Originally posted by: arshi_asya
I won't blame Nageen for being prejudiced. She was doing a job where getting harassed & unwanted advances was common & the only way to protect herself was to keep everyone at bay no matter who advanced towards her. Then she had a friend who was being stalked & harassed continuously to the extent that she was murdered by acid attack. That solidified her stand of not entertaining anyone at all because you can't know of anyone's intentions.
While Sultan did try to talk to her but he acted entitled without understanding the kind of fear Nageen had with guys & not just rich people in particular. Then, Sultan went way out of line & never gave her space. Booking the entire bus would be uncomfortable for anyone in general, leave alone Nageen. Then stalking her outside her hostel just to put emotional pressure on her to talk to him was in no way a healthy way to kickstart a normal relationship. And lastly forcefully, putting a ring on her finger that too in public, just when she said NO was actually harassment. Sultan may have not realized it but he was indirectly harassing her back then & he is still harassing her mentally & emotionally.
Sultan's deewangi is toxic & destructive & needn't be romanticized at all. Sultan has never given Nageen space that she deserved to make judgments. He has violently intruded in her life every time he wanted without understanding that it is actually disturbing her. For a change I liked it today when he said that he wouldn't disturb her anymore because he knows that the deed is done & all he has to do now is wait for things to take their own turn.
Haroon's way was much better. He actually gave time for trust to build up between them, something Sultan never did in the first place. It's a different story that Haroon turned out to be guy who could be easily blinded by certain people. Sultan has always been egoistic to the core & that brings the worst out of him. He has a mad side that scares people close to him. That's the reason why his mother-in-law took away his daughter with her because it's difficult to trust him with stable relationships. Plus he has done enough damage in the past to redeem himself or be trusted again by anyone. His own Bijaan couldn't trust him after how he treated Nareeman when she was heavily pregnant. And unfortunately, he hasn't changed much at all.
I did not see the show from when it originally aired. In fact I binge watched all the episodes. Maybe that's why I have a different perspective coz I saw it in flow.
Being careful and guarded is one thing, but being rude without knowing a person is a different game altogether. There are ways of saying no and the way Nageen handled the situation was very wrong. While there are many things Sultan did that I do not justify, I feel she could've handled the situation well. You have to be diplomatic and not let your emotions be so in-your-face.
Look at the guy who was harassing her friend and then look at Sultan. It was clear the former was a sadak chhaap gunda kind of guy who would've done that to any girl, but Sultan was a well educated guy, coming from a decent family (khandaani) but was ruthless as a businessman. First episode mein hi he rejected the advances of a lady who hit on him, saying I have boundaries which I never cross, we are here for business don't make it something more.
Sultan was entitled, but he was surrounded by people who were opportunists and gave him fake love and encouragement only because he was useful to them. HIs uncle wanted him to run in elections, his aunt and Narmeen wanted him to get married to Narmeen. Had he not been a good businessman then the family would've kicked him out. Only his dadi was genuine. I know he should've tried different ways but the man never knew normal tbh. Opportunist people and then no parents to support him.
He felt connected to a woman for the first time and wanted it to become something but then the actions he took were crazy. He never realised that Nageen was never the one for him because of his ache to have normalcy, he jumped on the first boat he saw but it wasn't going to the destination where he wanted to be; rather if he would've had a non-toxic environment since childhood he wouldn't have done what he did. So he became toxic over a period of time.
Why doesn't anyone blame Narmeen for doing what she did? Why doesn't anyone blame his chacha and chachi for all the gaslighting they used to do? His dadi doesn't trust him; why did she hide the fact that the scandal was done by her granddaughter? Wouldn't Sultan have felt betrayed by the one woman who meant the world to him?
Haroon was a nice guy, but I gotta blame Nageen here. He supported her during her worst times. Her gut would've told her that this guy is great, she should've been completely honest with him since the beginning about Sultan. So I can't blame him for not trusting her anymore because he told her about Ramsha.
The only thing the makers could have done was redeem Sultan, show him going to therapy and changing himself, apologising to Nageen once and for all, maybe falling in love with someone else. But they've ruined it.
There's one thing I've seen in life: a child is innocent but if surrounded by the wrong kind of people and a toxic unstable environment, they turn out to become the worst. The only reason I feel bad for Sultan is coz I can see where his behaviour has come from and that saddens me. There was constant gaslighting, toxicity and pressurising. From a psychological perspective its a very sad story.
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