A long winding weekend post

Hi guys,

I have made a really long post to post today. Could not conclude it in the manner I wanted to but hope you guys enjoy reading!

Also am writing this post with two episodes still pending to watch. I somehow wanted to finish writing before I lost the motivation to do so. So letting "half knowledge be still some knowledge" for a day :P here goes the rambling-

I feel Mishti has been made to believe that she has to be a certain way. The ideal, obedient elder child who would not do anything that brings an ill name to the family. As and when she faulters BP and BM are quick to move on from the mistake made, they do not want to dwell on where Mishti erred. In their own world Mishti adheres to the idealistic personality they believe her & expect her to have. The realization that they are making her succumb to the kind of person they want her to be does not quite register (even if it does register the thought does not stay)

I find Mishti struggling with the burden of this very expectation (even tho the struggle is not shown in a prominent way) The latest example could be the best example ever. She was clearly not too enticed about the idea of sharing her wedding day with her sister. She still said YES. And after agreeing, sitting beside Kuhu could not hold herself from asking "Ab khush?!" (Are you happy now?!)

The scene that transpired between the sisters after this was something that I found very interesting.

Mishti makes up her mind to not to fight with Kuhu or react to anything that she says because it's her (Mishti's) wedding day and she doesn't want to spoil it by picking up a fight.

Kuhu informs her that she has made the set of bangles for her (Mishti) too (something which was Kuhu's own way of initiating a talk) On noticing that Mishti is lost in her thoughts, Kuhu again tries to confront Mishti.

She wanted Mishti to admit that she has been hurt by her demand (of getting married with Kunal on the same day as when Abir and Mishti were going to get married)

She wanted her to admit it point blank.

From what I perceived about the scene, Mishti wanted to scream that yes she has been hurt. Deep down perhaps she was saying it outloud to self that yes, she did not want to share her wedding day with Kuhu.

But outwardly she negated what Kuhu was confronting her to admit. She tried to convey that it was no big deal to her to be sharing her wedding day with her sister.

She suppressed her actual feelings.

What Kuhu wanted to say was that I do know that I made an unfair demand. I did say hurtful things but it's not that I don't care that you are affected. I know you are.

It could be that this is just me feeling this way but in Mishti's vehement denial that she was hurt and Kuhu's not so robustly affectionate but sincere attempt still, to get to know if Mishti was okay, I couldn't help but sense an allegiance.

They were both trying to give each other the impression that they do not care about what the other person was saying or doing. But deep down the reality seemed different.

Was the wedding day the first such encounter for Mishti, where she didn't want to share what was rightfully hers? I guess it was the first time ever that I saw her displaying a certain possessiveness in not wanting to share something with Kuhu.

In a weird way, I do relate with the struggle Mishti goes through in not being able to say a firm, unequivocal 'No' even if saying 'Yes' leads to attaining something at great personal expense. In real life we might not get the opportunity to change the choice once made, we might have to live with the bad decision once taken. But this being a show, Mishti does get the opportunity to hold onto something or someone dear to her, even if a drastic step earlier has made her go away from them. And once she gets that chance she does not let it go. Both sisters are alike in the manner that both try to desparately hold on to love and the people they love.

Which is what Kuhu (sometimes indirectly, sometimes directly) tries to say too - You are just like me. You want love and want to be with the people we love as much as I do. Just that when you say it, it's being #MishtiMahaan but when I say it, it's selfishness.

"Kuhu sabse itna pyaar karti hai" Kunal kept on saying that day and it is something so true. She is looked at as an immature daughter by her family (who are totally unaware of the difficult situations she has dealt with singlehandedly, even if now they do have a whiff of what had happened post her marriage with Kunal)

She was instantly by her Daadi's side to comfort her when grandmom was blaming herself for something which wasn't her fault.

She agreed to help Naanu without any second thoughts if that was what he wanted her to do.

No matter how hurt she might have been by his words or actions, she always reached out to Kunal whenever he found himself going through a tough phase.

We even saw her feeling revolted when Abir called Mishti "a girl from broken family".

Deep down this is a girl who is very caring and loves her family wholeheartedly. But unfortunately her family has never really been observant of her thoughtfulness.

For Mishti and Kuhu to get through to one another, the struggle is real. And yet I felt it was interesting when the sisters were being schooled by Varsha & BM on how to be together in sasuraal and that scene was parallely shown with a scene of Abir and Kunal (who were both in a happy, jolly mood getting ready for their respective weddings) The audience was perhaps supposed to get the impression that while Abir and Kunal are brothers in arms, who can live and die for each other, Mishti and Kuhu do not get together at all. (BM even had two cents to give on how MishKu should enhance the love between the brothers, ironically they see two warring sisters right in front of them and yet they do not have any such ideas to give to mend the relationship between sisters themselves 😆)

The girls even sat a bit distantly when asked to pose together. And Lord knows that they would only be further pitied against each other in the in-laws family.

Yet scratching the surface of that scene I could only think that it's initial impression was deceptive (not referring to the one which showed that Kuhu is not understood by her family) - ofcourse there is every chance of me being hyperimaginative here.

I feel at some point we might get to see that the brothers aren't as inseparable as the storyline suggests them to be. And the sisters might still manage to connect despite of all the rifts. Coz when have Mishti and Kuhu needed to become besties to team up.

Abir and Kunal's relationship is like that thin thread which can get caught up in flames lest Kunal decides to withdraw his steadfast loyalty. Whereas Mishti and Kuhu's relation has always been at the edge of fires and flames but has still managed to not get perished. #iKnowTheLastBitWasALilTooMuch #butReally #IdoFeelSo !

Am so sorry, with everything that is going on in the current track I still ended up ending the post on this unexpected, anticlimactic note. But so glad could write down my thoughts in such a manner after long :)

Thank you so much for reading!

Hey there.. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here. I might not agree to Mishti not saying no. Maybe like how Kuhu reacts to her indifferently she does the same too - as she said in one of the epis I'm rude to you coz you are mean to me.

Mishti has always been shown as a strong person- she had the courage to say No to Kunal during the GD and I like her for that. She gives it back to Kuhu sometimes when she feels it's going overboard with baseless accusations.

Maybe, Mishti feels Kuhu has been hurt with the divorce thing coming out via her and she felt giving Kuhu what she wants might let go off her guilt. But I agree not at the expense of your marriage. She should've at least told her yes I'm hurt but you got what you wanted. This would've made Kuhu feel guilty instead of the way she is right now thinking Mishti stole the limelight.

@beguiling: Thanks for creating this post, Nikkie!! While I was reading your post, it felt like somebody had written down my POV on the scenes.

I find MishKu's relationship so fascinating because of the fact that on the surface level, they behave so differently to how they are actually feeling. #AndarSeKuchAur&BaaharSeKuchAur

I do have a few more points left in my 'POV bag'. Personally, I think that Mishti feels an obligation to behave as her BP and BM would in a situation. They have been her idols since the time she came to the Maheshwari household. Even though she doesn't want to share the Mandap with Kuhu, she says yes because that would be the fastest, easiest and non-confrontational way of ending things and moving forward. She does the same thing when Kuhu asks her while they both are getting ready.

Also, I think she doesn't want to create a fuss over something she wants because she feels obliged to repay the "ehsaan" at every turn, even if it means adjusting. If you notice, Mishti always adjusts, not sacrifices. She keeps adjusting till the time she is in over her head and there is no choice left but to tell the truth. To clarify, by 'in over her head', I don't just mean situation wise but emotionally too. For example, during the NishMish wedding track, she felt emotionally overwhelmed when she was worried for Abir's safety. She first waits for Kuhu and Kunal to let her know if he is safe or not and when she doesn't get a response by the time BM comes to check on her one final time before the wedding, she starts pleading with her to let her go search for him.

In case of Kuhu, I think all she wants is Mishti to realise and acknowledge how she feels when she has to share something important with Mishti. She needs that one acknowledgement from her side and I feel she would have let it go. I realised this after reading @sam's post on the KuKu AT that Mishti never shares what she is feeling with Kuhu. Kuhu is literally guessing all the time what is going on in Mishti's mind and then the few times she decides to trust Mishti's word, she goes and does something completely opposite, the most recent example being rejecting Nishant after constantly assuring Kuhu that she would marry him. I think that unpredictability and Jasmeet's constant thirst for drama gives wings to Kuhu's existing insecurities about being the second to Mishti.

Regarding AbiNal, I don't know to what extent I support the theory because we've seen Kunal being insecure a fair bit since the beginning but Abir sacrifices everything for Kunal in a split second. So, it's hard to judge on that front.

@nami: I don't think Mishti felt guilty about accidentally revealing the divorce news because in her mind, she was trying to help Kuhu and that suddenly exploded into something completely different. I get that the divorce truth came out without her meaning to expose it but she was never even shown to feel even an ounce of remorse for invading someone's privacy. She literally turned Kuhu's cupboard upside down trying to find the envelope. That really does make me annoyed with the makers and our Indian society in general that people don't understand the concept of privacy. #JoTeraHaiWoMeraHai🤷🏻‍♀️

I feel the 'rude..mean' thing comes back to Kuhu seeing Mishti as unpredictable. Since she doesn't know what to expect from her, she starts expecting the worst. Also, I noticed one thing, Kuhu only reacts like that when something Mishti does might affect her in even the smallest way, otherwise she doesn't give a hoot and tries to actively avoid anything and everything related to Mishti. As much as I have been able to understand Mishti, it feels like Mishti doesn't realise that Kuhu is trying to provoke her for a reaction (specifically talking about the bangles scene here) but since she already feels uncomfortable about sharing her feelings with Kuhu as she sees herself as the responsible elder sister, she shuts Kuhu out. What I am basically trying to say is Mishti's reactions might not be completely dependent on Kuhu's rudeness but also her not wanting to be vulnerable. Also, I think she feels due to Kuhu's past behaviour that if she tells her how she feels, Kuhu will just mock her rather than empathising.

Hi guys,

Been meaning to make a post since long after this one but then I decided to simply continue on this thread.

Have lots to say brb !

Originally posted by: beguiling

I do not understand what Mishti is trying to achieve by being stubborn about the whole photo frames or coffee spiking matter. She would only put the matters to rest after seeing Kuhu get berated? :-/ Sucks !!

Are we really questioning Mishti for not putting up with Kuhu's innocent bachapana and wanting to show her husband the reality?!

LOL can't believe this is also somehow a Mishti issue

Not everyone is charmed by Kuhu's awesomeness like Abir to think that she is God's greatest gift to mankind and needs to be cherished. Unfortunately Mishti can see through Kuhu's bachapana 🤓

But in any case, Kuhu won't be called out for anything. After all, what has she even done? Just broke a little photo frame or spiked someone's drink galti se or pushed someone from a height... no big deal! If we pretend she didn't do it, it never happened!

She will always be pure and innocent, her bond with AbirBro will remain intact and her worshiping will continue in the RV house!

Abir will leave Mishti before he lets his bro down 👍🏼

Originally posted by: SheThought

Are we really questioning Mishti for not putting up with Kuhu's innocent bachapana and wanting to show her husband the reality?!

LOL can't believe this is also somehow a Mishti issue

Not everyone is charmed by Kuhu's awesomeness like Abir to think that she is God's greatest gift to mankind and needs to be cherished. Unfortunately Mishti can see through Kuhu's bachapana 🤓

But in any case, Kuhu won't be called out for anything. After all, what has she even done? Just broke a little photo frame or spiked someone's drink galti se or pushed someone from a height... no big deal! If we pretend she didn't do it, it never happened!

She will always be pure and innocent, her bond with AbirBro will remain intact and her worshiping will continue in the RV house!

Abir will leave Mishti before he lets his bro down 👍🏼

But Kuhu's actions were called out. By Mishti herself. And Abir later addressed the whole thing in his own way. Kuhu admitted to Abir she got scared and apologized to him and Parul as well.

If Mishti still doesn't want to let the matter go because she wants the whole family to learn the truth then am not really getting the logic here for wanting so. It only conveys that Mishti wants to see Kuhu getting berated coz that would in some ways satisfy her ego or make her feel superior.

I liked how Abir was understanding towards Kuhu. He handled the situation well without letting it slip out of hands but he was being a tad too impatient in not hearing out what Mishti had to say. It would be good if they have a conversation like the one they had post their first fight after marriage..and I sure hope Abir would patiently make Mishti understand that why is he adopting such a approach. I dislike how Mishti was adamant about seeing Kuhu getting punished but everyone deserves to get their feelings acknowledged/addressed instead of constantly seeing the one person they are counting on the most to act as being dismissive. For all the tall promises made Abir can atleast listen to his wife even if he doesn't agree with her.

Originally posted by: beguiling

But Kuhu's actions were called out. By Mishti herself. And Abir later addressed the whole thing in his own way. Kuhu admitted to Abir she got scared and apologized to him and Parul as well.

If Mishti still doesn't want to let the matter go because she wants the whole family to learn the truth then am not really getting the logic here for wanting so. It only conveys that Mishti wants to see Kuhu getting berated coz that would in some ways satisfy her ego or make her feel superior.

I liked how Abir was understanding towards Kuhu. He handled the situation well without letting it slip out of hands but he was being a tad too impatient in not hearing out what Mishti had to say. It would be good if they have a conversation like the one they had post their first fight after marriage..and I sure hope Abir would patiently make Mishti understand that why is he adopting such a approach. I dislike how Mishti was adamant about seeing Kuhu getting punished but everyone deserves to get their feelings acknowledged/addressed instead of constantly seeing the one person they are counting on the most to act as being dismissive. For all the tall promises made Abir can atleast listen to his wife even if he doesn't agree with her.

for me kuhu issues should be addressed atleast in between 4 of them... if abir neglects kuhu it will be problem in all 4 relationship... kuhu will do something that sure collapse all relationships... im not saying intentionally kuhu will do but galti se may be she will do which costs everyone...

mishti never does things to calm ego and be superior... if she is saying something to her husband he has to ,listen fully and then take action... he is only in mode of what he listened and dont even want a word about it... and that stupid bang video where mishku are good with each other... they care for each other and they have love but both their issues are so much that they need to be addressed...

meenu will definately bring everything out infront of family for sure... then i really want to see where this matter goes and how many relations will be at stake...

Kuhu and Mishti do love one another. Their love has got buried under years of resentment and unresolved anger. They are now so set in this way, they just cannot find ways to meet in the middle.

Yep, agree with AbiNal Relationship - mentioned it in few of my threads, can't recall which one but if you are interested just look them up. I don't think it will be destroyed but certainly things will be questioned, bad feelings will enter before they come back together stronger than before.

Like I said so many times before...this show does mirroring really well...of relationships, opposite and of lives...😊

Originally posted by: SheThought

Are we really questioning Mishti for not putting up with Kuhu's innocent bachapana and wanting to show her husband the reality?!

LOL can't believe this is also somehow a Mishti issue

Not everyone is charmed by Kuhu's awesomeness like Abir to think that she is God's greatest gift to mankind and needs to be cherished. Unfortunately Mishti can see through Kuhu's bachapana 🤓

But in any case, Kuhu won't be called out for anything. After all, what has she even done? Just broke a little photo frame or spiked someone's drink galti se or pushed someone from a height... no big deal! If we pretend she didn't do it, it never happened!

She will always be pure and innocent, her bond with AbirBro will remain intact and her worshiping will continue in the RV house!

Abir will leave Mishti before he lets his bro down 👍🏼

What’s the point of telling the family about Kuhu’s mistake now that Abir has handled it the way he wanted with Kuhu . Mishti was the one who hid this from family first now why does she want to talk about it when it’s done and dusted especially when Abir feels he has handled his way .

It makes me think more than doing the right think now it has become a ego issue for Mishti . She just wants to hurt Kuhu to get even . It’s definitely doesn’t do any good to the family or Kuhu if it’s brought out at this stage . Do you think if family knows Kuhu’s bitterness towards Mishti will reduce or the problem will be solved . This is what Abir is trying to tell Mishti which she is overlooking because of her ego .

Does Mishti ever realize that the whole wedding mantap drama happened because of her “I am the only one who can fix it “ attitude . If she hadn’t invaded Kuhu’s privacy then she would not have instigated Kuhu . It’s high time both sisters realize their petty fights will spoil the brothers relationship and Meenakshi will be proved right .

You know guys.....😆I am glad Mishti is showing some ego and attitude if at all it is that

Kudos to you Mishti and I guess, If it is not ego then I think its Mishti's bachpana.....Thank God !!!!

I thought ego and bachpana were reserved for only the other characters.

I mean its so mean and unfair of Mishti to show ego and attitude right??? And her timing to show this behaviour also??.... She should have asked permission from Kuhu and Abir before showing any kind of feelings .........

Everyone should berate her for this behaviourand for trying to spoil Kuhu's # perfect image.

She should be a robot or a pet and follow Abir's instructions to a T and should pat Kuhu on the back when she does something else galti se.

I hope then everyone will be able to relate to Mishti 😊