Originally posted by: dramacrazy12
@bold: This is something that has never made sense to me. Actually nothing Meenu does makes sense to me. I get her obsession with power and control but her whole excuse of holding her family together seems fake. This is a classic case of a liar believing in his own lies and such liars are most dangerous because they are delusional. I find it funny because any time Abir or Kunal gets hurt, she is shedding tears in that scene but she is probably responsible in some way for entire heartbreak. I would argue that she does not find pleasure in familial bond but rather enjoys sadistic pleasure in making sure her family is never truly completely happy just like her. They are happy in some ways but not completely and they are constantly aware that whatever happiness they have is at the whim of Meenu. Meenu seems to be numb to all emotions but the feeling of anger and revenge. That is what drives her and makes her feel alive and all important and everyone is a pawn in that game. I would challenge us to find a time in the show when Meenu was not vengeful towards someone or the other for one reason or the other. It seems to be a very harsh thing to say or imagine but if you think about it no one in RJV is truly happy, they have learnt to make do with whatever they have. They have no voice and no opinion. Mishti and Kuhu are biggest threat to her because they are game changers and they have managed to find way to hearts of her sons/enforcers.
Her behaviour with Kunal and Abir surprised me. She chose to break Kunal's heart in the whole Shweta incident and turned him into workaholic zombie. Then she proposed a marriage with some one where he would be rejected or was not a right fit. She then risked calling Shweta back and re-enforcing the feeling of rejection and heartbreak. She got him to fake love and marry Kuhu (all in an attempt to humiliate Maheshwaris and supposedly save Abeer ). It was her bad luck that Kuhu loved Kunal and so withstood all the pain/humiliation and still stuck around until Kunal started feeling something for her otherwise we were headed for a divorce that would have done a lifelong number on Kunal. Now she is trying to get rid of Kuhu too with Mishti...where will that leave Kunal emotionally?
Let us look at Abeer- Meenu never managed to or maybe never truly tried to get Abeer to live with her. My guess is because Abeer was too smart and he was actually the defacto head of the family, His presence would have undermined her so she choose to pretend that she was letting him choose his own path. She blackmailed and did some really borderline psycho stuff to get her to do what she wanted. Where was her motherly love all this time...she cannot be that crazy that she actually could not see his pain but she was willing to live with it and make sure he lives with that pain. She was willing to tie her son to an innocent girl who would never touch the his heart because it was not even a compromise but rather result of blackmail...a marriage that would never have love but was a function of responsibility. Which mother would want that for her favorite son?
She is shedding tear at Kunal's public announcement but did she not threaten the same many times? She is angry because she is losing control and she lost her leverage. Her tactics are not working any longer. Abir will never relegate Mishti to Mami's fate and she will never be that submissive so he is forced to actively enter the battlefield. He needs his second in command, his brother but for Kunal to enter battlefield, he needs to mentally strong and confident. The reveal is first step to it.
I don't think Abeer is doing this in a planned way, it is his instinct in his own words. I wondered why he was so adamant in pushing Kunal for reveal but then I went back to the scene when he sat wondering why Kuhu would ever let Parul be blamed. From a timeline perspective...it should not be more than a month since Parul was taken to jail. Abir is looking at everything with fresh eyes because he is now aware of dynamics that either he ignored or never stayed long enough to see. He is seeing what Parul has been through and how she is an easy target for anyone including her daughter-in-law to point a finger at. He also instinctively knows his mother is involved in some way...the proof is in his mother's presence and facial expression at odd times like when Parul was giving earrings to Mishti. He is out to protect Parul. The only way to bolster Parul is to increase her confidence and give her a voice. No one can do this better than Kunal since his public acceptance means more to Parul than anything. Mishti trusted her instincts and returned the company thus killing one of the potential issues before it created problems. Meenu's face impression was interesting at that time.
There seems to be widespread opinion that Maheshwaris should have been told, I think Kunal himself did not know until that moment what he was going to do. Abir/Mishti instinctively set stage by dressing Parul so that she does not embarrass Kunal. At this point I think both sons and their wives including Kuhu are operating on their instincts/values (good or bad) while Meenu is busy plotting.
There are shows where lead couple disagree, there are MU and they separate to come together again and then there are shows where the lead couple learn from each other and support each other to fight as one unit. I wish that Abeer and Mishti are latter type of couple.
I really really loved your pov.
I have been reading all the comments & was simultaneously agreeing & disagreeing coz i couldn’t refute anybody's claim.
You described everything in a nice way.
Yes,meanu had a bad past.
Bt that never give one the liberty to play with others.and as u said,she is a liar who believes her own lies,i had this weird notion.
Mayb her love story & everything was also her mistake due to this trait of hers??
She is delusional & in that delusion she loved mehul.So,her past was also her doing.
(I know my explaining is really bad here.I'm saying her loving mehul was not a honest mistake, it was more like a typical menakshi Rajvansh doing.she made her own story of folly)
I know i messed up my answer.
Point is, karma is a bitch.u get what u sow.mayb meanu's life was & is miserable coz how she was her whole life?
Bt moving from that i loved How u defended every character.. All four of them.none is doing something drastic,all are infact in their place & doing things they have done all along.. Perhaps a reason why no progress in their marital life!😆
Sounds funny bt this is the truth.our four people are doing their own thing instead of taking their partners into consideration & those are giving space to mu & more problem
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Trust me, i said the same thing just now in another thread.
I love both their idealogies & want mishbir to imeet middle way without compromising too much on each other's beleif.that would be more beautiful. They can be both right & be different & somehow imbibe qualities of their other half
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