Member Topic: How many of you had an arranged marriage? - Page 17

Originally posted by: stranger.67

Stop Smoking ganja 😆

@bold what you mean?

I have a wife (last time I checked)

Not sure if we are best friends. I really haven’t seen a lot of people in lockdown.

If I did hypothetically do weed than there’s no way I would hypothetically stop smoking it hypothetically of course

Wow, didn't know so many people were married on this forum 😲

Originally posted by: ZanduBaaM

Kya baat hai ladoo 😆

KKHH movie se churaya yeh Dialogue 🤣

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

I have a wife (last time I checked)

Not sure if we are best friends. I really haven’t seen a lot of people in lockdown.

If I did hypothetically do weed than there’s no way I would hypothetically stop smoking it hypothetically of course

Ok I think we all forgetting our surrounding because of Lockdown 😆

Both arranged and love marriages can have their pros and cons. The longevity of a marriage doesn't depend on the type of marriage you have but how much understanding, trust, love, alignment of values, how well you communicate with each other, and respect you have for each other. If you have this, you'll want to put in the effort to make things work when it becomes tough.

In many places/ families, arranged marriages today are starting to change - it's no longer a "meet once/twice and then get married." Of course this is not everywhere, but I see families starting to calm down, letting the girl and guy decide, and all they're doing is introducing the two much like a blind date setup, being introduced via online dating apps, etc. Then girl and guy can take the time to get to know each other (maybe not years on end) but at least many months.

One of my friends just had an arranged marriage and she'd known him for 2 years!

Originally posted by: heartbleed

Death

That's terrible! How and when?

Originally posted by: gilmores

Both arranged and love marriages can have their pros and cons. The longevity of a marriage doesn't depend on the type of marriage you have but how much understanding, trust, love, alignment of values, how well you communicate with each other, and respect you have for each other. If you have this, you'll want to put in the effort to make things work when it becomes tough.

In many places/ families, arranged marriages today are starting to change - it's no longer a "meet once/twice and then get married." Of course this is not everywhere, but I see families starting to calm down, letting the girl and guy decide, and all they're doing is introducing the two much like a blind date setup, being introduced via online dating apps, etc. Then girl and guy can take the time to get to know each other (maybe not years on end) but at least many months.

One of my friends just had an arranged marriage and she'd known him for 2 years!

yes, and mobile gives them more freedom these days to know each other very well.. and now days chat magni pat viah concept is going down slowly...now families start giving the time to the couple to know each other...

Arranged cum love marriage 😆

Our parents introduced us. We got 2 years to know each other and then marriage 😳

And we’re also each other’s BFF. I think it’s primordial to be friends before anything else to make a marriage work. You should be able to confide in your partner regarding anything and not hide things/keep things away from them 😊

Most in this thread arrange later become love

Like there was any other option 😆

Originally posted by: colossial2015

Red flags

1. He would never look at me in my eyes while speaking. He used to be very romantic earlier on calls before wedding was fixed.

2. He preferred sleeping on the day when our wedding was getting fixed.

3. His mother and sisters were extremely pushy and clingy.

4. His entire family wanted me to seduce him.

5. He knew about gay circle very well and people called him gay.

6. He always used get angry whenever I tried to talk to him.

7. His family had death and hospitalizations in the same year. In hindus we wait for year before any wedding and festival celebration after someone dies. But his family wanted immediate wedding.

6. His entire family wanted to spy on me through social media.

7. Most important clue was his weekend activities. He used to leave with all his newly married friends to weekend gateways. No one invited their spouses. There he used to meet his partner a distant cousin. His so called friend's wives gave me a slight clue about this. I am an ex- hotelier and I do have connections everywhere so I could snoop around.

8. When my parents questioned him once, all his lies fell out and everything got over. My parents ended everything that day

After our breakup, he immediately married another girl who is suffering with him.

Glad to know you escaped this and sorry for the pain you had to undergo. I'm sure it has made your judgement and gut feeling stronger.

I think for all of us..the signs are always there. It just depends on how aware we are. Good thing you caught it in time. This is why I think in today's time arranged marriages can be so dicey! You never know what secrets people are hiding