamaa and Shaadi Mubarak for now.

I have studied and worked in Maharashtra and have read about iconic females here in pre-independence era like Savitribai Phule and Anandi Gopal, hence the theme of the show seems so relevant to me. Except for the irritating conspiracy subplots the show is kinda perfect.

I think men today should learn from Aniruddh as well and support education and careers of their wives post marriage, which women are expected to forget.

yes i agree, even in 2020, many men have such small thinking that i wonder what was the real condition in 1920

also there was and there is people like anirudh. we need more anirudh now as well.