Originally posted by: dramacrazy12
@BOLD: I completely agree with it. I don't think anyone is at fault, everyone is within their element but all the anger and conflict is a function of mismatched expectation, priorities, goals and timing.
Mishti does not want much. She just wants to be heard for the first time in her life even if her thoughts are less than mahaan. She is also hoping to be reassured that she is not a home breaker and there are others who are just as responsible for conflicts. In Mah house she always had to pick reaction expected out of her - be ideal daughter, do the right thing while keeping her frustrations and tears bottled up and forgive others. Mishti normally reacted by being passive aggressive, saying the right thing with a slight infliction of sarcasm. I don't think she she wants to show Kuhu down or it is an ego issue. She is troubled by the fact that her own sister wants her out of RJV house. Her sister continues to do stupid, hurtful, at times life threatening impulsive things trying to prove her superiority or get a reaction from her. Mishti is completely taken aback by how Kuhu's impulsiveness gets forgiven while she seems to be still held to some lofty ideal standards of behavior. When Kuhu broke frames, Mishti was shocked by the accusations that Kuhu hurled at her as Mishti herself did not know what Kunal was going to do. To top it off Kuhu broke frames of her precious memories. She was hurt and she complained to Abir. She expected Abir to hear her out, console her and accept that Kuhu made a mistake. He could have then assured Mishti to let it go in light of current drama but it was bad timing. Abir had just returned after a major tiff with Meenu and was drained. He was probably worried about his mother's reactions and Parul and was looking for Mishti's help/advice. Instead he gets a tearful wife who complains about broken frames and wants him to do something about Kuhu. That is last thing on his mind so he reacts badly which comes across as if he cares more about Kuhu than Mishti. He later decided to sleep outside to cool down which hurts Mishti even more. In someways he is doing the same thing he does when he is in conflict with Meenu- say rude things and walk away but Mishti is not Meenu.
Abir's goal is to maintain peace at home while ensuring that everyone gets their fair rights. He has stirred hornet's nest by encouraging Kunal to accept Parul. Suddenly everyone is Meenu's target. He is looking for Mishti's support and understanding but Mishti is stuck in her sisterly fight with Kuhu though in all fairness none of it is her fault or initiated by her. She also suddenly seems completely oblivious to Meenu's manipulation or her husband's challenge/feelings. It is interesting to me when Meenu pulled off the nautanki to act like Parul, everyone was busy manaofying her but Abir stood back looking disgusted by the whole drama. He then walked out and he expected Mishti to follow him. It would have been a great opportunity for them to have a heart to heart and someone as in tune with him as Mishti would have done that but that is not what happened. Mishti first tried to calm Meenu and then was more interested in figuring out who will take flask to Kunal. Abir's disappointment was obvious when he muttered he was upset because Mishti did not come and was dragging their fight from last night. I don't think he was upset at Mishti but rather at whole Meenu situation. He did not share his feelings with Kuhu about the situation as he would have shared with Mishti. Kuhu took his words at facevalue and added some more fuel to fire by complaining about Mishti .
The fight continues to escalate because Mishti sees everything Abir does with a perspective that he is priortizing Kuhu over her, She is concerned that Kuhu might really do something stupid enough to create a huge problem and pose a risk. Abir is looking at everything with the perspective that Mishti is stuck at her petty fights with Kuhu while they are headed for a bigger battle and Mishti is actually giving Meenu chances to create a problem. There needs to be a clear communication between them.
Mishti needs to understand Abir fought for her in his own way so there is no way he can priortize Kuhu over her. Also the relationship between Abir and Kuhu is delicate enough that Abir can protect Kuhu for Kunal but criticizing her is not within his rights . That is Kunal's rights. Also Abir considers Kuhu childish, his expectation from Kuhu is very different than what he has from his smart angry chorni. He forgives Kuhu not only because he is unaware of the whole truth but also because that is the only thing he can do without creating any more rift in the family. It is interesting to me that Abir has not once tried to actively ask or directly engage with Kuhu since his marriage on any issue, it has always been other way around. Mishti suddenly seems to be completely oblivious of the undercurrents in the household and her husband's worry. The property and business are going to become the reason for breaking the family and Kuhu is stupidly becoming a pawn in her obsession to please Meenu. If Mishti continues to engage with her at her level, she will become a pawn too. She needs to share what she wants from Abir-reassurance that she is and will remain the most important person to him and she is not responsible for any fights in the house.
Abir needs to understand Misti is unsure of her her place in RJV household more so when Kuhu takes every opportunity to encroach on her rights as elder daughter-in-law. He needs to understand what Kuhu is doing is childish but increasingly hard to ignore and become a part of? He needs to advise her how and why to ignore and why he is doing the same. He needs to let Mishti know that he is not unaware of what Kuhu is doing. Mishti is losing her confidence and for her to fight by his side, she needs to be reassured. He needs to let Mishti know while he understands why she chose to stay at RJV house and why she forgave Meenu but Meenu has not changed and she will target all of them again. He need to tell her why he expects more from her and how he needs her for the battle ahead.
Ofcourse ...a few days of marriage and everyday is filled with drama and fights...I am not sure that is both of them wished for when the started their life together after a long fight so a little romance would be appreciated. I also see an interesting parallel here to KuKu track- Mishti was unwittingly the underlying reason for the whole marital discord in KuKu marriage. Kunal was unwilling to forgive Mishti for her perceived rejection and move on. Kuhu is now unwittingly the reason of discord in Misbir relationship but the reason is that Abir is willing to forgive Kuhu for all her slights and move on.
I keep reading that Mishti was abused by Kuhu in Mah house. I don't agree with that. Mishti has let down Kuhu several times too though it was not not purpose. In first few episodes, Kuhu and Mishti were to perform together but instead Mishti in her pain forgot and ended up changing the performance on the stage leaving Kuhu looking like a fool. Mishti asked Kuhu to come to perform on Sufi night where Kuhu had hoped to impress Kunal, instead Mishti ended up singing with Abir making Kuhu look like a liar. She brought out Kuhu's birth secret on her Gordhana (I know Meenu manipulated her but think of Kuhu's emotions at that point). BTW Mishti gives as good as she gets from Kuhu, only her delivery is more mature and subtle.
Lastly the most interesting comment for me in last few episodes actually came from Kunal, when he seemed unsure of Kuhu's love for him. I had mentioned before that it is unclear to me if Kuhu really loved Kunal because she does not have taken time to think this through. Also I don't think she understands Kunal yet, if she did she would have understood her husband's dilemma instead she is busy rejecting Parul and sucking up to Meenu.
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